People just talk AROUND you. They may ask a few simple questions, act like they're interested and move on. If somebody is quiet and speak only when they have something to say, something must be wrong with them. Where does this social stigma come from and what triggers people to avoid it so much. In otherwords, is it just other people being socially lazy to get to know me for some fickle reasons or is it me who is being too lazy?
2006-12-09 18:54:18 · 10 answers · asked by blah_blah 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Alot of the time, when people ask you something, they want you to talk. Many people respect the fact that someone is shy/quiet, so they dont say much to that person.. I myself am 17 so I see this scenario all the time.People like to have things in common, thats how the groups of people stick together, they have somethingto share so they stick together! Ask questions, make a joke, bring up things like sports, movies,media...etc.. you get the idea... making people laugh is a good way to make friends.. even a simple smile can start a conversation, especially with an attractive person you've been eyeing;)=) laugh loud, smile big and stand tall=)
2006-12-09 19:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by l2onaldinho1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute, who says they are?!? Nothing repels me about quiet people. While I may have thought they were socially inept at one time, I have come to learn the ones doing the majority of talking have little to say, and do so only to prevent the silence that they feel is "awkward." The quiet ones do have something to say, it may take time and effort to get that out of them, but most do, and it's worth the time and energy spent. Social stigmas and taboos do need some investigation to see what the truly consist of. Yes, I would have to go along with laziness on their parts as a (self-pondered) question to your answer.
2006-12-09 19:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says quiet people are socially repelling? Most people in a social setting are looking for interaction. If you are not giving them that interaction, they find someone that will. That doesn't mean that they find you repelling.
2016-05-23 01:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe people don't trust you because they can't figure you out,I have a very quiet friend and people often call her a snob behind her back and say she thinks she's to good to talk to them when you don't open up ,people just imagine who you are or even fear your crazy or something .I personally have always been attracted to the silent type ,like a big mystery to figure out ,but there usually just shy or lack confidence ,and some really do think there better then others .
2006-12-09 19:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quiet people often send out confusing body language that makes other people unsure if they want to be talked to or not. It is hard to tell if someone is being quiet because they are shy, or if they are being quiet because they just don't really feel they have anything in common with you to talk about. If you want people to talk to you, you need to be more inviting and break the ice yourself. This will let them know you want to partake in conversation. It is a two way street you know. You have to make some effort too.
2006-12-09 19:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's boring. we're not talking about that quiet strength type. we're talking about that shy introverted type. rarely is it ever a serious problem where someone is just introverted. i've met one person like that in my lifetime and he's a cool dude, full of talent, just extremely introverted. he'll talk to you if you speak but he's not afraid of anything or anyone. he's just that way.
but, it's usually the case that those people suffer from irrational fear, low self esteem, and lack simple social skills. personally, i don't have time to deal with a people like that. not anymore at least. i've been there. done that. NEVER AGAIN. it's not fun, nor will it ever be fun, to deal with a person who makes you - a normal, friendly outgoing individual - want to slit your own wrists.
the reality of the situation is that the stigma is practically fact. something usually is wrong with them. most of the time it's an irrational fear. but i have to say that i've been there. i've been the guy invited to the party who sat in the corner and kept his mouth shut. then one day, i just decided to stop bein that guy. i put an end to my problem. it was a process that took like a few years to be where i am at now. but i did it. it's because something was wrong with me. i identified my problem and came up with a solution.
maybe you are lazy. maybe you are scared like i was. either way you need to identify your problem and fix it. start by saying hi to the clerk at the store. your barber. give someone a phone call that you haven't talked to in a long time. dont just say hi. ask their names. ask how they are doing. don't jump into asking about their sex lives and such. it's a gradual build up starting at introduction. shun formalities. for example, don't ask, hey how about that weather? say, damn its cold outside. basically this is an effort to find yourself. the real person who knows how to interact with people.
2006-12-09 19:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony Taurus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's hard to get them to open up and people fear if they talk to them and they don't talk back, they will be embarrassed/rejected. Basically it's too much work and human beings are lazy obese people.
2006-12-09 18:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't talk that much it may make them believe that you aren't interested in what they're saying and a one sided convo is boring as hell.
2006-12-09 19:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by aznxpranksta69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just don't care.
2006-12-09 19:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-09 19:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by MARIA 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋