I am from South India. I have 3 boys ages 14, 12 and 8. All of them got earrings when they were small as per our tradition. They still wear earrings. I took off my earrings after graduation after I started working.
My boys do not mind the earrings and do not want to take them off. In fact my oldest changes his earring from a few sets that he has. So what age should I ask them to take off the earrings or just let it be? These days not too many boys wear earrings after they grow old. However most young boys have hole marks in their ears. Does anyone has boys who has earrings or had earrings?
2006-12-09 22:33:00 · 17 answers · asked by Srini 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
This is to address some people's quesitons and concerns regarding boys wering earrings in India. Somebody answered asking whether this is "GAY" !! And ofcourse the typical culture-bash that went with it.
Muslims and Jews get their sons circumcised at young age as a part of their culture or tradition.
Hindus have a tradition of piercing the ears of their children at the age of 3 or 5. That is a ceremony called "Karna Vedha". Karna means ear ; Vedha means piercing. Anyone can lookup "Karnavedha" in Google and get information about it.
My boys had their Karna Vedha done. They wear earrings from age 3 as a part of our tradition. They are nice and good boys - good in academics and sports and also in social behaviour.
When I had asked my eldest son about whether he wants to keep or take off his earrings (because most of his friends have stopped wearing them), he told me that he is proud of his heritage. "Sikhs wear turbans, so why can't I wear my earrings?"
2006-12-12 20:18:00 · update #1
I am an Indian and know about the Indian culture. So I shall suggest that let them grow out of it themselves. Just make sure that the hole in the ears are not extended because of any heavy piece of earring. Let those holes be simple dots. I have seen many Marathi men whose have a line instead of a hole.
I am sure you have good boys. I am sure that although most of your boys friends have hole marks from wearing earrings while they were small (some may be wearing too), your boys still wear them because they find proximity to their cultural roots in their looks.
Now to answer the questions of some people that do not have any clue of Indian culture and have commented regarding "GAY" stuff about boys / men wearing earrings - please educate yourself. Please visit the following link : http://www.indianmirror.com/culture/cul2.html . This talks in brief about the cultures of different religions in India - Muslims, Christians, Hindus, Jains etc.
In the West, ear piercing among boys is either a sign of fashion or conformation to peers or rebellion. Or as someone suggested being "Gay".
Once you pick up books or visit sites where you learn about the different cultures you will know that not all the people in the world follow American or West European culture. Or best - Travel to different places - you will know that even though people follow different traditions, they are all the same at heart - loving and caring.
2006-12-11 10:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Zen B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Boy Earrings
2016-10-01 23:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them wear the earings. In time they will start to get tierd of the earings and take them off. I have seen a lot of boys now and days with earings, I think it is very nice on guys.
2006-12-09 22:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Britney 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems curious to want to pierce the skin of childen when they have no say in it - but when they like the earrings when they grow up - then insist they come out again !!
I am sure it is a culture thing too - but I suspect your children are perhaps puzzled by this too.
If they wish to keep them in, then I would suggest letting them have their own wishes.
2006-12-09 22:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mark T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I beleive earings were a must for boys in the earlier days ,but nowadays people feel uncomfortable wearing earings.people use to wear earings ,because it helped people to remain calm and in peace.when you pierce through your ears it reduces the tension in your body and makes you calm.
so I think that if your boys dont prefer to get rid off their earings then let them be with it.
2006-12-10 04:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by funny_coolguy1975 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had an ear ring when i was little.. but my parents removed it when i was about 3 or 4....
its really a matter of choice at what age you should take them away.. usually its better to like take it away before they become teenagers... i got one of my ears peirced again at the age of 17.. just for kicks... that was sort of rebellion at home... but if you wish to make it sterile and clean for your kids, you might want to consider taking them away before it becomes more of your choice than theirs...
how do you take them away? here are some pointers.... well i think u have pretty much made it the oldest one's choice if he wants to have one.. cos the harder u try to tell teenagers not to do something they will want to do it more.. you can always lure your 10 year old with some bribe of sort and get it off him... but the youngest one its quite easy, just take it away and tell a crow took it away...
but the question does remain if you really really must take it away.. there are some traditions that are nice man.. may be your family one could say we have ear rings... and its not too much of a bad thing.. i mean... you at least stay close to your roots...
hope that helped :)
2006-12-09 22:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by ramu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its really a matter of your society right now, do the higher paying jobs go to guys with earrings or not? That should give you an idea if you should encourage them to remove them.
2006-12-09 23:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better take that earrings off. Wearing earrings specially among boys (though it is your culture) is not good in the eyes of girls/ladies. I for one don't like my son to be wearing earrings and having hole marks in their ears.
2006-12-09 22:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Vivs 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They should take them off when they feel time is right, same as you did, when you decided to stopped wearing. I took mine off after two weeks of teasing from other children.
2006-12-09 22:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Krishna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spend quality time with him and make it very romantic. on departin after d time spent together, always give him a peck on d cheek with a very good hug and then rest your head on his chest for a while. take your time in pecking and huging him so that he feels it dip down in him. that will make him long for more. as he starts appreciating it, kiss him straight to his lips after sayin goodbye then u walk away immidiately. this arouses his interest the more. then choose a suitable spot someday after having a very wonderful time together. appear lost in his eyes and wen his face responds to it, u bring your face closer and carefully while looking right into his eyes then you kiss him slightly first then you just carry on. make sure you dress very attractive to him each day. you should always appear to him in a way that can always lost his attention while looking at you.
2016-03-29 01:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋