I am unfortunately getting a divorce soon. I still love my wife more than she could ever imagine, I just have a hard time showing it and she has pretty much has fallen out of love with me. We have a beautiful daughter 16 month old daughter which means the world to me, I can't even begin to put it into words. I want to know if she will be able to love me like a child loves a full time dad. I want her to love only one man like a father. I wonder if this will be possible. I would like to hear from someone in my situation.
2006-12-09 17:14:18 · 4 answers · asked by Raul I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you make the honest committment to be in your daughters life it will not matter, she will love you as her father. Make sure you get as much custody time as possible. Your divorce is because you couldnt show your wife you cared, you admit that. Make every effort to show your daughter you care as often as you can. It could be your wife may come to understand that you are trying.
2006-12-09 17:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Raul, I am a divorced father of two wonderful girls (6 & 2). I went through asking myself the same question. The answer is that you are her Dad. Be there for your daughter and she won't forget it. I don't mean be a weekend dad or a Disneyland Dad, be there for her all the time and every time she asks because she will ask. She HAS to become the focus of your life and treat her as such. The reward will be her absolute love for her Dad.
2006-12-10 01:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raul, I've been there, done that. First, there's lots of support groups. Check with local counseling centers, look up the Internet for fathers groups. Next, very important to maintain good relationships with your soon-to-be-ex. You will always be the girl's father and your wife will always be the mother. No matter what problems come up in the divorce, you're both going to continue being parents as long as you're alive. So remember to work extra hard to cooperate with visitation programs. One or both of you will likely remarry, perhaps someone with a built-in family. More problems. Remember, your natural daughter is your natural daughter as long as you're alive. Be loving, be supportive, be honest and be realistic...with her and with yourself. And, good luck.
2006-12-10 01:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo! Group; Politically Active Dads, and another Yahoo! Group; Shattered Men. If you still love her, why would you be getting a divorce especially since you have a child? I have to presume that your wife does not love you and she is the one who filed for the divorce. But it was not stated in your post regarding her, so I had to ask.
2006-12-10 01:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by bruce041 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋