What would you do if you were married, your other half was drunk in a club and was groaping someone of the opposite sex on the dance floor without wearing thier ring or letting the other person know that they were married? Would it be different if the other person made the first move?
2006-12-09 17:47:36 · 21 answers · asked by Melissa F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Grow up and smell the adultry! Of course it makes no difference who made the first move............if she made the first move on him, he can pretend to be a big boy and make a move away from her.
The no ring makes it premeditated to me. There is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour within the boundaries of marriage. You guys need to sit down (when he is sober) and either establish some parameters or reinforce those already in existance. I have a feeling this is not an isolated incident. I further believe that you know what you need to do for yourself; you are just seeking validation.
You are the best judge of your own relationship. The fact that you are asking this question here shows me that you are about at the end of your rope ; so, tie a knot and hold on cause I don't think it will get any better.............do you?
2006-12-09 17:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Smartypants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stand for it one bit. It doesn't matter if the other person made the first move, because the sig other didn't have their damn ring on in the first place. How was that person suppose to know that they were married? How many married people go to clubs get drunk and not have their wedding rings on? If someone is going to a club with out their ring on they are going to that club to cheat.
2006-12-09 19:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that question has to depend on the strength of your marriage. If the other half just needed to blow off a little steam and you're secure with the fact that that's all it was then it's no big deal. However, if you feel it was inappropriate you need to talk to the other half about it. If they are worth anything they should understand your feelings and behave differently in the future.
I can understand being upset and even hurt by his actions but as far as the leave them and don't look back comment...That's crap. A marriage isn't something you just walk away from because your other half wasn't wearing a ring and was dancing with someone else! Marriage takes work. You will face a lot harder trials than this one in your marriage!
2006-12-09 17:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would start going with this person and if they gets too close to someone on the dance floor cut in. Or just drop in when you know that he/she is there. That would be a nice way to get the the other person's attention don't you think?
2006-12-09 17:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other person didn't "make the first move" if your partner is already drunk, dancing, groping and pretending to be single without their wedding ring.
2006-12-09 17:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes no difference which one made the first move... he should be making no moves without you! That is what marriage and relationships are, unless you have an open one, then that could happen. That is one reason why hubby and me are divorcing... we had two different views of marriage... his changed after some girl touched him and he liked it, and I would not agree to letting him have an open marriage... not for me!
2006-12-09 18:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's irrelevant who makes the first move. The point being your mate is making a fool of himself, and you as well. I might walk over to them, and let her know that you're taking your drunk husband home. However, I might be more inclined to leave him there and go on to another club.
2006-12-09 17:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! An adult knows the difference between right and wrong! If it was me I'd be grinding with someone on the same dance floor!
2006-12-09 17:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by nurse33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy?
No it's not ok for your spouse to be doing this.
If they really loved you they would be wearing that ring and by your side.
Some say that alcohol brings out peoples true feelings, think about that.
2006-12-09 17:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it would not be different if the other person made the first move. your spouse should have ended it before it got that far. something fishy is going on if theyre no longer wearing their ring. It makes you wonder if theyve done this before......
2006-12-09 17:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by huukedonfonix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋