ok i got linked up with this guy. in a nutshell he was/is married (in the process of being divorced). why do i feel like it's my fault? he didn't leave her for me because she filed for the divorce. it had nothing to do with me and they were already on the end when i came along. should i feel bad? could me being around have stopped him from trying to make it work? i love him to death and i told him that if he really loves her and wants to be with her then he should go and try and make it work. he said if she wants one, then he'll give it to her. why am i feeling weird?
2006-12-10 00:18:42 · 7 answers · asked by flacadiaz4eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't worry you're not the only one with this problem. For one it's not your fault. Their marriage didn't work out and sadly it's over for them. He has the right to be with whoever he wants. Don't feel bad girl. What you need to worry about is him. He might be lying to both of you about something or he is a cheater.
2006-12-10 00:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself was this relationship really over when you came into the picture or was you just a fall back person some one just in case the divorce did come threw because that's what it sound like because you said that he said if she wants one then i will give her one not that he wanted one so be careful
2006-12-10 00:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by funnecee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because you did have a Little bit to do with it even if he said they were about to break up just you being around made it easy for him not to try but if he want to give her a divorce and be with you be careful after yall relationship gets old then he might start to think about his wife and wonder if he made the right choice to leave her or is you the right one for him
2006-12-10 00:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was already over, it not ur fault, if his wife wanted him back she would have made it clear by now. dont feel guilty, but try to find out why she divorce him! that may save u heart ache in the future.
2006-12-10 01:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling guilty because he tricked you and lied to you and got you tangled up in something you did not bargain for. It's his fault. He ruined his own marriage by seeking you out in the first place. I twas his place for him to tell you he was married. You are not required to investigate. You ARE however required to leave once you learn the truth.
2006-12-10 00:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes..U are felling the guilt...let an unmarried man find you and leave all this drama..he comes with too much baggage to begin a serious relationship.
2006-12-10 00:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Naomi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel weird because the man is undecided.
You love him but he seems to not love you as much.
You think you're a stumbling block to his happiness.
Evaluate your relationship please.. It might be that you love him more than he loves you
2006-12-10 00:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by ilyena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋