Ok, so it has been... well about on monday it will be a month since me and my girl broke up. She still says that she loves me... but is not in love with me, get jealous when she thinks I have other girls... but has a new friend in her life.... says they arent together. I think it is time for me to let her go... I mean I dont think she is coming back... I miss her, and love her... but I think it is time to forget about reconcilation... how do I just let go the woman that I love?
2006-12-09 18:03:52 · 15 answers · asked by lost_93710 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no easy way of letting go of some one we love...It takes time..keep busy and surround yourself by friends and family and use this time to enjoy being single again,,Good luck!!
2006-12-09 18:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by BUH ~ BYE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. I had a high school sweet-heart and we were madly in love for a long time and he was my first love. No one ever forgets there first love. We mutually ended the relationship after we both realized we wanted different things in life. I got married not long after that to my current husband. While I love my husband more than I ever loved my b/f from long ago, I still think about him on occasion and its been years since we broke up. I let him go by moving on with my life and doing my own thing. I avoided the places we went to together, started dating, and started finding new things to do. There is no recipe for letting her go. It will take time. Breaking up is a form of grief. You kind of have to find your own way to get over her. Hope that helps!
2006-12-09 18:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are hurting, time heals!!. I think for a start don't call her and don't receive any calls from her either. By receiving calls from her she shows you that she is jealous etc or may give you that little bit of hope, which is all false. People that do that are selfish and it isn't fair for the partner left behind. Start going out even if you don't feel like it, just try not to spend too much time alone. In time you will see!! it will get easier. Good Luck x
2006-12-09 18:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Vanessa. Go out and have fun. I read from a very experienced therapist one time that said, go out and prove that life can go on. Even though you may love her,,,is it really true love or is it rejection that bothers you most? Believe it or not, life will go on and you WILL look back and see why things happened as they did whether you agreed with it in the beginning or not. Show her that you can move on and never tell her that you need her in order to survive. Her envy of you and other girls should tell you everything you need to know.. She wants to (maybe) have the time of her life,,,but,,, make sure you're still standing by in case she changes her mind. Your solemate is out there somewhere and sadly we have to endure many broken relationships sometimes, before we find them. Take heart and the best of success.
2006-12-09 18:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have soooo been in your shoes. It's never easy and every day you're going to go back and forth between thinking you've finally let her go to thinking you'll never be able to. The truth is that you will probably always love her but the only way to get over her and move on is to keep away from her and let her live her life. Time will take care of the rest. It's going to be painful but eventually you'll have enough time and distance to put it behind you. If you don't keep away from her and let time heal the hurt, then you're never going to be free. She will always have a grip on your heart until you stop seeing her and let her go the way she has chosen to go.
2006-12-10 00:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we have to let go of those we love, for our own sanity. she doesn't tell u that she is with him because she isn't sure it will work out, so she keeps u in her life, as a second, cause she doesn't want to be without anyone. time to move on with someone else, and not wait, if she is no longer in love with you, means she must be in love with someone else. takes time for the heart to heal, but it always does. it's her loss, she lost out on all the special things that she could have expereinced if she had stayed with you. sure we miss people we have loved, and we may always, but why stay where your not loved, even if she did split up with him, and come back to u, the damage has already been done, as she has made it plain, she is not in love with u, and how long would it take her to leave again, cause she is not in love with you.
2006-12-10 03:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all love yourself and wish her the best, you can still love her you need to take this time to get to know yourself as a whole even without her. It takes time but also its a frame of mind. They say when one door closes another opens.....
2006-12-09 18:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by milo2angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However you can, how fast can you get a date and flant that in her face. Better to be safe than sorry later on. Chalk this up to experiance. Next time hopefully will be better for you. Been there. Not a good feeling
2006-12-09 18:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by melo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to let someone you love walk away but if you have tried to get her back and its not working adn its bein a month maybe it is time for you to move one but maybe you can still be friends...remember everything in life happens for a reason even if you dont want them to!! maybe in time you will meet someone you will love even more !! best of luck!
2006-12-09 18:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it's obvious that she's being greedy and selfish. She wants everything good for herself but doesn't bother how u feel. Ask urself these questions, "Is she worth it?" "Has she done anythg worthy of ur love?" If no, don't waste ur time keeping her in ur heart. I believe there are better ladies out there waiting for u.
2006-12-09 18:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋