i dont know what i have this feeling right now,i admit im still inluv my husband eventhough he gave me a lot of pain and heartache.sometimes i cant help it to cry especially when when im looking a happy family.My husband betrayed me and cheted me alot of times and now he is living with somebody.he wants to come back with me again but i didnt accept him because everytime im thinking of all the pain he gave to me i feels like he crashing my heart.The LAST TIME i talked to him i said dont call me anymore and dont bother my life and my kids anymore and i told him that i will not push him anymore for the childsupport for our kids,because his not really responsible father for my kids and he also have kids with the other girl,not this new girl.but the mother of his two kids in states they are separated now and have a new one in his life now.i didint know all about this until his mother told me that.i was so stupid i admit it just that i trusted him so much.how can i move on with this?
2006-12-09 22:32:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all you are letting him not be a responsible father to your children when you don't ask for child support. That is the very least he could do for you. Don't deny your children because you are feeling sorry for yourself. Pull yourself up and get on with your life. He will not change. When you start feeling sad about a happy family look at yours and make yours a happy family, you don't need a husband for that and your children deserve that from you. Good luck
2006-12-09 22:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going through a very emotional time right now. Some days are harder than others and it's perfectly normal what you are feeling. But make sure he pays child support, no matter what he has done, he IS still financially responsible for the kids. You were wise in not letting him come back, that was the first step you took in regaining and rebuilding your life. Do the very best you can, someday your children will thank you for being there for them and for taking care of them.
2006-12-09 23:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry your husband hurt you like this. he seems to think with the wrong head on constant basis. i am sorry to say that the pain you are feeling will not get easier imediatly. like every thing it will take time. dont let that stop you thoughkeep your chin up for your wonderfull babies.one day the pain will ease, and you will find someone who will treat you with more respect.
2006-12-09 23:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this very sad i just have to commend you on telling him not to come back. The first thing is it is going to be very had because he was your husband and you have kids by him i can't stand men that do this i seems like every time you turn around here is another story about a good women who fell for an a** hole . first is pray to god and ask him to help you through this painful times then try to focus on those beautiful kids you have and not to blame yourself for the mistakes this boy that you had kids by made he is not a man because he hurt you and not just you your kids because they hurt when they see that someone has hurt their mother even if they don't say nothing about it. what he did was a sin you are not suppose to cheat on especially when your married i would put all your issues in gods hand and he will wipe all those tears away and he will deal with him .. the best thing is that you haven't given up because it seems like your kids only have one parent right now. your strength will not just come from you and God but those kids is what is also going to get you through this. i look at you not even knowing you just by what you wrote on here and can tell that your in pain but your are also strong because some women would of gave up when he first cheated and for you to say to him i had enough and to say to him i won't even ask you for no money for our kids i will be the responsible strong women and do it myself . see i feel he will get his because my mom raised us by our self and my father beat her, treated her like sh** and never took care of us but now we are grown and he has a young child and the lady he has a child with is not responsible so now he is depressed and he has to be a father now feeling what my mom had went through for years and guess who he calls for his advice..... his adult children and his ex wife so we all look at each other and say see he is getting what he deserves for all he put us and my mom through so what trying to say to you is that he will get his in return. and even though we still talk to him and listen to his problems all i do is look up at god and say thanks because i know he was listing to us cry all of those years because of him '
so keep your head up even though the sky looks blue right now in your life the sun will come up
2006-12-09 23:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need todothings...stay busy at whatever you like.....time heals a broken heart...pain in life is inevitable........suffering is optional
2006-12-09 22:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋