Are you "friends" with your kids? Now.......I know alot of ppl say that you should never become "friends" with your kids cuz that's when they start to disrespect you as a parent. But I think, cuz I was their friend, they have become a better person today. My youngest loves to shop with me and see a movie. We talk about his personal life too, especially about the girls. I took himm to Lalapalooza a few years back (concert) We had a blast! My oldest and I talk about the same things too. Plus we go to concerts together. He also has a strange sense of humor!
This is for you young ones out there too.
Are you friends with your parents? Do you wish they would talk to you like an adult and not a 2 year old? Do they even listen to what you have to say?
Voice your opinion about the subject and be honest!
No need for snide remarks either. This is an actual for real question!!
I'll ask a dumb and dumber one later! ;D
Thank you
2006-12-09 16:06:06 · 11 answers · asked by serenitie51 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
This is one of those really good questions! I for my part do not have any children. But as I went through my childhood my parents were never home. My father was out chasing women, while my mom worked nights. In turn my mom started drugging. When my father divorced her, she lost custody of both my sister and I. My mom then stopped everything cold turkey, her drinking, drugging, and even her smoking. She then got custody of both of us. As old as I was, I was in no need of a mother figure, I needed a friend, and that's what she proved to be, well into my adult years. Now that she is older, she deserves my respect as a parent. Words cannot express how much my mom has done for us children. That's my opinion.
2006-12-09 16:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by APACHE 7 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's time for drastic measure. i doubt this has just started. You need to be home more. Being home only one day isn't enough. if at all possible, be home when he gets home from school. In future, make sure he comes right home after school and doesn't leave without your permission. also don't let him go anywhere unless you know the people he's with. not know of them, know them: Have met them and approve of them. Find out where he's getting the alcohol. If he's stealing it from you, you either need to stop drinking or hide it where you are absolutely sure he won't find it. For right now, he needs to be severely grounded. No friends, no parties, no phone, no leaving the house for at least a month. Take away cell phone, computer, TV, Video games, whatever it is that you need to to get his attention. Talk to him too. As much as he might not want to, you need to talk to him about everything that might be going on in his life. He is in trouble and unless you do something, it's just going to get worse. (teen's opinion)
2016-05-23 01:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a complicated line, but there is a fine line ... yes, you can be friends with your kids .. but friends with boundaries. My children know they can talk to me about anything, they can laugh with me, joke with me and be silly around me ... BUT when it comes to defining the relationship, I hold 51 per cent, and they have 49. I always have the upper hand, and that's the way it should be.
Do I talk to my children like adults? No, because they AREN'T adults. They have plenty of time to deal with adult conversations in an adult world. And, for the record, I get seriously annoyed when I run into 11 and 12 year old kids who think they ARE adults, who sit with the adults and attempt to butt into the conversation as if they belong there. For quite a bit of my parenting, I do tend to be old fashioned. Children have their place, and when you let them cross over that line, you ARE going to have problems.
However, none of that has anything to do with having fun with your kids and engaging in activies together. You'd be a pretty crappy parent if you didn't.
2006-12-09 16:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jaded 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm eighteen and I just went off to college away from home. I have two totally different relationships with my parents, because they are two totally different people with totally different view on parenting.
It's a miracle they are still together.
My mom is one of my most important role models, and she has always been my friend as well as my parent. I go shopping with her and can talk to her about anything. Because I am so comfortable with her as a person, I tell her everything about what I am doing. If I'm going to a party, I tell her, and I tell her all about the problems in my life. She was the first one to know about my first everything, and I think it's important to have that trust with your parents, that they aren't going to explode and loose thier head over things. Because she is so easy to talk to, I respect what she asks me to do. My curfew through high school was 1 am on the weekends, and I never, ever missed it. Even when she asked me to be home earlier, I obliged, because she didn't ever treat me like a child and I always understood where she was coming from on issues.
My father on the other hand, was a totally different story. He would have prefered me in my nine each night and in bed by ten, and to never ever date any boy. I never talk to my dad. I left for school in August and have talked to him only one time since I left. Because he is so condesending to his kids, and treats us like we're too young to even have input on how are lives are run I have never had respect for him. He's just not the kind of person I want to be, or I want my friends to be, or my boyfriend to be and if I person doesn't have qualities that I wouldn't someday like to have then I don't think that they are worth my respect.
I'm sure that everyone has their own personal reasons why they think one way or the other, but there are mine. I think it's important to be friends with your kids, they are more truthful and trusting that way.
2006-12-09 16:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by justme13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A parent, is a guide to the future, being a friend is priceless and gains more respect. Parents are children of God blessed with the privledge of guiding other children of God. I pray my children will always feel they have a friend, I offer alternatives not directives. Let them make thier choices and learn from the consequences.
2006-12-09 16:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents were not my friends while I was gr owning. They were very stern. I didn't talk to them about anything and I went astray with the wrong friends. Now that I'm older, me and my mom can talk about anything. Now I have a 6 yr old. I am his friend. He still knows I'm Momma and I will discipline him if I have too. I want him to grow up and be able to talk to me. I think most kids will respect their parents If we give them respect.
2006-12-09 16:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parent first and foremost. You are responsible to help them be the best they can at being a good person. Not to become a friend--it's such a fine line. Don't let them get to a point where they don't respect your authority.
2006-12-09 16:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen it work both ways. I wish that I'd had a better chance to get to know my parents. They both died when I was still young (20, 21) and I don't know now, what they were really like. I think my Daddy would have been a hoot to know, the little I did get to know him!
2006-12-09 16:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be a parent not a friend they will respect you more in the long run
2006-12-09 16:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by imjustmessinround 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am not really "friends" with my parents
they work a lot and i hardly get to talk to them often but i don't lame them because they are trying to give me a better life unlike the life they had
2006-12-09 16:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by booyah™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋