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Question

I've been questioning existence, and so much of it does not make sense to me with the presence of seeming paradoxes, absurdities, conformity, and the idea of meaninglessness. I really do feel empty a lot, withdrawn, and I try to get myself to feel better but eventually I retreat to this state. My grades are deteriorating, and I do not feel like doing much of anything. I feel against my school system, and I'm questioning whether what I am learning has any point. I feel like I want to talk to someone, but when I tell my parents or sister about my perceptions they get puzzled, they think I'm 'weird' or they just get frustrated. The only person I can think of talking to is my teacher, since the class is actually one I respect since its English and isn't so structured, but I just don't know how to approach him or ask him. I just feel too nervous to do something like that, and I'm scared he'll tell my parents or get others involved.

Answer 1

You seem like a very thoughtful person, struggling with a not-so-thoughtful world. And I'm sorry to hear that you are so unhappy. That doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you.

And I hope it helps you to know that you really are not alone. Throughout history, thoughtful people and independent thinkers have struggled to cope with society at large.

I felt very isolated and alone at a couple points during my primary school years. I didn't know anyone else who thought like I did, and wasn't even sure that anyone in history had these existential and agnostic ideas like me. I was sexually awkward and had no idea what I would do with my life. I didn't like my parents and my teachers were all idiots. Life seemed so hypocritical. I was extemely cynical and at least moderately depressed.

I eventually educated myself about some of these things (Durant's "The Story of Philosophy" was the first eye-opener for me) and was surprised to learn that I wasn't crazy after all. It was still frustrating to live among relatively orthodox people, but I now had a new-found confidence that I really did know what I was talking about. I would suggest that you go to your library and ask for some beginning books on existentialism, and possibly humanism.

It's good that you're thinking about talking to someone. We all need friends, and it doesn't have to be someone your own age. It can take some time and work to make friends. Approaching your English teacher sounds like a good idea. Get up the courage to mention that he/she is the only one you feel comfortable talking to.

How bad would it be if he/she told your parents? Question your first assumption about this. When we are teenagers, we tend to worry more about potential problems than is actually warranted. It can help to envision the dreaded scenario in your head, but then defuse it by creating a reasonably tolerable outcome. Consider some different ways to make that outcome really happen. That way, if your parents do find out and react badly, you know that you're ready to deal with it. You can be confident.

Teen years can be very difficult. Try to look beyond them, if possible. You are obviously a very good writer - good enough for college. Almost every college offers MUCH more than HS. There is much more freedom and there will be people there who think like you do. Find those people. They are looking for you too.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

There are a lot of possible answers to this. Firstly, I would suggest not to go and see a psychiatrist. They will most likely put you on some non-sensical pill and then evaluate for you.

Secondly, I would ensure that you are taking proper care of yourself physically. I'm talking basic stuff here, good food, proper diet, sufficient liquids, sufficient rest, exercise, etc. This always helps.

Thirdly, is you may not have a great understanding about the parts of man, i.e., body-mind-spirit. The mind is an important thing to learn about as it can have undesirable effects upon you, without you even realizing it. You can read more about that here:
http://www.dianetics.org/en_US/what-is-dianetics/pg001.html

The spirit is you. You are the creator of things. The life force itself. You are the awareness of awareness unit.
http://www.scientology.org/en_US/religion/presentation/pg008.html

If you have been going through life with various problems occasionally, it could relate to someone who makes you feel bad, whether you know it or not, this could have a suppressive effect on your life. It is very important to spot and resolve these kinds of people.
http://www.scientologyhandbook.org/SH11_1.HTM

There are some other things too, but this should get you checking in the right area.

Remember, communication is the universal solvent. So, speaking with someone you trust may actually help. Though I suggest checking out the above first.

Answer 3

Dear "they all way don't keep anything deep in your heart and you have a feeling if you speak to your English teacher may be he can be help to you ,but you are scared also may be he tells your parents or other es i am sure he will help you and only when it's nickers he will tell your parents and may be that will be much better and more help full to you your teacher and parent are the best well wisher to you and i will suggest to make some friend to whom you can talk what is both ring you, it can be your teacher,your parents or some friend,and be brave to face problems .

Answer 4

Sweetie, please go to a psychologist. There is no shame in it at all. You may just be depressed, or it might even be the beginnings of something a heckuvalot more serious, like schizophrenia. Just please try to get yourself in counseling soon, it is right to care for yourself enough to get help when you need it. By going to a psychologist, you also might even be stopping a downward spiral that might otherwise end with your suicide, or with you hurting someone else.

If you choose not to go to a professional, at least go to the following site, and look for dietary or herbal solutions there:

http://www.curezone.com

Also, remember the Lord. He is always there for you, all you have to do is pray to him. Reading the bible can be very helpful too. Ihope you get to feeling better soon.



May you know the Lord Jesus, and have peace.

Answer 5

You are asking the same questions that humans have asked for what seems like forever. You just might be over analyzing and paralyzing your mind.

You sound like you might be depressed. Being depressed is an illness just like having a cold or the flu. If your saddness continues, please see a doctor.

Answer 6

Talk to your teacher. If your teacher gets other people involved it is because he cares. You need to find someone to talk to. You can also go to your doctor and he can refer you to a counselor, or give you medication if needed. Good luck. :)

Answer 7

Go into therapy, there's nothing wrong with seeking help. It sounds like you're depressed. I'm currently in therapy for something i couldn't handle alone and it's help me out a great deal. I have bouts of depression and feelings of emptiness and loneliness, it's nice to have someone to talk to about whatever is bothering you. Please go and get help.

Answer 8

It is natural to feel that way, sometimes happens.... talking about it really helps a lot......... hope you'll find someone to talk :)
Wish you good luck :)

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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