Does anybody here...?

Question

Have Family problems
like Parents r divirced
or One of ur perents took off
or Siblings r bad influence on u
or one perent lives somewhere an the other lives somewhere else
or anything else i left out?

how did it affect u when u grew up?
if u dont have family problems
do u no a frnd that does?
how did it affect them?

Answer 1

My parents split when I was 9. I am 32 now. My father decided that he was gay and we had just moved to texas from the east coast. Imagine the change. My mother didn't want us so dad got custody. How hard is it for 2 girls to be raised by a gay man? Very disturbing especially if you want to bring a guy home. My best friend was aguy and one of my dads gay friends would hit on him. Very embarassing. My parents both lived in texas, but made sure it was on opposite sides of town from each other. After I turned 12 I did not see my mom till I was pregnant with my son at the age of 20. My father taught me about my period and I never felt love from either parent. My father was too busy so he replaced love with expensive gifts, and yearly birthday parties. My mother came around when she heard from a neighbor of my dads that I was pregnant. My younger sister was a backstabber, she stole money, men, clothes, underwear and my car from me. I was dumb because, I thought since she was my family I was to continue to help her. When she slept with my boyfriend (which by the way my own father helped her steal) that was the last straw. I had not spoken to her until she had her first daughter which was 5 years later. Then she tried to kiss my husband and I have not spoken to her at all. My sister is an alcohol, dug addict and those traits were given to her by my father. He let her tries the drugs he was taking. Talk about bad role model. I stayed away from my father and sister until my father. My father told us when I was in the 11th grade that he had AIDS. After the previus event of them stealing my boyfriend, I did not talk to them again until they called me and told me my father was dying in 2003 and he named me his power of attorney. I granted all his wishes despite the anger and hurt he had caused me thru my life. He wanted to be cremated, and have a small ceremony. I gave my sister his ashes. i did not attend his ceremony. My sister tried to cash his SSI checks to pay her rent she got mad at me when i intercepted that by having them sent to my home. I grew up thinking that no man would love me and I grew up not knowing how to love someone else. I went through 12 bad relationships before I met # 13 which we have been married for 3 years. He has taught me to express my feelings and he has taught me it is okay not to be perfect and it is okay to show my emotions. He also has taught me how to hug my children and show them that family is important and love is special and NO child should be without it. I hope this helps, it has help me vent out a lot of emotions and beleive me you will feel better if you realize that you should not be a product of your parents environment. You have your own mind and use it wisely.

Answer 2

My parents are divorced... I did not meet my dad until I turned 20. He was (he passed away last year) an alcoholic. As for the other parts of your question, I know many of my friends that have struggled with all those issues. I cannot answer for them, but I can tell you I felt lonely a lot when I was growing up. I felt like a piece of me was missing. I struggled with my step-father, and being the odd person out in my family. If you are in any of those situations... don't despair. Many are, and there are many people who will listen. Feeling sad or confused is part of it. Find someone you trust that you can talk to... maybe your guidance counselor at school (don't worry... it won't be like South Park...m'kay?). Hang in there.

Answer 3

I think that everybody has some type of family problems. Family problems are not limited to only those that go through divorce and separation. Living with people period is enough to cause problems. It's part of being human, there are bound to be differences and sometimes they are major. Therefore, families that stay together are not without their share of issues. How do they affect a person? Well, everyone is different, but how you react to those issues is what is the key. As humans, we all get sad and depressed from time to time, but as long as you are acutely aware of not letting those emotions control your being for too long is the essence of balance. When these issues come up that are out of ones control, you need to recognize what you CAN control, and that is your reaction to the situation. If you strive for balance, recognizing that you are not responsible for all of the things that happen around you, amend that the things that you ARE responsible for, and look for positive healthy outlets when things occasionally go south, you will be fine and prosper through your life. All these events are what shape and mold us as individuals, and our reaction to them to them is the foundation for who we allow ourselves to become. For THAT you are responsible!

Answer 4

Grew up on welfare. Mom and dad divorced when I was two. Dad died when I was six. Was molested at eight. Life is never perfect for anyone. We are 100% responsible for fixing what happened to us as children. I wouldn't change a thing. These obstacles have made me who I am today. You CAN overcome anything! No excuses, no regrets.

Answer 5

Only my two kids...until they're 18. I give them a certain amount of freedom, but not too much. They're still little. I let them be themselves, but I don't let them be disrespectful or destructive. And I pay the bills and buy the clothes so they wear wth I tell them to.

Answer 6

Yes
I tried not to let it affect me at all.

I have a 15 year old son that's a sk8ter, too.
Hope you have as much fun as he does.
Take care & don't break too many bones!

Answer 7

my parents were going to get divorced. I think because of that i've become very jelous and suspicios with my bf, always affraid that he might have an affair or something. but all in all i've become very independent

Answer 8

i have a friend that has divorced parents.
for a couple weeks he was sad and downcast.
but he's fine now. he just learned to accept it and be happy that both of his parents are alive.

Answer 9

my friend, Pauline, lost her dad. at age 11. whenever we talk about our dads, she gets all quite. she even started sobbing 1nce

Answer 10

nope