2006-12-09 17:23:18 · 13 answers · asked by Yami 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Try telling your date you are nervous. He may be nervous as well, and it will help break the ice. Go to a place you are comfortable with, and do not feel you need to be perfect. If you are too nervous, he may feel it is his fault, and he will be more nervous as well. And worry more about enjoying yourself and enjoying your date than trying to impress someone else.
2006-12-09 17:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Supercell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest the girls usually have it easier in this department, since guys usually have to take most of the "first steps" (asking out, first kiss, etc.). But being on a date is supposed to make you nervous. If you weren't nervous then it would mean you don't care if the person likes you - if you don't care then you shouldn't be on the date in the first place. So butterflies are natural. How do you avoid getting overworked? Don't think about it as a date. Think about it as a reason to talk. The whole purpose of a first date is to get to know each other and find out as much as you can. My girlfriend and I went to a hookah bar on our first date and just talked over the pipe. I told her everything - even some of my secrets. The more you open up, the more the other person will too. It's not about impressing them, it's about telling them what you feel and think. If it was meant to work out, then the person will respond. Otherwise you both go your ways at the end of the date, kiss on the cheek and that's it.
To ease your tensions, think of the worst case scenario. The guy doesn't like you (I assume you are a girl) and isn't interested. He may not care for your taste in music or on the NY Yankees, but at least he will know you are honest. Honesty and trust are the most important cornerstones of a relationship. Start there or you start nothing. Good luck.
PS. If you ever get to an awkward silence, it's always good to break it with an enthusiastic "So...!" followed by a question about the person. Everybody's favorite person is themselves, so give them a chance to talk to you about what they do, where they're from, what they think about a current event. a book or movie they read/saw. I sometimes like to ask if they've read a book i like and talk about it. It makes you look intellectual (try to make sure the book is not One Fish, Two Fish or the likes ;).
2006-12-09 19:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very hard question to answer without more info, so this advise will be generalising. Every person loves to talk about themselves, can you listen is the answer. If you can focus on your date and ask them questions about what they are saying to you, your nervous feelings will subside as you discover more about the person your with. Prior to going out on your date, make sure you are satisfied with how you feel about yourself. Don't put pressure on how you look, all you should be interested in is who you are. Whats the point of trying to be someone your not as the date will find out later you are someone else and that's when the trouble will begin.
2006-12-09 17:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by peter piper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On my first date with my girlfriend of 4 years, I listened, a lot. The first date will always be awkward, but if you listen a lot, the 2nd date will be easier in the conversation realm. Talk about mutual likes and dislikes. The 1st date is like a recon mission, because you both are looking for reasons to start a relationship. If you decide you want one, then converse on common ground on the 2 date.
Good luck.
2006-12-09 17:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by TheTimTrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and wear a low cut dress. C'mon... seriously, a woman on a date always knows that the person they are with is the nervous one, cause he ain't gonna get no leg if he does not come across as "the perfect man".
2006-12-09 17:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by rovertscott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you nervous dear? If it is a self esteem problem, possibly thinking that you are not worthy of his attention, well that's wrong because you are out with him, and he chose you. Are you worried about what will happen at the end of the night? Maintain control of the situation, and don't do anything you don't want to do. Finally, breath deep and enjoy.
2006-12-09 17:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is to be yourself.
you're nervous because you're afraid you might mess up and you're thinking you could ruin your date.
just relax. try to be more confident. wear your best outfit. open some lines for funny or personal thoughts. you'll be enjoying your date in no time.
2006-12-09 17:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by fakemoonlandings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A formal date may bring tension...try looking at it in a different way, maybe your with a friend and your just talking...also try more comfortable surroundings. I like outside more than inside for the fresh air and the open feeling.
2006-12-09 17:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you go out look in the mirror and look at your self,and ask your self if you would go out with you? of cores you would,like your self and it is easier to relax,it is not reality only perception.
just enjoy the moment,
2006-12-09 17:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend like you're old friends. Besides, he's probably as nervous as you are!
2006-12-09 17:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋