I broke up with my ex-boyfriend two months because he wasn't treating me right. He never appreciated the sacrifices I made and was never there for me when I needed him most.
When I broke up with, he became sad and depressed. He said he was sorry and everything and begged me to give him a second chance. I didn't in the first place. Somehow, he tried to lure me back by changing his ways and be the person I would love. I fell into his trap.
Now, that I have fallen for him again. He starts treating me like dirt. He told me that he never expected that I will fall for him again and the fact that there are more important things to do right now than to fall in love.
I feel like crap at this moment. I think he's manipulating my emotions in some way. I think he wants me be the vulnerable one (the dumpee) rather than he himself. He's has this big ego that I reli hate. Can anyone give me good advice of what to do now?
2006-12-10 00:26:32 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me get this straight?
1. Bf treats you like dirt
2. You uninstall bf#1
3. He plays nice
4. You reinstall bf#1
5. Bf#1 treats you like dirt again
What part of "leave this loser" don't you understand?
2006-12-10 00:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop waisting your time and leave him alone...
He is not worth the effort...If he is not doing anything for you and all you do is give, if you stay, it will be like that forever....
One thing I can say is never let anyone put you in an emotional state and gain that much control over you...
Once you leave that fool, the next person you date, ask yourself, can I see myself marrying him?Does he make me feel like no other man has made me feel?
If you answer yes to the questions within a reasonable amount of time after getting to know that person, invest the time, if not, don't waist your time....
Too many of us meet people and waist time as you know when you meet that person if you may have a chance...
2006-12-10 17:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I feel like crap at this moment. I think he's manipulating my emotions in some way."
You aren't respecting yourself enough, and that's the reason why you're in pain right now. Start off right. Leave him. Hold your head high. Look the creep in the eye and say it to his face. Get a friend along when you do that, just in case he gets violent. Leave him for good. Don't worry, he's too much of a sissy to do anything. Coz real men know how to treat their girls. And if he does get funny, call the cops.
Concentrate on your work and have faith in God. Things WILL get better. Better wait for them.
Lots of blessings and prayers for you! Take care and make me proud.
2006-12-10 08:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Maverick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just accept the fact that you are a better person than he is right now and leave him and all the trouble behind. just stick to your guns and move on, girl. you deserve to be treated with respect and love and kindness, and you were correct to make the decision the first time. so, you gave him a second chance and now he is blowing it big time with you and truthfully, he sounds not good enough for you, to be honest. you sound like a caring person who has morals and feelings, more than it sounds like he has, so be done with him and all your past together and just start over again, fresh, without him in your space to screw things up.
file him away in a locked drawer and don't look back. ever!
he sounds like a jerk, excuse me. you sure deserve happiness.
don't worry, you won't be lonely. don't let him toy with you or your emotions any longer. bid him goodbye and i wish you lot's of happiness. now go have fun, already!
2006-12-10 08:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by lrfoster7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself. It has to be a win win situation. If its not winning for you, its not going to get mysteriously better so make some changes and feel good about yourself. It sounds like you could before so do what's right for you. Life is too short to live in the shadow of a weak partners ego.
2006-12-10 08:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by RuffNTuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now and don't look back-ever. He's manipulating you in a big way-it sounds as if he may be verbally abusing you. Big ego (delusions of grandeur), putting you down to make himself look better, depression...sounds a little like Bipolar Disorder to me...does he spend money impulsively or go from completely calm to really agitated for no reason? It's not you, it's him...dump him now.
2006-12-10 08:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by beachlovers5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk and an idiot. Dump him. He is manipulating you. Your instincts are correct. He wants to keep you under his thumb. This is a sick individual. Cut contact with him. This wil not get better as long as you keep playing the game with him. And he won't change for you. The pain of breaking up is less than the pain of him messing with your head. Move on.
2006-12-10 08:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is a jerk you don't need him. You sound like a nice person get out there and find a good guy who will love and respect you. I am so tired of guy's miss treating women. They need to be loved and taken care of. A good women is the best thing a guy could have.Good luck honey.
2006-12-10 08:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, honey.
Don't look back.
Write a list of all the bad things he is doing, how his actions make you feel down, and whenever you are tempted back by him, read that list, remember the pain you are in and KNOW that if you went back to him, it would only be a matter of time before you started feeling that way again.
Walk away, honey.
Don't look back.
2006-12-10 08:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, grow up, stop your whining and stop thinking you are some princess. Maybe you are as he treats you. Maybe you have far too high of an opinion of yourself. It isnt a sacrafice if you throw it up to someone. Infact, doing as you should or what is right is doing nothing more then what you should do, which they dont give medals for. His ego is probably no worse then yours truth be told. Maybe you just dont like the competition or you dont like someone being able to walk off from you instead of you dumping them.
2006-12-10 08:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋