My boyfriend lives 8 hourse away. When he came home 2 close girl friends (one who is in love with him) invited him and his best friend to their house and made them dinner. I had no problem with this, I was exhausted and wanted to sleep before the party later, not to mention I don't really like one girl (guess which one). Everything went smoothly untill I told my mom about this the other day and she freaked out. She says that I'm an important part of his life now, if we are considering moving in together than I should be invited to everything he is. I said it was ok for me to allow him and his friends alone time. But now it is bugging me. Should I ask to be invited to things that he is? This is the only event that I can think of (besides boys night) where I have been excluded. I don't want to be the jealous girlfriend but then again, We've never excluded anyone's girlfriend from an event either....
Please respond!
2006-12-10 00:12:04 · 7 answers · asked by heygabrielle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
look dont let others run your life let alone your relationships thats when things go wrong for people is when others intrude you are an adult it reads as if you have it in hand so go with it let sleeping dogs lie before your alone
2006-12-10 00:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by PASSION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good thing that you dont exclude anyone's girlfriend from an event. But remember that not everyone is like that. So if you are not invited to an event, you have to just respect the decision of the host. Maybe your boyfriend could tell something along the lines of "Can I bring my girlfriend too?". Im sure they wouldnt mind
2006-12-10 08:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by MrRomeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was a definate NO NO! That girl was blatantly obvious in her attempt to cause you guys trouble. I am stunned that your boyfriend went!!!! I went through this same crap with my boyfriend( who is now my husband) when we were dating! He brought me to his town from University and 2 girls were always trying to break us up by doing that exact same crap. We went to a movie and all I heard was Brian remember when you and Leslie...... the whole damn time. Finally I told my boyfriend that there was no rule that said i had to like his friends just because he grew up with them if they were only going to make me feel excluded all the time!!! He agreed when he realized he wouldn't want that to happen with my friends. So today we live in that town and we do not hang out with any of his old friends, we have new ones that share the same interests as us.
Tell boyfriend how that made you feel... girls are mean and they did that on purpose! His friends have to accept you as an important part of his life that cannot be excluded, or else they are not really his friends!
2006-12-10 08:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by councillor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you trust your boyfriend enough to leave him alone with his ex girlfriends. (IF, he's trustworthy). An invite would be nice, yes, but just because you 2 are dating doesnt mean you have to tag along to every little thing he does. Guys need their "alone" time, just like women need theirs. It's perfectly acceptable for you 2 to do seperate things with your friends and not each other. Why is your mother so worried? doesnt she trust him?
If he tells you he doesnt want you coming along I might worry a little, but if he invites, and you turn him down, thats fine. Dont let your mother run your relationship. If things are working out for you the way they are now, why change? If you start trying to live by your mothers rules, it'll drive a wedge between you and your boyfriend.
2006-12-10 08:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dani 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Gabrielle, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but:
1. You aren't as special to him as he is to you
2. How does "Significant other" qualify as a right to be invited everywhere he is?
3. Fact is, with the facts you have given us, he's just the guy you plan to shack up with. No responsibilities either, I suppose.
You are just leaving out too many important factors to make this anything other than a shacking up. YOu need to add love to this equation, then engagement, then commitment and marriage.
Good Luck
2006-12-10 08:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really dont believe you should be invited to everything that he is invited to . You should trust in your man if you plan on making your relationship a more serious relationship then you need to trust him. Believe me everything thats hidden in the dark will come to light in dew time.
2006-12-10 08:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by funnecee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes hun. You should be getting invited to stuff like this....or else your bf shouldn't be going.
He sounds like he's taking advantage of your good nature. You are not being a jealous gf.......but don't be niaive either.
2006-12-10 08:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋