what is ya'lls opinion on spouses who continue to look at pornography even after they have promised to stop because it bothers the other spouse?
2006-12-10 01:40:45 · 13 answers · asked by RJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That the other spouse needs to lighten up it's just porn unless he's got an addiction, who cares? Geez.
2006-12-10 01:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally I'd rather my spouse watch that instead of sitting in a bar looking to pick up another woman but for those that don't like their spouse watching them and they confront their spouse with this I feel if their spouse still intends on watching them then they shouldn't make a promise to their spouse that they will not. A marriage takes communication with one another and if there can't be this in the marriage then what do they really have?
2006-12-10 01:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking promises is not good but why does it bother the other spouse if he/she looks at porn? Are you equating looking at pornography as infidelity? It is not. Some ppl like to look at attractive men and women. Is that wrong?
Don't feel inadequate about yourself. Keep your love life active and enjoy.
2006-12-10 06:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pornography is just as addictive as coffee, soda pop, and some drugs. It also destroys the family structure just as much as drugs have. If it's Internet porn, then you need to lose the computer. If he has magazines hidden under the bed (yes we all seem to go through this) then it's a bit more difficult. I'm afraid you will need to do something drastic to change your situation. NOT DIVORCE! Just try sleeping elsewhere until he changes. Or, bring up porn in every conversation for awhile. Right now he thinks it's just a bother, not something intolerable. THAT'S the message that needs to come across!
2006-12-10 01:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't think the spouse should try and change the other if they like to look at pornography why does that bother you so much, do you feel inadequate.
2006-12-10 01:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So long as it doesn't choose pornography over you when given the choice, there's nothing wrong with pornography.
The problem in this situation is he broke a promise to you. This is something you need to bring up.
2006-12-10 02:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to introduce that to the other spouse and enjoy it and look at it together and maybe the two of you can do some role playing and that spouse will enjoy it then...
2006-12-10 08:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude needs therapy, no question about it. But then on the other hand, maybe it is just a diversion for the everyday rigors of life, kinda like visiting fantacy land. Ask yourself does it make you angry, or do you find it disgusting? If it is of no consequence, what difference, as long as it isn't harmful to either of you.
2006-12-10 02:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive in keeping promises and if you make one without intending to keep it you are dishonest. Dishonesty will break a relationship down very quickly.
2006-12-10 01:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by jacqui w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it should matter who looks at porn, but if it starts causing problems in your relationship, then you gotta think, what's more important... porn, or your relationship?
2006-12-10 01:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by ?Johanna Loves Superman? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋