i have got to the stage where i cant live with my husband anymore. We have been married 4 years and its been hell. The last year we fight everyday or every minute we are together. We usuailly take a week to speak to each other and then bam we fight again. It has got so bad i hate life. I have told him to go and stay with his parents until we sort out what we will do. He says for me to leave but he is one of these males who cant look after themselves..i do everything....then we have a little puppy who i am also responsible for..i take him for walks, feed him...everything...he gets home late would never walk him and wouldnt take the care in do...so i feel he should leave ...what r your thoughts???
2006-12-09 22:17:40 · 11 answers · asked by nat n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you've got to the stage where you can't stand it then you should leave, but take legal advice first and ask your lawyer to look after the dog.
2006-12-09 22:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, where's the communication? Secondly, if you are not getting anywhere by arguing and yelling, don't you think you should be the better person and sit down to talk to him rationally because a man will not respond to you yelling because he takes it as you trying to become his mom and starts to resent you....
You are upset due to you doing everything....If you just sit down and talk to him maybe you can get some leverage on what if anything you two are going to do about this marriage..If there are any kids, you are affecting the child(ren) emotionally and mentally by yelling and arguing with each other.....
It is about time for one of you to grow up and say honey, can I talk you....you really need to get this situation under control before violence comes into play....
If nothing can be resolved, then if you have children then it is easier for him to leave, but if he flat out refuses and stay there, then it is time for you to make a move.....
2006-12-10 10:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends is this a rental place and no lease? Then I would be the bigger person and take my dog and leave, forget him.
Trust me you will want to have a home with a fresh start anyway, it's nicer that way. He can be left with all the memories.
If it's a lease then have your name taken off and leave.
If it's a home you both jointly own then tell him you are getting a divorce and if he wants to keep the house he will have to buy you out and refinance to get you off of the mortgage.
Good luck!
2006-12-09 22:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your the one that feels you shouldn't be married, you'll have to sit down and figure out who has to pay for everything, or who wants to pay for whatever who wants.
If your keeping the house, and am willing to pay for it, then if he doesn't want it, he should definitely leave, or just the opposite. The same with the cars, etc. You just can't kick him out and say "Ta Ta" he does have certain rights.
It sounds to me like your the one thats running the show and the one that wants the divorce. What seems to be the problem? can't a marriage consular help work things out?
2006-12-09 22:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm... if you can afford it, can you take the dog and leave the home? I think the first primority is to calm down both of you and think what you both should do in the future... I think it is enough flighting between you and the husband, do you feel exhausted? Do you feel tried to argue wtih him? If yes, stop doing it anymore. If he doesn't want to leave, then you leave with the dog... you will lose more if you keep flighting with him
2006-12-09 23:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get legal advice on your rights hon, don't walk out if you are buying a house between you, or if you have any legal obligations between you. Lawyers cost money! So don't let them handle your divorce or anything! All you wish to know is how much money is rightly yours if you separate! Period! It should cost about $200 bucks, any more and they are ripping you off! Have a good day, hon!
2006-12-09 22:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose name is the house/apartment in? Who pays the rent/mortgage? Whose name are the bills in? Do you have a good paying job? Can you afford an apartment and household bills on your own? You honestly need to consult with an attorney about this...I don't want you to end up paying for anything that you shouldn't have to be paying for...(like HIS credit cards, or new truck, etc.)
2006-12-09 22:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was married, I paid for most everything and the ex did nothing. I stayed right where I'm at and he left. I didn't budge an inch.
2006-12-09 23:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to stay?..why not leave -to get the house?..extra money?..you are a women and you will get half do not worry
2006-12-09 22:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by sevenout7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is just ignoring you... may be because he found someone else... you know....... just tying to make you leave him..... If you have someone you love more than him... just leave him.... than he will understand how improtant you were for him....
2006-12-09 22:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by haxxani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋