we dated for 1.5 yrs.he was sort of a jerk at first,but he changed for me.he did anything i wanted.then he mentioned marriage but i wasn't ready.i broke up with him for 5 months but only bc i had to go away.we got back together afterwards.our parents/friends didn't like it.i broke up with him again and this time he moved on. he still called me and one time lied to me by saying he was going to dump her and coerced me into sex (he cheated on her).i was angry but glad that he cheated (i know this makes me mean but it's human nature).his girlfriend never found out but dumped him the next day for other reasons (he was selfish and tried to change her). a week later he and i are still hanging out/having sex,but we both started dating new people.he really likes this new girl he's dating but i can't move on.last night i partied with friends and drunk-txted him saying life is fuucked up bc i still loved him even though i shouldn't.no answer.i found out that new girl was there last night. HELP!!!
2006-12-10 00:49:41 · 8 answers · asked by stelze 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If i can just point out one thing. He cheated on someone else to be with you. In your own words, he LIED TO YOU to get in your pants. That in and of itself is nauseating. Afterwards, she broke up with him so he was available to be with you. And he's not, is he? If he wanted to be with you he would be. Him knowing how you feel about him gives him the upper hand and he has obviously used it repeatedly. You've basically told him that anytime he wants to he can crawl into your bed, no strings attached. This makes him a loser for taking advantage of your vulnerability. Why would you want to be with a loser? You MUST be able to do better than him.
2006-12-10 01:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay after the many break ups he probably is a bit gun shy. I would learn from this experience and cut your losses. If it is meant to be it will be. You need to make up your mind first. It is not fair to him that you go back and forth like that. He holds onto the thought of being with you only for you to break up with him again. It seems as though you only want him back when you find he's with someone new. Is this fair? I would examine your feelings carefully and ask yourself if you really do want him or not. If you do then tell him and don't do the back and forth thing again. As far as your family goes don't let them prevent you from being happy. You have to go for your heart's desire. If it is to be it will be.
2006-12-10 08:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a jerk! Move on! Sure he can be charming at times but whats to say that he won't do the things to you that he did to his other girlfriends.
2006-12-10 08:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you two are playing with each other at the rate your going someones feelings are going to get hurt.
2006-12-10 10:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really liked him u wouldn't be dating right now and if he really likes u he wouldn't be dating any one right now. Talk to him and see if he wants to be in a relationship with you or if he just wants to be friends with benefits.
2006-12-10 08:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by blackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what!!both of you shuld not return to each other(at least for one year ..may be!!)..because you need long time to trust each other again..and to be sure that you and he are compatible together..go on on yor life and try to change yourself
.. really both of you needs to change..by the time you will fingd your soul mate.. ;)..
2006-12-10 09:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both bad for each other, as you keep hurting each other. I would move on
2006-12-10 08:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life never ends for some one ...i think .
2006-12-10 09:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by greatmangentletrue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋