i have this bestfriend[guy]. ive known him since..forever! today,i realized, i LOVE him..but the problem is, theres this girl in my class whom he likes and he talks about it with me..he asks for advice and stuff like that..i want him to be happy and i know that if you love someone, you have to let them go..what would you do if you were me?
2006-12-10 01:39:30 · 13 answers · asked by jojo16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't ruin the friendship if you tell him your true feelings it might mess up everthing.
2006-12-10 01:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to consider the fact that he cares about someone else. You can't be selfish and tell him how you feel right NOW, you wouldn't be considering his feelings or respecting him...
He has a loyalty to you as a close friend and visa versa, so I think you would jeopardize this if you said something now.
He trusts you to have good judgement, so don't betray his trust. When he is over this girl, then you can tell him how you feel and not until his emotions are free from any other relationship....
You can't be selfish here.. you must be patient....
2006-12-10 09:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you... i will be veri upset...
I know you would want him veri badly... but wat's the point?? There is this chinese proverbs : 'You can have him physically but you don't have his heart'
When a guy keeps talking abt the gal he is interested in, that gal is veri much in his heart and has occupied the place...this shows that the gal has a veri importance placing,sad to say...
So if you really love him,juz let him go and give him your ultimate blessing to him and the gal, that, my fren is the greatest way of loving him....
the other part of the saying is :'... if he comes back to you, he is yours to take' - to say at the rite place and at the rite time, if Heaven permits, you will be together again much stronger than before and more purposeful,agree?
Be more open to the people around you, your friends and colleagues... who knows, you will meet the one who will love you and you will reciprocrate back to him for loving who he is
Quote of the day for you: 'You can rush all things but as for love, it can't be rushed at all.'
2006-12-10 10:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by ~be aspired!~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about whether you really want him.
Can you imagine yourself going out with this guy?
Can you imagine yourself kissing this friend of yours?
Or are you guys just better off on talkable terms?
Also, I'd suggest you don't say your feelings yet but still, encourage him and be there for him. He'll realise one day that he likes you for who you are and might actually fall for you. Trust me.
Don't spill your feelings right yet as you might scare him off, it being too sudden.
Once you're certain that you really want to be with him and when he doesn't really have any crushes, then you tell him.
Good luck! (;
2006-12-10 09:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Coin Soup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would walk up to that guy . Ask him out and tell him - Always be with someone who loves you than being with someone whom you love. It pays later
2006-12-10 09:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rahul S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've known him a very long time. Are you SURE you want him as a boyfriend, or are you just alittle 'jealous' of him being interested in another girl? Be honest w/ this one. Think about it, then make your next move.
2006-12-10 09:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i'm u,i'll show alittle bit of my love for him,in different ways without saying it,give him passion of love not as he used to from u
2006-12-10 09:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by lancelot_sword_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go for him or tell em anything unless he liked me back. I think you should stay quiet, maybe he'll start liking you one day. But if you tell em now then that could ruin your friendship, it happened to me once.
2006-12-10 09:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by stephen12992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep with him. Then he'll forget about the other girl. A bird in the hand...
2006-12-10 09:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd write him a secret note and slip it in is locker
like this
roses are red
vilolets are blue
you may not know it
but i love you to
2006-12-10 10:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋