k now that i got wat you think i should tell my cuz about him and his girl getting pregnant at 15.......i want to no how i could help him ...his girlfriendz parentz are mad and she is now living with my cuz and my grandma cuz his girl'z parentz said if she stayz with them she cant talk to my cuz and he cant be apart of the babyz life but she was like NO!!! (my cuz lives with my grandma cuz his dadz in jail and my grandma doesnt like the mom) well my cuz said the reason he wantz to keep the baby is cuz he needz some responsability and sumthing to care for in life because hez going nowhere with his and he trully sayz he loves his girl...they've been 2gether for 2 yearz............wat can i do to help???????????
2006-12-09 17:58:13 · 15 answers · asked by BrOwN eYe'D cHiCa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
let me help you out!! i am a proud 17 year old mommy of 2!!!
this is a big deal and i know you wanna help, be there for him in any decision he decides to make whether you think its right or wrong..this will build trust between you..i had my first baby when i was 15 and me and my boyfriend have gottin along fine. we both got out on our own and got an apartment together got jobs finished highschool, through home school and are now in tech and college and our 2 baby is on the way. so i have no dought that your cousin can handle it. my advise for you is to be there for him 100% when your a teen parent you do need help and support of those you love..take it from someone who knows, my mom and mom in law have been the biggest help to me.. so me n my biyfriend still get to have fun!! i hope my answer helps, tell your cuz good luck and congrats-lani
2006-12-09 18:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lani 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We would like to think that we are resposible before we have child, not after.
I feel sorry for a 15 that thinks his life is going no where.
If he wants something to care for many he should start with a puppy not a baby.
No matter how long they have been together a baby will change EVERYTHING. Even the way they feel about each other.
If they truly want to raise this baby then I would tell them first FINISH HIGH SCHOOL. If grandma will let them live there they they need to STAY. They also need to make a plan on going to college and getting a degree or they will go NO WHERE in life.
Then they need to start taking parenting classes, and learn how to save money. They need to start working. Part time or full time, which ever, but they need to learn that what ever child hood they have or had is OVER and they are now needing to move into adulthood.
Having a child does not make them adults, but how they act and what they do will make them become better adults and better parents.
2006-12-09 18:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your cousin needs something to take care of, he should get a nice house plant, or maybe even a pet. A baby is too much responsibility for a couple of teenagers. Please encourage your cousin to encourage his girlfriend to give the baby up for adoption.
A good goal for him to go somewhere with his life, by the way, would be to complete his high-school diploma. If he can't even handle the responsibility of going to school and not getting in trouble, how could he possibly support a family?
(www.itsaboutlove.org is a great organization to help with pregnant teens)
2006-12-09 18:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let them work it out, they made the kid together, now they have to deal with the consequences of it. But they do need to come to an agreement. But for the most part, you just stay out of it, because if you get involved, you can make stuff worse before you make it better. And that other guy's right, you really need to work on your spelling, and you don't have to put a "z" at the end of every word you know.
2006-12-09 19:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a real man for wanting to keep the child. They can do it. Abortion is not a form of birth control. If they are old enough to have sex then they are old enough to have this baby. I would encourage your cousin to clean up his act and stop getting kicked out of school. Finish his education and get a job. If other parents can do it so can he. He needs to stop the nonsense and be a man. This will help one day down the road when the baby has grown. Does he want his child to look up to him and want to be successful? If the dad doesnt clean up his act the child may end up like him. GROW UP!
2006-12-09 20:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st of all, next time u ask a question, will you type correctly? All those Z's are getting on my nerves and giving me a headache.
As far as your problem...
is he mature enough to care/wacth over another human being? A 15 year old rasing a child...God, thats going to be difficult...possible, but very difficult.
I wouldnt let this child visit the grandparents (grandfather) who is in jail....nope....no way Jose....
guess the only thing you can do to help would be maybe to babysit so she can enjoy everything a 15yr old should be........
2006-12-09 18:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is support your cousin. He is probably emotionally hurt, even if he's not showing it. Ask him if he'd like to see a counsler. Offer to help in any way you can and show him that you really care.
2006-12-09 19:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by World of Suffering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support him and his girlfriend. But his gf's parents are right - 15 year olds shouldn't be having sex, let alone getting pregnant. How will teenagers be able to raise their own child if they're still being raised themselves?
2006-12-09 20:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Total Eclipse Of The Sun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just support them like a cousin should...it's good that your open minded and have love for your cousin whereas her parents do not...thats sad...if it's any consolation they feel the same before this happened as after...they just never showed it...thats a theory of mine...
2006-12-09 18:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know what language you're speaking, nor did I know there was a language where they say 'cuz' after every other word.
2006-12-09 18:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋