i want a baby sooo bad..u dont understand how much i want this baby and i am bout to be 15 in Jan. and if i do get pregnant than the baby's father will be 18 and i kno that is wrong but he loves me and we...well i want this child soo bad i dont care what anyone says..but am i like a s*ut of bad for wanting a baby at such a young age?
2006-12-09 18:49:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
nanaboo..or wateva yo name is..u aint have to answer this question if u aint want to but dont be a gooddam bytch if u iz gon answer..u ugly azz punk..u need 2 stfu and get a ***** lyfe byth!
2006-12-09 19:27:31 · update #1
omg i totally understand u. i had the chance 2 have a baby when i was like 14-15 but i did blow it + now i have REGRETED IT!!!! sure a baby iz responsibility etc BUT id love to have a kid now and being a parent and everything. i say GO 4 IT GURL!! u have ur boy 2 support ya, do it now or u'll regret it lyke i did.
2006-12-10 11:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh no here is another one.
It is bad, I'll tell you why.
(1) You are only 15 and have no idea how to raise a child. No matter how grown you think you are, you aren’t. You are a little girl.
(2) This dad, see how long he hangs around once you get pregnant. Every girl like you is the same..."Oh he wants a baby", "he said he will be there", "he loves me". Yah, that is why the statistics of teen fathers (or any fathers at all) sticking around are so low.
(3) You aren’t even old enough to get a job and work to support your baby. 15 year olds can work at some places, but good luck getting over $7.00 an hour (if that), and good luck getting enough hours to make a difference. And don’t even go there saying welfare this welfare that. Us working folks don’t need another welfare mom to support, and that’s all you’ll become if you have a baby now.
(4) You shouldn’t even technically be having sex. Let alone with an 18 year old. If I was your mom and knew all this, first I'd call the cops to haul your rapist BF away, then I would beat your *** until every thought of having a baby was gone out of your head.
Bottom line, this "great idea" you have about having a baby, is not so great. Wait until you are older, finish school, have a well paying career, a committed, adult relationship, and some sense. Please don’t become another teen mother on welfare that takes the $$$ out of my pay check (in taxes) to take care of your baby. I don't have a baby myself because I cannot afford one, so I dam sure don’t want to financially support yours.
KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED, GO PLAY WITH YOUR BARBIES LIKE EVERY OTHER 15 YEAR OLD SHOULD BE DOING!!!!!!
Oh and Lani, 17 with almost 2 kids, keep your legs closed. Didn't you learn the first time. Theres 2 more kids my tax $$$$ has to go to support. Your momma shouldda whooped your @$$.
2006-12-09 19:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is something that you should wait for. Wait until you are older. You want to give your baby a good life, right? If you are only 15, how can you give your baby the financial and emotional support they need. Having a baby costs lots of money! Besides, what will you do down the road when you want to go to Prom and you can't because you have a baby or you want to go on a date but you don't have a sitter. You will miss out on your childhood and all of the fun things young girls should be able to do. Why don't you talk to an older adult that you trust and tell them this? I got married at 19 and had my first baby and while I love my children, I missed out on a lot by having kids that young. Do I regret my children? No. I regret not being able to give them more because I didn't go to college first and I regret missing out on a lot of things my friends were able to do.
You will end up being on your own and pregnant with no man in the end with the way you are going. Are your parents going to help pay for your decision? If they are, you might want to let them have a say in this before you get pregnant.
2006-12-09 20:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck with that, but I can tell you from experience most 18 year old guys will move to another girl so guard your heart and be a child, not a mother. I'm 25 and just now having a baby and I'm filled with doubts, even though I have a college degree, own my mustang, and just bought a house. Plus I've been married for 4 years. I'd suggest if you really want to have a baby then you should ask this guy to marry you. His answer will let you know how commit ed he REallY is to you. If he says no with some type of excuse then that's your answer.
Babies are expensive. The major items, crib, car seat, mattress, bedding cost $1000 not to mention he tons of little items they need. If you can't provide a baby with that its selfish to have a child that you cant afford to take care of and give it everything it needs.
2006-12-09 19:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.If you have a child at 15, your child and yourself will grow up struggling. It will not be fun, or fair to the child.
2.If youre trying to get him to stay with you by having a baby, guess what it wont work.
3. You have a LONG time ahead of you that you will be able to not only get pregnant, but support a child.
4. You don't understand mature love even though you might think you do. No one does at 15. I promise you that your feelings will change for this guy (who is too old for you and taking advantage of you).
You DO NOT want a baby. A baby isn't a cute toy, its someone who needs to be taken care of for at least 18 years! Its not fun. You wont be able to support the child. It would be completely unfair for yourself and for the child. Have you ever thought about college? That will go out the window if you have a kid now. You probably won;t be able to even graduate high school. Dont you want more for yourself than that?
2006-12-09 19:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by idontknowjustgivemeaname 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way when I was 15. Luckily, I am 20 and still childless. It seems like a wonderful idea, a way to have someone who unconditionally loves you and to be close with your boyfriend for the rest of your life, right? NOT. Try getting a few babysitting jobs in your area. Trust me, it'll make you want to hold off. Sure, I still want kids, but being able to spend time with other peoples' kids then go home and still be a kid definately has its perks. Wait until you are old enough and financially stable. Seriously. Your life will be so much more rewarding that way, and you'll be able to give your baby the life they want, too. Also, it sounds like your boyfriend isn't ready for the commitment of having a child, and it's not fair to pin a baby on him. Wait until you're both ready, and it'll be well worth the wait.
2006-12-09 20:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by xxhalloqueenxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have ANY idea of what parenting involves? The true extent? The aches and pains of pregnancy, childbirth, getting up to feed and care for your baby at all hours of the night, staying in when you want to go out, etc etc?
I wanted to get pregnant when I was 22. It didn't work out, and I am SO thankful. So very very thankful. My first child was born when I was 25, AFTER I was married, and I can't imagine having had him any earlier. It's a lot of work, a lot of sacrifice, and sometimes a lot of stress. You don't need to be having babies or having sex for that matter at 15. Wait until you are an adult. Enjoy the rest of one of the few carefree times in life and just WAIT. You'll never get these years back. Don't spend them being a Mom, spend them learning about yourself and just enjoying life without the responsibilities of another person.
2006-12-09 18:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Capri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. watch maury next time he does an episode on teens or even pre-teens tryin to have a baby at such a young age
2. ur still a baby urself, grow up first urself and enjoy life, cuz once u have a baby u wont have one...it'll be all about the baby
3. it's too expensive for an 18 and 15 yr old to care for
4. ur parents will be disappointed
5. u will have numerous health issues
6. the 18 yr old may not rly take responsibility
7. CLOSE YOUR LEGS!!!
2006-12-09 18:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by kaeh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're mature enough why not then. but you should also factor in if you can take care of a baby financially, physically, and emotionally. you're young. and if hes 18 that would make you jail bait. and theres always that possibility that he will leave you. if you want a baby badly think of the how it would be in the future. if the father stays or doesn't stay. how your family will react. and some teens can't even handle having a kid and school. you should really think about it before acting upon it without even considering the full consequences. once that baby is here you are stuck.
2006-12-09 19:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by LaRae L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt call you a slut but i will say you are horribly misguided. you obviously have no concept what it means to have a child 24/7 or you wouldlnt want one. your life is OVER once you have a baby, its no longer about you or anything you want , or want to do. I'm sure you want a career someday? want to make money and get a job? well do that first, going to college with kids isnt easy.. and once you have a baby you will want to provide that baby with everything you can.. you need a job/money/a home to do that. i've worked sure, but i'm a SAHM now and without a doubt it is the hardest job i have ever done or will ever do. there is no time for ME. i rarely even get to go to the bathroom alone. I'm not complaining, this is what i chose for myself and of course i love my children but would this have been a wise choice at 15? no way in hell... And if you are 15, you must really be expecting your parents or mother to help you raise this child, emotionally, financially, etc. I rely on my mother a lot even NOW to help me out (babysitting etc). since your mom will probably have to do a lot of the work, perhaps you shold ask her opinion on you having a baby before you ruin her life too?
2006-12-09 18:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mina222 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not wrong to want a baby at your age as a teenager hormones are going crazy and your motherly instinct is kicking in,take it from me i had a baby at 15 and i's not easy. can you support the baby financially? what about not sleepin?,or going out?
now is the time to party. i had to grow up fast having a baby so young, dont get me wrong having my son is the best thing tat ever happened to me but think logically about the best intrest of the baby
are you going to be able to provide emotionally,physically,financially,mentally? if you cant say yes to every question i asked then you should definately wait at least until you can get a job and get some money coming in. i am not saying its okay to have a baby so young but i figure your probably going to do it anyway so theres my advise..hope that help..best of luck-lani p.s.try having a small infant around for a week to see how well you handle it that may help ypur desision.
2006-12-09 18:59:14 · answer #11 · answered by Lani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋