Is it wrong of me to wanna have a baby at 15?

Question

Im 15 and desperatlly want to have a child of my own. I know I can take care of it and give it everything it needs.....Am I wrong for wanting this?

Answer 1

if your sure you can take care of it, than no it's not wrong. nothing can be wrong with a person who loves children like that. but i would wait. my mom is young and although i'm sure she loves it, you still have a few years of fun before you (not that it won't be fun with a kid, but you know).

Answer 2

No, you are not ready no matter what you think.
A baby is TOTALLY dependent upon you for the first few years of its life. We are talking 24/7/365 here.
You need:
-major financial resources ($ 10-15,000 to bring a baby into this world and approx $ 10,000 the first year of life)
-a good education to provide for the child (college degree would really be best)
-support from the baby's father (not gonna happen)
-the maturity to make wise decisions for the child (only comes through life experience and at 15 you don't have it)

If you REALLY want to find out what its like to have a child, take a Red Cross parenting class 1st, then volunteer at a child care center that has babies and work with a TRAINED worker who can show you the ropes. Finally if you have a baby in your extended family (aunt, cousin, etc) ask if you can come over and take care of or help take care of the child. This will give you a better idea of the care required.

Next, finish your HS diploma and get a job. You can't afford a child without money. No offense, honey, but we taxpayers don't need another mother on the welfare/Medicaid roles. WE have to pay for it, not you.

Answer 3

its okay to to dream about having a baby. I'm 19 and my boyfriend when i was 15 (who's still my boyfriend now), were madly in love. i wanted to have a baby so bad because it would be something that would bring me and my boyfriend closer. Ive always wanted to be a mother since i was young. now that I'm 19 and still with the same guy i am glad i waited. Theres so much excitement built up that since the time seems right now it will be perfect. you have your whole life to have kids, enjoy being a teen now! you'll see. Make sure if you do decide to have a child that you do it with the right guy and check with your parents too. I know you think you can take care of a baby but chances are your parents are going to play a huge roll too. Just really think about what your going to do before you do it. This is going to effect your whole life so you have to make sure its going to be perfect. Good luck with everything, but no matter what happens, remember everything happens for a reason.

Answer 4

I wanted a baby as long as I can remember. Being pregnant and giving birth was WONDERFUL. I wanted ANOTHER baby the moment I gave birth. (I think it might have been a hormone thing.) Anyway, being pregnant and having babies was the greatest thing I ever did. Now, my own kids are grown and I yearn for grandchildren. If you were my daughter, I would encourage you to give me many, but one of us would have to support that child and I am too old to work. Also, once you have that baby, you won't want to leave it, which is a righteous decision, but you need a husband to complete your family, and one who has enough income (probably college) to support a family, so you can stay home and take care of things at home, including breastfeeding the baby (free, uses up calories so you lose pregnancy weight), keeping the house clean (nesting instinct), and doing all the things that managing a household requires. Best wishes to you. I hope your dreams are fulfilled soon.

Answer 5

I think it's great that you love children. Go volunteer to work at a child care center. Or if your school has a program, sign up for the class. At 15, you don't have the financial means to support this child and it would be detrimental to your body and mind 24/7. You are someone who needs to explore your own mind and feelings first. You'll be more ready in about 5 years. But don't forget to play with kids as much as possible through an after school program or at the YMCA. There are many things you can do while your body and mind finish growing.

Answer 6

My my where to start. OK so I was 20 when I had my first child. That was a planned pregnancy and like you I thought the exact same things. But guess what!? It's freakin HARD. They cry and poop and puke and YOU have to take care of them. When they need diapers, formula or medicine YOU have to provide that. When they are 2 and flopping and screaming and kicking on the floor in WalMart YOU have to deal with them.
How would you afford to care for your child? You should be going to school and planning your future. Maybe some day after you have a good job and a stable life THEN you could have a baby.
If you think you could love your baby and take care of it now....think of how much of a better and proper job you could do of it AFTER you were older and more mature. If you won't wait for yourself.....wait for your baby.

Answer 7

Yes you are wrong. You CANNOT care for the child at this age. Maybe you think you can. What? Do you want to become a single parent, because - newsflash! You can't marry someone at the age of 15!! I mean grown women struggle to care for a child on their own. Besides you would anyway be living in your parents' house and use their money to "take care of it". If you have such an urge to have sex, rather satisfy yourself.. I mean really.

Answer 8

not wrong just naive and foolish. don't do it, have fun, your teen years won't last forever and before you know it you'll be grown and wish you could be 15 again! enjoy it while it lasts, your ovaries aren't going anywhere, they'll still be in perfectly working order in 10 years. in the meantime party and shop and enjoy all the full nights of sleep you get to have!!!

oh and another thing, at 15 you are still at a high risk for miscarriages and premature labor and ending up with a disabled child or permanently damaging your body. think of it as nature's way of telling you that you're too young. mother nature might be a bi*ch, but she's never wrong :)

Answer 9

Yes, it most definately is wrong for you, at age 15, to want to have a baby. You have your whole life ahead of you - relax, be a teenager and enjoy these years. Once you've finished high school then go to college. After college begin your career and once you're financially stable then meet a great man, get married and begin your family.
You can't raise a baby at age 15; you can't financially support yourself and the baby. Get this stupid notion out of your head and enjoy being a teenager.

Answer 10

When I was 15 I wanted a baby and guess what.. I was 16 almost 17 when my daughter was born. It was no walk in the park her father left me when I was 6 months pregnant... I had to do it alone and it sucked. I had to get up at 4 am to get her ready and send her with my mom to the sitters so I could go to school spend the day there go home and do my homework while taking care of a baby. I could only sit and watch my friends out the window, having fun and then listening to their tales of the night. When they asked me what i did, I was doing laundry making bottles and doing my homework. Its not fun, even though I love my now 5 year old daughter-- If I could redo things in my life I would wait to have her so I could enjoy the things that I did not get to.So please rethink you want.

Answer 11

my friend is 15 and is expecting a baby and she knos that a baby is way to much 4 a 15 year old and still stay in skool to get a good job so u can raise ur baby...
if u luved the baby u wouldnt bring it into a home were it cant b raised in a properly manner and in a good home and u would not want to bring all that stress upon urself.. mayb u should get an after skool job with kids??