My 7yr old son asked my partner if he can open a xmas cracker last night and he kept telling him to wait till later. I got upset that he makes our son wait for a bit of fun all the time and then my partner said I ruined the whole thing because I didn't tell him to let our son open one. Should I have to tell my partner everything or should he think for himself and not be so damn strict all the time?
2006-12-09 19:01:03 · 5 answers · asked by golden tigress 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
strict makes me sick...i was an abused girl growing up and i am still not over the sh_it i went thru. so don't let any thing get between you an your child! he is a partner...not the rule maker ..you are!
2006-12-09 19:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering christmas crackers are usually saved for christmas, your partner probably thought that it would be best to make the kid wait. You know, teach him some patience, but apparently you think your kid should be able to do whatever he wants whenever he wants, so you disagreed. You didn't ruin anything, but it's not fair to your partner to call him strict for not spoiling your son. You need to talk about your parenting styles.
Your partner was thinking for himself by not spoiling your son. Then you got in the way and got upset, so he probably just put the blame on you to shut your nagging for awhile. Besides, it's not like you couldn't have spoken up and said something.
2006-12-10 03:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The both of you could have compromised a bit.Like maybe buy some crackers,let your son eat those.I do think that you were wrong for going against what your husband said.That teaches your son that if Daddy says no,I can go to Mom and she'll let me do it,or she;ll give it to me.Your son will detect this and pit and your husband against each other.You too will be (arguing) over what your son wants,instead of (talking) about making the right decisions.
2006-12-10 23:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems to be a bit controlling, he is blaming his controlling issues, on u, that u failed to tell him. he is way too strict, and may be a controlling kind of person. maybe when your partner was growing up he had very strict disipline.
2006-12-10 11:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all are individuals and have right to express our rights.
2006-12-10 08:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋