i think i chose wrong in a major way that is going to effect my life. i chose to stand by my man over me. I wanted to leave but I chose to stay. i guess u could say i comprimised my own life and feelings. has this ever happenned, what do u do now after u realized u were wrong?
2006-12-09 21:08:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
LEAVE NOW, if you even have the smallest doubt you did the right thing, you need to go NOW
2006-12-09 21:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by lil_southern_pecan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll just read you the textbook answer and you can go from there.
In most cases happiness is a choice. You can choose to learn how to live happy with him or seek out another man to make that choice with. Either way at the end of the day you're going to have to choose to be happy if that's what you really want.
If you feel that you are not capable of being happy with him regardless of choosing to, then the problem could be a chemical imbalance. That's something tha should be addressed immediately(if you have the means that most depressed people don't...) Two resaons I say that. One is because everyday you live unhappy is a day you can't have back. The other reason is because depression can take a hella chunk out of your net worth in a hurry so you better treat it while you have the means. Cause it ain't going away just cuz you go broke.... trust me.
2006-12-10 05:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that - though the reasons are too many and complex to explain here. When I decided I'd made a stupid decision, I left. Better late than never, and it was the best decision I ever made. Don't put it off, because the longer you wait, the more damage it will do to you both.
2006-12-10 05:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on a lot of things. If he hits you, then leave. Get help leaving if you need help. If you have children, try very hard to work it out and stay, unless he hits you. If he cheats on you, you should probably leave, unless he's very committed to changing.
Every day is a choice, and you can still choose to leave.
Counseling will probably help -- you can probably find a way to make it affordable if you need it.
2006-12-10 06:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation. This is just my opinion but if I truly felt I was wrong I would pack quickly and leave. Don't get stuck in a situation you know is wrong. Again, just my opinion. If there is a chance it might work, stick around and work at it.
2006-12-10 05:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you may not be wrong after all, it's only a matter of time and you will really realize what went wrong and since you made a choice of your own , you are always in control of changing it for your best interest.
2006-12-10 05:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Rue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋