Whats your core reason on why open sex relationships is bad or good?
Scenario: A very loving couple, planning on getting married in couple of years. They are contemplating whether or not to go ahead with an open relationship. They both dont plan on sleeping around like bunnies or unsafe sex but the open relationship is there for when urges or opportunities arise with someone else.
What do you think?
Ok basically the question is based on my partner and i, just trying to get some feedback.
Im 21yo, hes 22yo... we are best friends and lovers, we are engaged and love each other to death. We have a very healthy, regular sex life.
2006-12-09 22:09:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
they are in it just for the sex,you are not..don't try and keep up with jones..they will be divorced soon,and you won't
2006-12-09 22:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, the main concern is the erosion of intimacy between the two of you. The knowledge that your partner has been sexually active with other women/men (whatever) can diminish the intimacy of the act between the two of you and its emotional value. This may or may not impact the overall quality of your relationship, but I would say that a loss of intimacy in this area does more often than not. Speaking from experience, I do not believe this was the prime reason for the demise of the one relationship in which I tried this. Of course, that relationship ended in a manner that left me very much committed to being single (until I met my fiancée), so I can draw on only that particular relationship. In retrospect, perhaps I would have known that the woman in that relationship was not the one for me based on the fact that an open relationship did not diminish the intimacy I felt. Sure, at the time I was pretty sure I was madly in love with her. . . however, I was still relatively immature (for lack of a better word) with respect to complex relationships. The interesting thing is that while the relationship was technically open, she was the only one to indulge (with my permission, naturally). Theoretically it is possible, I suppose, to have an open relationship (at least short term) in which trust, confidence and intimacy do not suffer. However, I would venture that if the feelings you have for one another are extremely intense then they will be blunted somewhat by an open relationship.
2006-12-09 22:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by DJL2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me sounds more like it's a friends with benefits situation. Just because to me if it was a relationship I wouldn't think to go sleep with someone else should the urge arise. I would rethink the whole getting married thing too if that's how it is. I mean a lot can happen in a couple years so who's to say that you will end up getting married at all.
2006-12-09 22:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by K-prod , KK, K-lizzle cousins call me all of those 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey this is something really crazy and incredible. A man and a woman love each other and they both can go wild having sex with whoever they desire...wow!This is unbelievable and being very disloyal to each other as well as to yourself.
You both are just fulfilling your urge to have sex and to sleep with people and that's it...that's not real love between you two.That is not how a relationship goes.
You have to have limits when it comes to a relationship and one has to be possessive and jealous and when it comes to sex....common!
2006-12-09 23:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Maxood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open relationships NEVER work for the long term. I mean NEVER..... Eventually someone gets jealous (yes, it Will happen) or there will be some sort of misunderstanding and the relationship is over. Try it if you must...just know that you probably lose the other person eventually.
2006-12-10 01:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
open relationship (easy sours of sex) with whom we know is bad or good /when it is easy awaylabel than it is good when it is not easy its bad. It deapend on u both but answer of this Q is u know very well
2006-12-09 22:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both want to do it and are comfortable with it. do it. it sounds fun and very appealing i am sure. be aware that things may go wrong further down the line
2006-12-09 22:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by elsie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u love each other u say. the u having sex is no wrong baby. u'll make gr8 couples, mark my words.
2006-12-09 22:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Bloody R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are best friends and love eachother to death, try to be happy with that. wanting more than that is plain greedy.
2006-12-09 22:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me....it will end badly...don't do it to yourselves unless you are will to risk the wonderful relationship you now enjoy....think about it and hope you make the right choice...good luck
2006-12-09 22:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋