Married stepson's father in 2000 . Sponsored SS's green card (at BOTH parent’s request/blessings so that SS could have "a better life" in USA). Met SS 6 mo. ago--1st time. Almost immediately he was smart-mouthed towards me, ignored my requests and was contemptuous and ungrateful to myself and America culture in general. Saying Americans were mostly “stupid and greedy”, he liked making fun of me to my face both in English and his language. My husband either accused me of lying or did nothing! 1 night he starts mocking me, laughing w/his sister about it. I told him to stop or go to his room. He glares. Says, “You want to make me!?” I said”…OK” and grabbed him. He pushes me. I wrestle him to the front door and shut it. He tries to kick it down! I call his Father. 20 min later F. arrives. SS going ape$h!t on the door. F yells at him but, later tells me that his son may push me "over the edge 1 day" so we should seperate. Would U feel used and hurt or relieved and happy? Either way, why?
2006-12-09 17:50:55 · 18 answers · asked by Gracie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be happy to get away from these people. Sounds like they got just what they wanted from you and are through with the need of you. Move on out and let them be what they are. Really surprised you have stood it this long.
2006-12-10 05:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by jerrycarr99029 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not a lot you can do with out the support and respect of his father I would demand those two things and not back down.If the father and son cant give you that then i would find it hard to subject myself to that sort of life.
SS sounds like a brat at best and will be in the good ole' American penal system by the time he is 18.So either now or later SS will be gone and im almost positive you will be the one that gets the blame.
2006-12-09 18:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by mint_julip1122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start either way his father should get some control over his son. I wouldn't feel relieved I'd feel very hurt. May-be your husband hurt him when he left and he may be blaming you for it. I think try counsellings with the whole family mainly you, your stepson and your husband. I would think 6 months is enough time for you two to have made a connection nothing to lose!! wish you well.
2006-12-09 18:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...I am dating a guy with two boys ages 5 and 10 and I must say it is Hell! The kids are ok but I am a woman with no kids and it is so hard to tolerate his kids. I could not imagine the hell you are going through. I simply would not put up with it. It seems your husband is NOT on your side and you need support. I would think about a divorce and find someone that respects you. Life is too short to put up with an ungrateful brat and his unsupportive father. Find a man with no kids and focus on building a life upon peace and happiness. Trust me...my new rule is no dating guys with kids. Kids from a previous relationship is "baggage: to me and I seriously have no patience or tolerance for someone elses baggage...especially smart mouth brats. Good luck!
2006-12-09 18:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by LenaRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump the husband and stepson pronto. Also report to the INS. Withdraw your sponsorship of the greencard if you can. These people are just using you for a green card. Nobody should be treated the way you have been treated. Say goodbye right now.
2006-12-09 18:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel relieved, if the father wants to leave you over that then goodbye, he obliviously doesn't love you then.
I would also tell this son he will no longer have your support with his green card.
If you really want to be a bi*** then you could call INS and report that you no longer want to be on his application because you weren't aware of his hatred toward Americans until he got here.
If he puts his hands on you again, I wouldn't put my hands on him, I would call the police and have him taken away for abuse and report that to the INS also.
good luck
2006-12-09 18:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously think that the courts are going to consider the child emotional and academic well being far more than the child support payments. With this said, you need to go back to the courts (your husband) and file a petition to have the support payments stopped for this child. Custody cases are always changing and the courts are always looking for what is in the best interest of the child.
2016-03-29 01:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has seen that you are capable of violence with his children. The children will always come before you whether you like it or not....that is human nature. If it was my kid I would leave you. Its up to the parent to protect their child no matter what. The kid is 14 that's what 14 year olds do. Personally if I were you I'd be happy to get out of there if it is too much for you.
2006-12-09 18:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be hurt by the way your husband acts and if he is going to let the child do that to you then i would question the relationship between you and your husband. i would be relieved that the child wouldn't be mocking you or this country. you didn't have to do anything you did for him.
2006-12-09 18:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by punkins_wife121705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a pretty abusive situation. You are doing all this for him and his son and being treated like that?
What are you getting from the relationship? Is it worth it?
I think I'd be releived to be loose of that burden.
2006-12-09 17:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋