I'm a 22 year old happily married stay at home mom and college student. I have no problems with my life- I love being home with my daughters, and plan to have finished my schooling and started my career about the time my youngest starts Kindergarten. I don't do much without my husband or children, and that's fine with me. I have several people in my life (siblings, friends, etc) that are constantly telling me, though, that I need a life of my own. That I should go out and have fun- I'm too young to have the responsibility I have- Anything I say- they act like I'm not being truthful or like I'm covering up that I'm really unhappy. I don't know what to say to them when they do this. I AM happy with my life and I don't WANT to go out and party just because that's what other people my age do- How do I handle this situation?
2006-12-09 15:42:50 · 14 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Tell them that you are fulfilled in your choices, and thank you for the concern
2006-12-09 15:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 0⤋
I'm also 22 and just because I don't go to clubs or party every night, people wonder what's wrong with me. They don't understand that not all twenty-something year olds are attracted to that kind of a lifestyle.
It might be that they're trying to convince you that you're not happy. Maybe they feel like they're losing you or that they don't see you enough or something? Whatever the reason, of course you have to be responsible, you have kids. It doesn't matter how old you are, you are a mother.
They are probably telling you that later on in life you're going to regret not doing certain things and that you're going to miss out on a lot. Only you know in your heart whether that's true or not. If you truly feel that you are happy with the way your life is right now, all you can do is ignore them. No matter what you tell them, they wont understand.
2006-12-09 16:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Flo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're coming from. I'm 24, and people have always told me that I need to "have fun". I'm not married yet, but I'm engaged and will be married next year. When people talk about liking to go out or party, I just don't get it. I mean, I understand, and I like to be with friends and go places, but I don't know what people mean when they say to go and "have fun". I just don't find the same things fun I guess. And I have a completely fulfilling and satisfying life that is exactly the way I want it.
The people that are close to me have just come to understand the way I am, and I think they get it. But when I meet new people, they never understand it. It was especially hard when I was in high school and college. And it was really hard with girlfriends, because I had no interest in parties and stuff. But my fiance gets me a lot more. I'm trying to figure out what to tell you to tell other people, but I just don't think there is an easy way to explain it.
2006-12-09 15:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about that you are living the life that you want to live. Not many people have the opportunity to go to school for the career of their choice, and be a stay at home mom. Let them know that you are doing the things that you want to do. If you did the things that they want you to do, you would be living the life that they think you should live, not what you want to live.
It sounds to me like you have a sound plan for your future. And here is a novel idea, you actually like to spend time with your family which makes you a stronger family. Good for you.
2006-12-09 15:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I go thru the exact same situation. I don't have kids, but my husband is my life. He is my best friend and I love spending time with him. I can have more fun with him him sitting at home on a sat night than going out with friends to a bar. It's hard because thay can't imagine being satisfied with what we have, but you have to be here to understand it. You have to just tell them, this iIS your life of your own. This is the life you want and the life you chose, and if they can't accept that and if they really don't believe you, then they really don't sound like they are that good of friends. Trust me, one of my best friends and I had this discussion and I got really upset with her just because it didn't matter what I said, she demanded that I was unhappy and really didn't want to be married. It hurt me so much that not only would she not believe me, but she obviously didn't support my marriage. And although she has apologized and I have forgiven her, our friendship hasn't been the same. My husband has always made it clear that I can go out anytime I want, I just don't want to go out if it's not with him. We are just blessed with wonderful husbands and happy lives and I guess very few people can understand that. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-12-09 15:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know....some people think that going out at that age is the "normal" thing to do.
You're young, but you have the life that other women would love to have and you like it, you enjoy it, you're happy with it. That's the best part. Some people make night life thier life, but you have a better life. You have a real life. The life you have is priceless. Congratulations!
2006-12-09 15:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and I don't go out and party. I don't want to. I like doing other things that I find fun and quite frankly more stimulating. Like reading, crafting, painting, photography, going for walks and enjoying nature.
Tell them if you wanted to be a sheep you would go talk to one. Not everyone enjoys the same things. You have a life and your living it and enjoying it. Maybe it's them who needs the life if they think that life is about parties.
2006-12-09 15:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 10:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy with who you are! Invite those other people over to your house for pizza and to hang out in your world. They are probably jealous or disappointed that they don't have the old, single, care-free you anymore.
2006-12-09 15:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by twicewise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they need to do what makes them happy , and you want to be given the same right .
2006-12-09 15:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋