Should I cheat on my husband?

Question

I recently found out that my husband of 8 years has cheated on me ALOT! With several different women! He seems really sincere and I want to try to work it out cause I love him and for the kids, but I'm thinking about cheating on him just to make myself feel better. Like maybe I wont hurt as bad. Please help!

Answer 1

If you want to work things out with him then cheating isn't going to accomplish that. Two wrongs won't make a right and most likely, you will only end up feeling worse, not better because you are not really working on the "problems" in the marriage. All you'll be doing is adding another problem on top of it. Don't do it.

Answer 2

just because he step out on you does not give you the right to do the same, think about it what message are you sending to your children. As the mother and wife set an example and be the better person, and if he really sincere have him take an AIDS test that will let you know how sincere he really is and if you have already forgive him please do not bring it back up again, and if you think that you can not trust him any more then didn't cheat you need to talk with someone that can help you too work on your marriage if that is what you want to do. If not then I wish you and your family the best.

Answer 3

Cheating on someone to get even is stupid. If you meet someone and you do it because you feel you want to, that's different. It's not healthy for your relationship, but cheating just because your husband did it is mentally unhealthy. Deal with it as two separate issues. 1) How do you feel about your husband's cheating? 2) Do you really want to get involved with someone else that will really complicate your life being that you have kids and haven't totally decided how you will end up feeling about it personally or in the eyes of your children.

I don't understand why sex plays such a big roll in people's relationships. Look at your relationship. If you feel that he cheated because of you, you're wrong. It's likely either him or how you guys relate in relation to each other. If he cheated on you and you can't accept that, then he's not the person for you. That alone doesn't make you or him a bad person. It just makes your relationship not right for each other or it sends you into a new direction as to what you think is important in the context of your relation.

Answer 4

Unless it's with me, don't do it. Ok seriously, hell no. Leave him first, then find another lover. I believe most men will make a mistake once, but if he has done it over and over, or many times as you say, he will do it again. cheating on him proves nothing. Leaving him, taking time for yourself, then finding new love, will heal you. You cheat on him and it will never work, no matter what. It will only make you feel worse and things will spiral out of control. I believe most all men are capable of cheating. It's genetic, however, if he really truly cared for you, he would set aside those desires.

I have come close to cheating in the past, I went to a room with a very fine lady on a business trip, however as things got heated and this lady lie before, me, my lover's thoughts and images entered my mind and I could not go through with it. I've never come that close again, as it scared me. And I don't ever intend to let it happen. I would suggest breaking it off for a while and give yourself some time, then make a rationale decision.

Answer 5

Your husband is not going to stop cheating on you. Especially since you are sticking around. He knows that you'll put up with it. Cheating may help you feel better temporarily, but if you have a conscience you will feel guilty. The question I have for you is why you are staying with your cheating, disrespectful husband? For the kids is not a reason to stay married to a cheating dog of a man. He has put your life at risk and does not hold a high regard for you. Do some soul searching and ask yourself why you're accepting his bullshit.

Answer 6

Well, first off, just know...he's probably not upset over what he done, he's only upset for getting caught. Once might be a mistake, but several times is habit. He'll continue to do it. Second off, two wrongs do not make a right. It also will not make you feel better. You'll feel alot worse. You'll not only feel betrayed by your husband doing what he did, you'll feel guilt for what you just done. I'd say if you really think he's sincere and it won't happen again, work it out..no cheating. If you think there's a chance he's lying, leave him.

Answer 7

Oh that's horrible. I'm sorry that happened. I don't think you should cheat on him. You will still feel bad. Since you have kids I think you should talk to him and see whats going on. If he cheated on you with several women then he is not worth it but still try to work it out for the kids. If you cheat on him then it will only get worse, remember that you have kids if they find out how will they feel?How will you feel? I think that's worse then a divorce to them.If it doesn't work out then just get a divorce. Hope everything will be okay. You just have to be thankful of everything god brought in your life and go on with your life. Remember it could be much worse than it is. Just be thankful for everything and have a positive attitude and it will be okay. Hope you feel better :)

Answer 8

Cheating only makes the situation worse. you'll still hurt and it makes thing worse when and if your husband finds out. Cheating only makes the hurt go away for a moment and then when it's all done and over with the hurt is still there. Try to seek counciling if he is willing. Remember you are an example for your kids. Good luck.

Answer 9

Don't do it!!! It might make you feel "even" with him, but if he finds out then he will be able to throw it in your face in the future - don't give him that satisfaction! He might also use it as a justification to keep cheating on you, and it may come back to haunt you if you ever decide to get a divorce, especially since there are children involved. If you truly love your husband then try to work it out! Even if it doesn't work you will at least be able to live with yourself in the end knowing that you did everything you could to salvage the marriage.

Answer 10

I don't think that by cheating on him it will help you one bit. You don't like what he did to you so why would it be OK to do the same to him. If I were you I would go to counseling and try to talk this out. If you can work it out with your husband then that is great for you. I have to say that I have known for a little over a month that my husband cheated and it is getting harder and harder to deal with the feelings. Good luck to you.