Why do girls prefer money than a good man?

Question

I have experinced 4 last "many years", girls prefer a rich (or richer) man/boy for marriage than a simpl middle class man/boy. They want money, good income, comfort, luxury, car, house, NOT A husband. I have witensed unmarried (Bachelor) girls even marry a widower or a divorcee but they wont marry a man/boy who is poor or lower middle class no matter how sober, descent and God fearing he is. Thousands of women around the world suffering from all kinds of tortures and abuses (almost daily) but they want financially safe partners and continue with them. They tolerate everything... thinking, atleast we r safe with him, having a house, car and regular income. Do all gals think that "thats enough?" JUST once experiene the "TRUE LOVE" of a poor or lower middle class man, He is thousands of time better than that rich man who beats and abuse daily, have affairs with other woomen. Love is different, a gal can survive with a low income happily if her husband is a "good Human being". Do u agree?

Answer 1

Same reason a man prefers a young good looking woman.

Answer 2

I think in today's time wherein competition is high & consumerism is the mantra of the day, it is really not surprising to hear - Why do girls prefer money than a good man ?

However, I would like to stress that NOT all women are this way... It is the family background, the upbringing, education & the values which make an individual so different.

Tagging along with a rich partner has it's own positives & negatives. My experience as a HR Manager, has sadly shown me more troubles & failures vis-a-vis the success of such association. In such relationships, expectations are always high and the slightest possibility of it not being satsified destroys the entire relationship.

I agree times have changed... But, if we look at our grand mom's, mumma & aunties whom we classify as conservative because of their traditional thougts - we cearly observe a strong sense of attachment, bonding & selfless love..

Lets not forgert, we also have couples from the lower strata of the sociey who are very happily married and are more happy being thwith their spouses in comparisn to the so called 'high'class' who are more interested in flaunting their wealth, bodies... and thereby missing on the small & simple beautiful moments in natur & a relationship.

I strongly believe it is the 'togetherness' that really matters. In the process if you happen to hook onto a rich boy/girl then you are extremely lucky.

However, the safest & the happiest path is to look for a simple, loving, ethicaly & a morally strong partner for he or she'll love you for the person you are not for the gifts you have presented. Also, such kind of a person will make you enjoy the simple things in life like walking down the road nudging each other, cuddling up in bed together & helping you out during your most difficult times...

All I can suggest to all girl is.. get married to a noce, loving guy who'll sit and stare at you paying good attention when you talk to hi when both of you are 60+.

After all, Love is an 'coming together' of 2 hearts and not bank balances & accounts. And remember, money can buy you everything but it can never buy you :

manners, love & a heart thar cares and loves you..

Chaaoo... and praying for everyone to get their ONE LOVE who could give them a reason to LIVE, LOVE and be LOVED..


~ abhishek.

Answer 3

Neither, I choose the man I love or happen to fall in love with. There is no way I would sleep with a man I find unattractive. Not going to happen. At my age (41) I could give a rats fart about money. Money is mere a tool to pay the bills and keep food on the table. No interest in fast expensive cars, big homes, name brand clothing, all the gadgets to fill a home. Been there done that and to me that's a paper chase which only stresses me out. Hey there is nothing wrong with $45k a year. It seems when I was making more money I had more stress as did the men in my life.

Answer 4

I agree, money doesn't matter.. I've been married to mostly poor men the marriage just didn't last because I didn't want children (I did tell them before the marriage they just assumed they could change my mind).

I despise men whom think women should be bought. On the other hand I've had men take all my money ha ha!

I think women end up marrying the rich man for security after having been through many relationships where it just doesn't work so they then think maybe there isn't any "MR RIGHT" so they take "MR RICH" as a second best.

Sometimes when you can't find your "Mr Right" who enjoys camping, grocery shopipng and a good DVD... you go for the man who is there .. "Marry me marry me Im not Mr Right but I will look after you..." Lonliness.. and the fear of never meeting "Mr Right" is my guess.

As for me I would rather be alone and maybe I will bump into "Mr Right" one day.

Answer 5

I agree with you. I don't see money as a solution. I see it as a source of more problems. Money is the root of all evil. Well, maybe that's a bit extreme but it doesn't solve everything and can cause a lot of problems to. I married a poor man and we have four kids. I bet that I am happier than most rich people. Although, we do need a bigger house and it takes money. We'll get there eventually and we will have a sense of accomplishment when we buy a bigger house that we are working so hard for.
Money can't buy love and it can't buy happiness. My husband is a great man.

Answer 6

You can't make a generic comment on the entire girls community, this way.

Every human is unique and different in his/her own accord whether it is boy or a girl.

Some prefer intelligent partner, some beautiful/handsome ,some rich. some looks for their desired attitude and the list goes on..

I guess the guy and girl should have a honest and diplomatic talk to get to know each others attitude, interests and wants before getting into affair.i suggest they should not proceed with their affair if they have ample differences in any thing that they feel important.

There is no point in complaining that your partner is bad and she expects riches. It's her want. she has every right to expect anything that she feel important for her life. It is good that you have broken off now itself. If you two people continue living together they your life will be still more disastrous because she would have sacrificed her interests for her love life and all the time she would have complained about you and you would have felt frustrated. so leave her. let her go and find her match. that is good for both of you folks.

In your end, there is nothing to get upset. there would certainly be girl who are like minded like you and my all best wishes to get one in your life at the earliest. good luck :)

Answer 7

My guess is that you are living in a place where women do not have equal rights or the ability to financially support themselves or are simply meeting stupid women. In North America and many other places, women are able to support themselves and do not need to depend on a man financially. My mother makes twice as much money as my father, so it's not like all women are like this! When women have the ability to support themselves, they are more likely to find a man who will treat them good.

Abusive relationships aren't always about the money though, but when women are unable to just leave because of lack of finances and ability to support themselves, they have defense mechanisms like "oh at least I have a financial security". Leaving would mean having no place to go, no financial security, losing even more personal security especially if the woman is uneducated. It's one of the reasons that abusive men often deny their women a chance to work or go back to school. Women who are capable on their own are not as easily caught.

EDIT: As for women not wanting to date a man who can't provide them things. That too has to do with their need to be taken care of probably due to lack of education or equal rights. A woman who can support herself doesn't mind what her husband does. Equal rights benefits both men and women.

Answer 8

WELL WELL DUDE I KNOW YOU HAVE HAD BAD EXPERINCES GROW OUT OF IT DONT HOLD GRUDGES FOR ANYONE. look tell me dude what do you look in a gal looks to be very frank if you find a girl who is damn gorgeous and more beautiful that ur gal and she wanna date u u will leave ur old gal.
it is the law of nature man wants his wife to be the best and the gals they want security and safe place which no offece is provided well by a richer dude. so let ur past be as it is and go ahead u will find the right gal dude
chow

Answer 9

Times have sure changed. It seems that we live in a very material world. That is really a shame. I would rather be happy with a loving man, than living in a cold, material relationship. Actually, I think you build a closer relationship if you are struggling together; you are building your marriage; forming a bond. Money will never buy happiness or love.

Answer 10

sweety not all girls r alike wel girls like to b treated like queens and wen u hav kids they want them to hav everythin the thing is if after mairaige u r nt able to fulfill ur basic needs then there r fights an the love goes out of the window sme girls go thru a lot of **** in there life bcoz of lack of money so they think money is important and it is true love wil nt put food on the table or pay ur bills stability is definately required even if u dnt have alot of money

Answer 11

Well I married for love... not money... so I can't relate to those women. Love is definitely more important than money. And you wouldn't want a woman who didn't agree with that anyway... so be grateful that they married some rich guy and you can find someone who truly loves YOU... and not your pocket-book. There are plenty of women out there who aren't that shallow.