2006-12-09 19:11:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Nothing is ALWAYS the sign of something. In other words...There is no one general "rule of thumb" for everything. Yes. Someone can be quiet and not have any issues. It is called contentment. Peace. As someone else answered "above me", "comfortable in their own skin". Paranoia can be called into question when someone is obsessed with what other people are thinking. Perhaps it is just simply, human nature to assume that there is something "wrong" with a person who does not exhibit tendencies or characteristics that "lump" them together with the majority. Naturally, it is intriguing to speculate on other peoples "issues" based on the persona they exhibit outwardly. Unfortunately, it seems to be in our nature to assume the worst in others, rather than giving them the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps, that is why our lawmakers HAD to write the words "innocent until PROVEN guilty", because the common tendencies of most people is to presume guilt first. We have to force ourselves to think the opposite. What does that tell us of our society?
2006-12-09 21:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Adam in Vegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People all have issues to solve, whether they are outwardly vocal about it or inwardly reflective.
For every person who hides it by not saying anything, there is someone who hides it by projecting or putting on a facade that everything is fine when it is not.
The best way to find out if someone is denying or suppressing problems is to ask them how they perceive relationships in their lives, with the parents, or friends/romantic partners, and how they look at adversaries or enemies. Those who are forgiving, objective and look at the circumstances that make someone act this way or that way are usually more mature and more free of biases from the past. Those who do not believe in reconciling problems often lose faith because of unresolved conflicts they are avoiding. So this can be projected onto other people or situations, causing them to have negative views or judgments based on their own unresolved issues.
How people perceive these things is independent of how or whether they express it. You just have to ask how they think and feel, and you can see their perspective of life and how balanced or resolved it is.
2006-12-09 19:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by emilynghiem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the person is usually like. Is your girlfriend quiet all of a sudden. Is your friend always quiet and the opposite of you. I used to have this friend that never said much of anything and he would always be at every social function, but not say a damn thing. It freaked me out for years and then I finally talked to him in private. He disclosed to me that he had anxiety, the social kind, but he still came.
2006-12-09 19:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being quiet simply means you're comfortable in your own skin and see no need to engage the outside world or babble to strangers. It is certainly not always the sign of a problem.
2006-12-09 19:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lex 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not always. I am never quiet when I have an issue to solve, but so many people ask 'Why are you so quiet'. They get offended when I say cuz I dint have anything to say to you.
2006-12-09 19:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I studied Buddhism, it frustrated me that we were expected to feel nothing. Nothingness is the ideal. I am a more passionate and emotional person than that. Meditation and prayer are useful tools for calming down. I hate suppressing everything. You can't just 'let it go' and 'forget about it'.
I did learn to lighten up and relax more. Sometimes, in life, there are just cycles. Sometimes it is better to say nothing at all or calm down, sleep on it and discuss it in the morning.
2006-12-09 19:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe i do. everybody on the otherhand is positive im gay (or have something huge to hide), a killer, an asshole (not interested), have low self-esteem or a pedaphile in the making. even my real friends barely tolerate the fact im so quiet on occasions. bottomline: people don't know sh!t. only YOU know your motives. and keeping it that way is precisely why i'm quiet. there's nothing to divulge until i want you to know. and overall, the motives behind my conscience is only my business. you dont and definately shouldn't have to explain every single move you make to people. if there's nothing to say, why force it? to prove what?
2006-12-09 19:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by blah_blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it? I mean, if I've got nothing in common with the crowd around me, why should I even bother to talk?
2006-12-09 19:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mynnia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES and NO.......I took a minute's silence on your behalf.
2006-12-09 19:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋