My daughter is 15 and her very best friend in the world just told her she was gay. At first I thought she was ok w/ it but as time goes by I think I could be wrong. Tonight her friend came over to spend the night as she has done every weekend since they were 4 and her friend came to me crying asking to take her home...she said my daughter wil not undress in front of her anymore and will no longer share her bed. They have honestly slept togeather atleast 2 nights a month togeather for 11 years. I asked my daughter and she said it makes her uncomfortable now even though her friend has never even hinted to wanting anything other than friendship. Now this poor kid is asleep on my couch and my daughter is in her room...bothcried themselves tosleep. What can I do to help. We have no problem w/ her (the friend) being gay she is a great kid I just don't want this friendship to end. PS.. keep in mind we are from a very small town in Kentucky.
2006-12-09 17:27:49 · 7 answers · asked by GI 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This is a difficult situation. You should sit your daughter down and tell her that just because her friend is gay doesn't mean she wants to have sex with her. Let her know plenty of gay people and their same-sex friends go through similar situations and the gay person isn't "turned on" by it. Tell her it's nothing to worry about. And just have them talk calmly about it. I hope things work out between them.
2006-12-09 17:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your daughter has a right to feel uncomfortable, and you should not pressure her to share a bed, which may be sending more of a message than you intend. it is very painful and confusing for both girls, but real friendship will survive it, and they will find their footing again...i would say let them do it on their own terms. as much as you feel for the girl, your daughter is your first responsibility, and your first loyalty, but even if things are uncomfortable between them, you can be a much needed support for the friend. Hope things work out.
2006-12-10 01:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by rainydaydreamr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep the friendship going, they need to stay in contact, hang out, etc. They need to keep the strength of that friendship going so that they don't go their separate ways. Still, it will take time for your daughter to adjust and become more comfortable around her friend. In their relationship that's a fairly big change that will take time to get used to. They both need to talk about what's going through their minds and work out the problems that they're having. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-10 01:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a talk with them both for my hole senior year of high school my best friend used to spend the night with me and sleep in my bed with me at lease 5 days out the week and i never told anyone i was gay not even her and when i told her it was about a year ago we graduated in (2003) and tell this day if she is at my house she sleeps in my room and in my bed and she dosent care. so just talk to them both as long as she isn't making moves she shouldn't have a problem there both girls. i mean they have PE at school they dress around alot of diff girls and some that are still in the closet so she needs to think about that.
2006-12-10 01:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone sitting down and talking will help. It sounds like your daughter has insecurity issues that need to be addressed while she is still young.
2006-12-10 01:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your daughter can't except it for now and you really can't talk her into excepting it. she will soon miss that friendship that they shared an think things thru on her own. i say give her some time to accept it
2006-12-10 01:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Gayisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe all of you should sit down and talk ---all together--and hopefully get the issue resolved that way.
2006-12-10 01:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋