Women Only!!!!!?

Question

I asked the question eariler whetere you have more male or female friends, from what I'm reading I'm getting the impression woment don't get a long very well?

Alot of you said that other women were gossipy or b*itch*y or cat like?

Is this true?

What's the real Deal Women?

Answer 1

I agree that I tend to have more male friends. But I should mention that my few female friends, are usually the friends that I'm the closest to.

I agree that a lot of other women can be mean, but what I really don't like is passive aggressiveness, or just being nice to you to your face and then ugly behind your back. When I see anyone do that to someone else I know that I don't want to be a good friend of theirs. For some reason men in the US do not seem to act in that way as much. Some do, but for the most part, at least my male friends they just say what's on their mind. It may seem rude sometimes, but that's how I like it I guess.

I just prefer integrity and trustworthiness. I want friends, who I know are my friend, and will not turn on me when I'm not around.

Answer 2

I have very few female friends. And most of the ones I do have aren't that bad. But there are a few that I hate to be around because they are always bitchin!!! I want so badly to say get off your lazy @ss and find a hobby, a job, something to occupy your time and give you something else to talk about beside griping about your husband or your other friends!!! None of my friends are catty, because I hate catty women. They don't make for life long friendships because they will eventually become jealous of you. And yes I do prefer to hang with the boys and play golf, or whatever else they are doing that is active, so long as its not a contact sport.

Answer 3

Yeah its true. I have only one really close female friend and thats because we both share one common bond. --we dont like females as friends. theres usually an underlining competition between women to be more attractive so its kinda hard for women to get along. Especially when both are fighting for the attention of men. Not ALL women are catty and bitchy mind you. I'm not, and I kind of avoid hanging out with women because I dont like confrontation. I feel with my guy friends I can just be laid back and not worry. If a hot guy walks by theyre not trying to get his attention, if a hot girl walks by, im not trying to get hers.

If a girl is a high maintenance, bitchy catty girly type, theres no way im going to get along with her, so I dont try. They talk too much, theyre too worried about being hot all the time, and they think everyone was put on earth to kiss their a sses. Not happening. If a woman is down to earth and cool, not constantly trying to get attention from guys, and can walk by a mirror without stopping to fix her hair, I can get along with her. I just can not stand high maintanence B*tches. Especially the ones who think they need to lower their i.q every time a man is within 50 feet because they'll be "cuter". No thanks.

Answer 4

I have about the same amount of male and female friends. I myself have found that with some of my female friends they feel a need to compete with other females. For instance my one female friend who I also worked with was like this. If there was a guy around she had to hold the attention on herself. She was always trying to belittle the other females in front of the males. But on a one to one basis with her when it was just her and I she'd be the sweetest person on earth. And I'm a female. ;o)

Answer 5

I read some of the other answers before writing this, and they're really sad. I have a lot of female friends. My friends aren't bitchy, and rarely competitive with me. My two best friends are in relationships, so that may explain part of why they're not competitive with me for men (I'm single) but one of them only found her man 6 months ago, and she didn't compete with me before that, either. I'm always there for my friends, and they're always there for me. When my marriage broke up a few years ago, I don't know how I would have gotten through it without them!

Part of the issue could be that women are trained by our society to be very perceptive about emotional issues, so maybe we notice when other women have negative emotions toward us in a way that we can't notice with men, because we don't understand them as well.

Men are also trained to focus on what they're doing, and not on what they feel, so this may make men easier to get along with as long as things stay on the level of doing acitivities together, and don't get too deeply into emotions.

Part of the problem, though, is that men have more power in certain arenas of our society. Generally speaking, they make more money, have more political power, and their increased economic status gives them certain advantages socially, too. (I mean, would we all be writing about how bitchy men are? I don't think so.) So when one group has more power, it's natural for the other people in society to perceive a lack of power and compete for the power that's left. This sets up competition among women, because men's ideas/economics/approval is what our society says is important, so women compete for that approval. Some women compete essentially by saying "I'm not like other women. They don't deserve power, but I'm not like them, so I do." This strategy is successful up to a certain point, but then women hit that same old "glass ceiling" and they're stuck. When women realize this, and make allies of other women instead of competitors, some are able to make it through the glass ceiling and help other women to break through, too. (After all, that's how men succeed. Successful men mentor younger men and help them along.)

Until our society has more equality between the genders, women need to stick together. Competing against each other just makes it that much harder to get through the day!

Answer 6

People of the same sex always have a competition going among themselves: who's the prettiest, strongest or sexiest. I find that with another woman, I can never be completely at ease. With a man, its different. Plus the slight sexual tension in the air - even if the guy is not your lover. I believe men bring out the best in me :))))

Answer 7

some women can be great friends forever. but I thought that me and my former best friend would never stop being friends. then she met a guy, and pushed me aside, and she told my family lies and caused my father not to speak to me for 6 months. you know she went to a prestegious college, had a guy, a nice car, and I was single, no car, went to community college, and you'd think that I'd be jealous, but she was jealous of me. I dont understand why. I think that some girls can't be trusted they are jealous, 2-faced, and will stab you in the back. there are those few girlfriends you have, that have your back forever, but I usually hang with guys, but then the guys end up falling for you...

Answer 8

It is true, at least in my experience; I work in an office full of women over 40. I'm 26. It's ridiculous the amount of gossip that goes on there; and I prefer to stay in my little cubicle and pretend I don't hear the chatter.

Answer 9

Women are really bitchy, I have more female than male friends because male friends are harder to keep cos sex or other male female issues always get in the way.

Answer 10

Not all women are shady, thank God, but there are a lot of women who are so I choose carefully the people that I'm around. I've had more problems with women than I have ever had with any man.