In this LIFE, what thing(s) that you have LEARNED in HARD WAY so that you can truly understand it?

Question

There are so many of them, my list is very long that I'm afraid this page will not be enough! How about yours then? Mind sharing yours with me?

Answer 1

Do not make major decisions when tired.
Recognise that when fatigued, judgement is impaired.

Bouncing a car off the central reservation of a French motorway was a wake-up call that could easily have been lights out.

(Rather than face the awkwardness of telling my parents I was too tired to safely drive down to them for Christmas, I thought "I'll be OK". Bad move, several times over.)

Answer 2

1. Don't drink too much water, it will make you puke.
2. If there were a way to have a baby without going through pregnancy, labor and birth and all you had to do was have your pinky toe cut off, I'd go for the pinky toe option.
3. The delicate task of taking a woman's virginity should not be left up to a male under the age of 23. Make that 33!
4. Always look down before taking your seat on a public bus. Don't ask!!!!
5. If you're a female, the best way to get adults to not look at you is to shave your head. I've done it several times in my life and there's nothing that makes people look away quicker. It's actually funny to watch, especially when that adult's child is yelling at the top of his lungs "Mommy, look at the bald woman!"
6. Don't tell your father-in-law that he is obviously not secure in his manhood. It doesn't make for good family relations.
7. Dogs eat poop. It's normal for them, so don't try to pry it out of their mouths.
8. Cats don't eat poop. If your cat is eating poop, then it needs to go to the kitty psychologist.
9. Don't give your four year old in the back seat a wooden baseball bat, it makes for hazardous driving conditions. This one was my husband's fault!

Answer 3

Yes, one thing I learnt the real hard way...
Not to give UNSOLICITED advise, suggestion or help !
The situation seems to call us, and we know we have the ability, desire, will and there is a need to respond.... but there is seldom a matching response or gesture of acceptance, leave alone too difficult things like acknowledgement or gratitude !
And though, a bit out of place, I really cannot resist adding....
A pleasant surprise is, some of the touching, warm, beautiful responses to the answers from very deep, mature , and even well learned askers/ readers at Yahoo Answers(the 'itch' gets subsided to a large extent !).
I really feel deeply indebted to Yahoo answers team for bring some the like-minded people together !

Answer 4

In this life, one of the things I've learned in hard ways so that I can truly understand it is that some 10 years I longed to study further for an advanced degree, a doctorate, abroad. Then the time came, many actors/players arrived at the scenes/stages of the unnamed plays including me and some colleagues. Then, in 1999, we're invited to spend 6 weeks at a famous university in a certain English-speaking country as part of our thesis draft writing as well as scheduled sessions to meet our supervisors weekly. We paid dearly for our annual tuition fees, then, after my six years of part-time candidacy, I needed to request my withdrawal with bitter sorrow due to my anxiety. Some three years ago, I was then suffering mentally but some good friends and superiors assisted to lessen my critical plights, then some visits to a great lady doctor who understood my situations perfectly and I've gradually recovered from her medication and been able to focus on my work & my family since then.
No, I don't mind sharing mine with yours. However, this is only an episode of my life.

Answer 5

Accept the truth, be truthful to yourself and others. The most basic principle for a peaceful life that is taught to every child but ignored or forgotten by most adults. One should speak the truth not because it is the right thing, it is the only thing. Its difficult, but I have learnt the hard way that it is the key to get closer to our real self.

Answer 6

I've learned not to depend on others for my happiness and peace of mind.
I've learned to love myself before i love anyone else.
I've learned that people on the internet make up stuff and not to believe anyone i meet on the internet.

I say these things because i met someone on the internet who i fell very deeply in love with and in the end i found out that they were only using me. I'm still recovering from everything they did to me, i was totally honest with this person and they chose to play games with my heart and emotions. In the end i had to walk away from them and i'm still healing. My heart got broken into a million pieces and i'm still in the process of getting myself together. I'm currently in therapy because of this person and what they did to me. And the worst part of all of this is that i'm still very much in love with them.

Answer 7

I learned that every thing that goes through my brain doens't have to come out of my mouth.

I learned that I need to trust my instincts more and to not work at pleasing others at the expense of my self

Answer 8

To abstain or use protection.

To be kind to my significant other.

To concentrate on education instead of men.

To never burn my bridges at a job.

Answer 9

To do things for yourself not for someone else...
To love yourself and know yourself before "falling in love"
To notice the red flags in relationships to avoid abuse