We have been without a vehicle for the past 2 1/2 years. We are a military family. We do live on the base, and we live within walking distance of anything that we need to survive. I am tired of walking every where and having limited choices, I'm tired of being stuck on base all the time, and I'm tired of being a burden to my friends that keep offering help but I just don't want to abuse it. I'm also tired of waiting on taxies, and there also very expensive here. It's also very hard to carry back home lots of grocerys...but we are a family of 2 and don't require a lot of grocerys. At this particular time I can't drive a vehicle..but he has the ability to drive. Recently after 2 years and 1/2 he confessed he was terrified of driving so that is why he hasn't gotten around to buying a vehicle..which I'm upset about. I have tried very hard to get him to buy a vehicle..finances are not a problem we are decently well off.... Am I wrong or is he?
2006-12-09 20:35:25 · 16 answers · asked by LuLu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I can totally understand why you are having trouble deciding what is best. This is a tricky situation. If your husband is terrified of driving, I can understand why he would avoid buying a vehicle. And if you are unable to drive than that can be a problem also. Waiting on taxi's and walking everywhere can be frustrating, believe me I have been there. You two should buy a car, even if no one can drive it yet. Maybe you could coax your husband in to learning how to drive with someone he trusts, try to get him to feel comfortable. And also when you are able to drive get your license ASAP. When you can drive and your husband is ready to drive than I think than your situation will get better. I don't really think either of you is wrong, I think that you two just need to compromise somehow. Good luck and Happy Holidays.
2006-12-09 20:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by who_is_cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can live without a vehicle and can put that money into a long term investment then you could amass a fortune in a short time when it comes to buying a 30K car, insurance gas etc... let say $400 - 500 a month X 12 months is like $6,000 year, get $20K behind you and leave it for 30 years.. wow.. any way...
I have a car I bought for $1,200 dollars. (cash) cost $30. month in insurance and buy a tank of gas every other week or so... so for about $80-100 month I have transportation which is nice and like the limited freedom that it gives me... as I wouldn't trust it on a long trip but I do keep AAA towing on it 100 mile tow range for $120 year and do my own maintenance, oil change etc... plus I don't have to worry about smog testing each year, any way..
If he is scared to drive, you drive. If safety is a must then find a car with airbags and he can go along for the ride till he learns to handle his fear.
The freedom of having a car is a great thing but people don't realize the cost...but sometimes that freedom to come and go is so sweet... sit down, talk with him... see what he would like.
You say you can afford it.... what if you lived with the inconvienience and rented a car from a millitary car rental once a month (if they have such a thing) just too get away?
It is n't a matter of right or wrong I don't think... It's what you want and need to do at that time in your life.... it may be time for him and you too enjoy your time together experiencing new things on the open road.....
2006-12-09 20:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say he is wrong since he can't help his own fear, but keeping you at such a hardship isn't right either. If you can in fact afford a vehicle then you should learn to drive and go get your drivers license. He will discover it to be a wonderful thing for the two of you to be freed from being so limited to one area. Good luck! Oh and always practice defensive driving....some folks don't look where they are going....or just don't care.
2006-12-09 20:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by slick chik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow a lot of stress, humans arent designed to carry such burdens, pray to the Lord and ask him to left your burdens. Have you tried paying instrumental music to the baby, like classical they respond well to it. And since you have a computer get your husband to seek employment and find out new places opening. Talk to your husband about how you feel, since he is around more. And friendship you need that, so much. Im going a bit crazy at the moment due to the lack of it. Maybe join a mother and baby class activity or church thing. Invite your in laws around. Make sure you both do something special at least once a month, its important for marriage.
2016-05-23 01:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you don't need one. I think you are frustrated by more than the vehicle - you need to look into that; you are using it as an excuse. Feel lucky you are saving the money of not having a car, and put that money away for your future family.
2006-12-09 22:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point your gonna need a vehicle. Try to find a driving school nearby, but then again you'll need a way to get there!
2006-12-09 20:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get your license and get a car of your own. Oblivously your husband has a serious phobia issue with driving, maybe you should ask him to see a doctor about this.
But yes I think you to should have a car if that's what one of you really wants. But if he's too afraid, then you need to take over.
2006-12-09 22:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to buy a vehicle and you'll take care of learning how to drive it.
2006-12-09 23:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to your question you can't drive a car. So am I to understand that you want your husband to purchase a car so he can be your chauffeur? Come on, if you want him to get a car for your convenience, then you need to learn how to drive!
2006-12-09 21:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonder why he is afraid of driving a vehicle.
I don't know if there is right or wrong to this question..However, tell him you are tired of wasting money for taxi's...They are VERY expensive!! And you guys could save more if it wasn't for that.
I would definitely make him get one somehow!!!
2006-12-09 20:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋