If I've been with him for this long, I might as well be married.
2006-12-09 17:20:08 · 24 answers · asked by california girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't tell him anything. If he doesn't propose, it is time for you to move on without him.
Remember this, a man knows what he wants and he doesn't need you to tell him what to do including giving him a deadline.
2006-12-09 17:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite acceptable and my only question is why even wait that long before at least acknowledging "that" as a possibility. If you are MADE FOR EACH OTHER then in a rather short time, which is difficult to actually quantify, you should know if the guy is just getting free service from you and plans on leaving anyway. By free services I mean possibly running errands for him, coking, missing outings with your friends because he HAS to see you only to be late or not show at all.
Then again I don't know the extent of your full relationship. Only you know in your heart if something feels funny. Do a sanity test and either stay or move on. Being independent is good.
TJ
2006-12-10 01:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Any Key! Push Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to let him know what is on your mind and that you want to get married,.. don't wait any longer than two years.
However ask yourself - do you want to wait the two years? If it was meant to be wouldn't you both know by now? If he takes you for granted now, what will it be like being married to him?
I know you have invested alot of emotional energy and time in this relationship so it's better to get an overall picture of where your headed now before you spend any more time walking down a possibly hurtful and fruitless direction. Be true to yourself is something I have read and I agree with.
We all only get one life to live, live it to the fullest and remember time is precious, fleeting and if any of us were to pass tomorow would we be happy how we lived? If you can answer yes then go on, but if you find yourself feeling no then, be strong and follow your true path.
2006-12-10 06:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by valley_storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giving ultimatums will cause the relationship to sour. If your man wants to marry you, than he'll ask you. Do you want your man to "rush" to the alter because of this "time frame" you're giving him? My advise, don't ask him. After 2 years if he doesn't ask you, MOVE ON!! If I was told that, I wouldn't be interested because it's more about your needs than his...it would put unnecessary stress on the relationship. Enjoy the relationship for the here and now, don't worry about 2 years from now; we can only live one day at a time...tomorrow is not promised.
2006-12-10 01:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Have you looked at the divorce rate lately? Many people today rush into marriages and ends up getting divorced between 1-6 years later.
My advice is to take your time and make sure the both of you want to spend the rest of your lives together.
2006-12-10 01:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does marriage make if you two are both happy? I would have been perfectly happy not being married, but in order to live with my hubby we have to be married (he's a Marine). But whatever, to each her own.. and I say, if you feel strongly enough about this, tell him... but a lot of guys dont like ultimatums and you risk losing him.
2006-12-10 01:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets put it this way. I wouldnt say a marriage proposal, but if the realtionship isnt moving after a certain period of time its time to leave. If you are living with him, and its been that long and you want marriage its reasonable.
2006-12-10 01:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try to put pressure on anyone with marriage that is asking for trouble, you will always be thinking, "did he only ask me because I told him I would leave?"
You want him to ask you when he's ready. You can drop hints. You can discuss the propects of you getting married but don't set a date on a proposal, that's a lot of pressure and you want it to come from the heart.
2006-12-10 01:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to lose him all together then by all means tell him you will only wait two years.One thing you can't do is force a man to marry you.Men are afraid of marriage and if you come on to strong he will find someone who isn't fixated on marriage.
2006-12-10 01:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been with mine for 2 years also...
dont rush it.
He's not ready obviously and if everything is going great, keep it that way. Dont get rid of him (not yet anyways) Talk to him at least about this...tell him how you feel but dont threaten him. Dont lose the best thing because u got into a rush...
2006-12-10 01:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋