i am a bad person!!!! my cousin is gay but he did not tell anyone..
[that is ok, it is his right] but everytime he comes in my house he tells us about his girlfriend..[and in this point i did something horrible!!]
i told my cousin that i know he was gay and there is no girlfriend ,now he does not even talk to me
[that he is gay is a fact but i had no right to do smth like that, did i?
i am just to honest smtimes and i make people hurt] what should i do?
2006-12-09 21:34:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I admire you for admitting your mistake. I can't really call it being tactless but I guess you lost your cool in listening to him about his girlfriend. You need to know how, what and when to say things appropriately. In that situation, you could have called him in a corner or whispered to him that you know he is gay and you are cool about it or told him you want to meet this girl.
First try to send him a peace offering or a card saying you are sorry about it and you want to talk to him soon. If he starts talking to you, then try asking him if he does really have a girlfriend and you would like to meet her. There might be a probability that your cousin is also a bisexual, a person who is into both men and women.
2006-12-10 01:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by PAXson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know FOR SURE that your cousin is gay (i.e. you caught him kissing another guy) and you know FOR SURE that he has no girlfriend, then your cousin is essentially lying to you all the time. Nobody likes to be lied to, and if it happens all the time, most people are eventually going to have enough of it and say something about it. It is O.K. for your cousin to be gay but it is not O.K. for him to constantly try to deceive you. If he doesn't want to open up about his personal life, then he can choose to say nothing at all. You had every right to say something and finally let your cousin know that you're on to his lies. He may be very aware that you had a right to confront him and that might be why he's staying away from you; because he's ashamed of his behavior. You may want to consider contacting him and letting him know that he doesn't have to lie to you because you accept him for who he is. You may also want to let him know that it really wasn't your intention to upset him. Just know that you're not a bad person for what you did, you're only human and most humans do not like to be played the fool!
2006-12-10 06:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happens when you are just fed up when something is obviously a BIG lie. Poor guy he created a elaborate tale to tell everyone, that it too extreme. Dont call him probraly wont answer, go in person talk to him face to face. You are like myself kind of say what Im thinking, I offend people or embaress myself. I say from experience; mend the wrong right away. It wasnt clear if yr gay also, just go guy hunting!
2006-12-10 06:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, call your cousin and say hey man, I know that might not have been to cool to out you to the family, I know it might be a bit embarrasing. I still love you, I knew it and it made no difference once it was brought out. I miss you hanging around and I want to chill--see what he sez... I think you will find your honesty and caring/compassion will show that he has no reason to stay away. He might need you now as a support factor if he is in the closert--good luck
2006-12-10 11:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by punxsyparty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it is unfortunate that he is not out and feels that he has to hide from members of the family -- which is what you have really uncovered about him evidently -- it is not your place to remedy that by hurting him.
You are right, what you did is wrong. Apologize, mean the apology, and don't expect things to normalize with him for some time.
I hope it actually ends up helping him.
Regards,
Reyn
2006-12-10 10:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apologize ask how you can make amends- Be supportive and tell him how you understand how it must be difficult to live a hidden life, Continue to say you are sorry until he believes it .... Be sure you are sorry and not just sorry he took it the wrong way-
2006-12-10 05:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by admiredi 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You should learn to mind your own business and keep your mouth shut. You won't go very far in life if you don't learn these basic rules.
2006-12-10 08:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't be bad by doing truth
2006-12-10 05:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by billbowlerski 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him you don't mind him being that way
2006-12-10 05:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Rusty P 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
get ur gay cousin a female stripper before it's too late
2006-12-10 05:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by BuRn Di WiSdOm WeEd 4 · 0⤊ 8⤋