why can't u trust ur own friends. i told my friend that i liked this guy and she told him right away. help!!!!

Question

i told my friend that i like this boy named Julian. She thought I was joking because she thought he was very ugly. I explained to her that i like how he looks and the way he acts toward girls. She told me that she would never tell anyone. Later, in a couple of weeks she tells my other friend, and i sort of get mad but then i get over it. I started realizing that i was in danger because i told my friend. and ofcourse in a couple of weeks she told him, but i still don't understand why a person has to tell others someone else's sercrets. please help me understand why someone has to tell someone else about there secret?

Answer 1

You should be able to trust your friends with secrets. It doesn't sound like she is a very good friend. BTW, Ben Franklin said something like, "A secret is only safe if both people are dead." The point is, a secret is best kept to yourself. That being said, you should still be able to trust your friends. You might want to re-think your friendship and sit her down and tell you how you feel. If she doesn't get it, tell her bye-bye.

Answer 2

Here's the thing to remember, a secret is no longer a secret once you reveal something to someone else. As for your friend, she can't keep a secret. Now that you know this about her, never tell her anything that you don't want others to know.

I think people talk because they want to be the first to let others know something that is private to someone else. Maybe she thought she was doing you some kind of favor by letting it out that you like this guy since you weren't telling him yourself. Or who knows, she might like him herself and wants to ruin it for you.

In my opinion, this person is not your friend. Never trust her again.

Answer 3

well.. its ur fault tho. u dont simply share secret with people u barely know.. the only person u can trust is urself! n if u wanna share secret, make sure its the 1 u know well. well, basically u can see by their personality whether their trustable or not.. so be careful next time ok. never ever share secret with people. but maybe ur friend helped u out. who knows if julian ia also interested in u. good luck! :)

Answer 4

Here is a helpful hint: Dont tell anyone anything. I know it is nice to get things off your chest but dont do it. It ALWAYS ends up biting you in the ***. Trust me. Even if they dont tell on purpose it will come out accidently. And then if you guys fight, the whole world will know. Just learn your lesson and move on.

Answer 5

Really when I think about it, the same thing happend to me. I think when it comes to secrets like that, you shouldnt telll anyone! Just because there your friends, dosnt mean they wont tell. To me, girls arnt that good of keeping secrets anyway.

Answer 6

Darling, some people cant help themselves....they THRIVE on other peoples lives....these people are everywhere...(have them at work)
Unfort, just move on......hey, now may be your chance to get with the guy you like. =) Dont be shy...Start a casual conversation with him; get to know him.

As far as your friend goes........thats just how they are. LEsson learned; forgive them but tell them nothing else

Answer 7

Sweetie,I don't know how old you are. But you will find that you cannot trust most females you encounter! I am not trying to discourage you at all! It's just simply the truth!

Answer 8

She doesn' t know how to keep a secret. Don't tell her anything you don't want the whole world to know.

Answer 9

She's not a real friend.Never tell people about your crush until you & your crush have a solid standing.People just mess it up for ya. Now,,what about talking to your crush,,be a friend,,be friendly & smile.If he responds,,keep it rolling ;O)

Answer 10

last secret to that friend!

D O H !