why do most male homosexuals, act all camp, while others just get on with it....?

Question

neighbour is a queer, but i wouldn't have known, while others are screaming queens, have no strength in their wrists, and feel the need to all talk like julian clary?

Answer 1

Well you are an ignorant person aren't you? What's with this "queer" attitude? Why can't you just say he's gay? As in the lesbian "world" some are more effeminate than others thus there are some who look and act camp and some who look and act "normal".

Answer 2

I am gay. I am 33. I am also a guy. I like NASCAR, Football, I remodel my own rental properties, I can change my car oil. I know what your talking about though. I don't watch Queer as folk, queer eye for the straight guy, Will and Grace etc.. Give me Law and Order and The Apprentice, ER, Imus in the morning. I am not sure why allot of gay people change themselves and mold themselves into a particular lifestyle so to say. I march to the beat of my drum. If I am drinking, I may become a tadbit flamboyant other than that, I am me--good question

Answer 3

I don't know how many gay people you "know" but I suspect it isn't many and that you are not a fan. Otherwise, you would not have deliberately used the insult "queer".
I know a lot of overtly camp men, who insist that they are straight, so it looks as though gay's ( though I am sure you will appreciate that I am not the official spokesperson for "my people") do not have the monopoly on being camp. Perhaps the "Julian Clary" impersonators are really straight - have you thought of that Mr Macho?

Answer 4

Hmm, I guess it might vary a little but most of the guys I know who are "not on the scene" are in fact hard to tell apart from a straight guy.

The sterotype that some guys feel the need to live upto is puzzling - but I think it is happening less thse days - OR more regualt guys are open minded for a bit of a fiddle and fumble with a mate too.

Most of the guys I know who I have played around with do not "camp it up" and certainly do not sound like JC :)

Perhaps the camp ones have something they are still trying to prove - even if only to themselves?

Answer 5

I Would say theres loads of influences...one of the main things being the place where you live...if your in the UK and you've been to Brighton,Manchester,Soho,Birmingham (i could keep going) then you notice places like the gay villages,triangles...or the places that we feel safe...you go out with friends you get leathered...if like myself and a lot of my friends...who come out early..you tend to go round with girls because most of the other lads dont want to hang around with a "queer"... therefore you end up picking up a few effeminate traits...i'm not camp far from it...but when i was younger i would wear tight tops too much glitter (i cringe now) but we all have phases and all have to find ourselves in alot of cases you first come out and you want the world to know...

At the end of the day who gives a f*** what people are like if you dont like gay people you dont have to sit and be nice...move to another table...or in fact get a life...and some tolerance...we dont squirm if your necking some hefty bird in the middle of the street. If you boiled us down were all the same..flesh,bones and blood...although we'll always wear better shoes!
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Answer 6

Well it seems to me that you don't meet that many gays since I would say that the majority are not camp. The problem is that it is the camp ones that stand out whilst the rest of us do get on with our lives without screaming out that we are gay. I kept my sexuality hidden from straight friends and family for 25 years even though I was out and about on the gay scene and had many gay friends.

Answer 7

I think there are a lot more gay people than we realize. Many I know are very hard to detect. I think that many that act 'campy' do so for attention. I don't believe in bumper stickers, or advertising what you believe in or what your opinions are. Many are well too willing to advertise their sexuality, politics, honor student, etc...I feel that what you do in person is more important than what you advertise. Regarding sexuality...I"m gay becuase I'm attracted to men, not women - therefore I don't understand the femme act, nor do I appreciate it. Follow me on this one (it ties in)...Not to sound racist - the whole ebonics thing gets to me too...where does that accent come from? I was born, and raised in the same place for 3 generations as my neighbor, (who is black). (His brother has absolutely no ebonics, btw) Where does the ebonics accent come from? (heres where it ties in) Is it to identify with a certain group? To show some sense of pride vs. adversity? Maybe that's why some gays act campy. Another idea is that maybe they don't have any good gay role models. Most of us that don't 'advertise' that we are gay, are somewhat undetectable. I also feel that many gays are rejected by their families early on. They go on to live their lives on their own and live somewhat of a 'selfish' life. Not having children, or other family members to be responsible for. This leads to a life of a lot of partying, living life for fun, and conforming only to their circle of friends, not allowing one to become 'well-rounded'. I don't mean to stereotype...but the 'campy' act certainly stereotypes homosexuality for the rest of us. IMHO.

Answer 8

You say yourself that you wouldn't have known that you neighbor is gay. Other than noticeably effeminate gays, what makes you think you know which people are gay and which aren't? You would have to know that to know that "most" male gays are effeminate.

Face it, you have a stereotyped idea of what a gay man is and rather than recognize that as a stereotype that applies to some gay men, you insist that it's an accurate characteristic that applies to most. Why? Because you might have to consider that your stereotyped ideas about gay men may be wrong and most people would rather try to find a way to accommodate their biases than admit that those biases are wrong.

Answer 9

Perhaps it's just your perception of gay men. The majority of gay men I know, are my friends, are respected, are in full-time jobs in all walks of life, and are in long term partnerships. I would imagine it depends on their personality just like 'normal folk '~ drama queen doesn't necessarily apply to gay men I few of my female friends can wear that title. The only so called camp men I've seen are on the TV and they make a living out of their campness with their very sharp wit. I have certainly been in gay bars and I've noticed certain customers 'play to the gallery' when there are unknown straight customers in their bar who visit out of curiosity.

Answer 10

I can give you some possibilities. In my country, some would be straight acting or discreet for fear being ostracized or discrimanated upon. Others does not care in the world and is proud of their sexuality. There are also cases of straight guys who later realize they are gay or bisexual and remain their straight acting ways. Each person has its own story, it really depends.