I love her so much "SO MUCH". She used to say she loved me too. Recently she left me, blaming me for all the PROFESSIONAL failures in her life. I just loved her, asked her to marry me. She agreed, but her parents didn't. I always encouraged her, loved her, cared for her, but she blames me that i distracted her form her profession (she's a doctor) by dragging her into the LOVE THING she was never into. She told me not to contact her or call her and just get out of her life as i never existed and let her live a normal life. What abnormality did i bring to her by just loving her. I never touched her, never said anything that could hurt her. Why did she blame me then for all the ills of her life? Was my loving her, a curse for her? Should i do just as she said and forget her? I don't know whether she loved me or not, but i know how passionately I LOVED HER. Plz tell me how i can forget her? Her memories haunt me. But why should i pursue her if she thinks my love just brought her bad luck?
2006-12-09 23:13:54 · 8 answers · asked by Dr. Sam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear Sam,
It is very hard to leave someone whom we love....
But let me suggest you something...
Life is not just that girl.
If she really loves you, she wouldn't have left u alone.
Either she never loved u or she is tooo much worried about her career or she is behaving childishly.
Unless u get an answer to this question, u cannot answer the main question.
What I feel is... She loves you a lot. She feels that it is her bad fate but blames u so that u r not affected by her bad luck when u marry her.
Just take a shower. Pick up a pen and a paper. start writing your feelings about her, based on ur experiences. Also write how she behaved on different occasions.
When you are done with it, just read it. U will definitely get an answer to the question that I asked you. Once u get that question, u will definitely get clues for ur main question.
Dont worry man... God is there with you.
I will pray for ur love success.
Regards,
Cherry
2006-12-09 23:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, dont just forget. Really look at this women, what she has done, how she is and how she acts. Let her be a lesson to you, for she is like oh so many women are today. She used you pal. She is typical. She is only interested in what she wants, what makes things easy for her, what will get her her own way at the time. She is a grown women, a doctor for gods sake, but she claims she didnt have any power or control in what she said, did, etc? (hope she is never a doctor I end up seeing. She might be very dangerous to a patient.)
SUE HER STUPID, ARROGANT *** COMPLETELY OFF AND MAKE HER BLEED. SLAM HER AND SHOW HER AS LITTLE REGARD AS SHE HAS SHOWN YOU. Maybe that will teach her typical *** that she cannot simply try to lay it all on everyone else.
Yeah, you loved her. Good for you. And you got what so many men get when they love a woman. Always keep this women in mind, as a warning. Now go and get yourself lawyered up and take everything to include her white coat.
2006-12-09 23:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not pursue her....leave her alone as she has asked and move on with your life....who knows why she blamed you but it's really not important..what is important is that you have a life to live and you deserve to be happy....so, find someone who will love you back and memories of her and the past will fade with time...good luck
2006-12-09 23:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your rambling and not making alot of sense. I would just leave her sorry ***. I was in a similar situation where I was nuts for the guy and he dragged me down verbally and this that and what not. Despite what anyone tells you, YOU have to be the one to realize that this is going no where. I did nothing but love this man and he couldn't accept it. Don't waste your time anymore on someone who isn't going to love and appreciate you for you. Believe me, it took me yrs to ACCEPT that it wasn't going to work and that he wasn't worth my efforts. So please do yourself a favor and just end it, you will be far better fro it.
2006-12-09 23:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one to answer that's for sure, been there as far as trying to forget. hardest thing i ever encountered..no doubt she didn't love you as much as you did her. not fair to blame you for holding her back unless their's issues that we don't know about, so i would suggest you try to remind her of what it was like when you first met and started to have feelings or do your best to move on..seems nothing takes away the pain but time itself..keep looking forward to the fact that someday soon you will feel much better about this and use it as a learning experience as far as relationships go..very best of luck..chaz
2006-12-09 23:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pursue her. She is using that as an excuse to leave you. It will probably take some time to get over her but you will.
2006-12-09 23:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents control her. Leave her alone, it's the smartest thing you can do.
2006-12-09 23:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on. she doesn't want you.
2006-12-10 00:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋