Anybody else has experienced this - OR - can shed light on any helpful information! plzplz! might seem gross?

Question

I was just reading a question someone posted about sex hurting because they had just lost their virginity. Understandably thats going to hurt for awhile...

But for me it hurts everytime. I lost my virginity 2 years ago (happened just one weekend) and just started resuming secual activity with my boyfriend in July. the sex was not infrequent by any means at the least 3 times a week but I was wondering why it hurts everytime. Even when it isnt rough...
Most of the time it will go away after awhile, but then I am usually a little bit sore afterwards..

It seems unusual that no one else has experienced this common occurance for me.

& to put 2 questions in one...

[Is there a way to experience an orgasm from intercourse with my man? I have never had one by doing that. How common is that?? Its not from not being relaxed and We've even gone hours before. Hes not small in my opinion (only have 1 other to compare him to)..he's close to 8 inches..

Any SERIOUS advice/tips/input/help whatev

Answer 1

By all means you should make an appt. with your ob/gyn to discuss your situation. Sex should not be painful everytime.

For your second ? Everyone is different, trust me you will know when you have an org. Just be open to trying different things, and different positions that just may rub the right way.

Answer 2

Most women cant have an orgasm with out some sort of manual stimulation to the clitoris. Start exploring your genitals and the rest of your body to see what works for you ...then relay that info to your boyfriend. The pain you are having during intercourse could be a few different things. You may not be lubricated enough. If you are "dry" during intercourse this can be very uncomfortable. If that's the case a good lubricant will help. Oral sex will also help with orgasms. start experimenting with different techniques. Most women don't require a man to have intercourse for an hour. 20 minutes in my mind is plenty. Especially if you aren't having orgasms that way. If you've tried all those things and it doesnt help. It could be a medical issue. Discuss it with your doctor or obgyn. You should be getting regular check ups and pap smears if you are having sex.
Also his size will not determine orgasm either as the first two inches of the vagina are the most sensitive.
Stop having intercourse and try something else for awhile. If you boyfriend is worth his salt. He will be more than happy to experiment with you. And by the way...if he refuses to go down on you (preform oral sex) Dump him. You will never have a decent sex life with him unless he is interested in your pleasure. It will take some effort on his part..instead of just sticking it in and expecting you to be having a good time.

Answer 3

I've only been sexually active for a few months, so I may not have the best advice, but for me it hurts when we haven't used enough lubricant. Another thing that helps is to use a warming lubricant because it has a sort of soothing effect. This helps especially for the pain that stays afterwards. Another thing I've noticed is that if he leaves it in for a long time after we're done and we're just cuddling, it hurts more later.
As far as the orgasm, you might not be allowing enough time for foreplay. I know you mentioned that you're relaxed and you go for hours, but for me trying to have sex for hours (him inside, different positions, etc.) is really different than spending an hour making out and playing with each other before he puts it inside. The foreplay is what makes it work. But maybe you're already doing that, in which case I don't know what to tell you. Good luck!

Answer 4

If your not well lubed before you start having sex, that could be part of the reason for experiencing pain during intercourse, so you might try using some K_Y jelly or someother form of lubriction that is designed for sexual intercourse, and second, have you tried using other positions and do they hurt as well? If you are still experiencing pain after trying these different suggestions, you might consider seeing your doctor, because you could have a medical condition that is the cause of the pain.
I really recommend that you see a doctor for a check up just to be on the safe side.
As far as your second question goes, as far as I know, it is common for a woman to have difficulty reaching orgasm while having intercourse in the "missionary" position, atleast I find it almost impossible. Try alterrnate positions, and don't be affraid to tell your man where he needs to touch you, and what feels good to you, tell him what it is that you need while having intercourse, and it might take some experimenting in order to find out what it is that you do need, in order to climax. Good Luck, and enjoy experimenting...... don't get stressed out about it, because that will only create more difficulty in reaching your goal!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

It is not important you have an orgasm every time you have sex.The hurting part could have happened during the first few encounters but every time now that could be a problem.So the best you could do is go to a doctor, and get aware as in why you experiencing this?And to enhance your knowledge I suggest you go through one of the many awareness books available in the market or any library near you.Hope you are able to overcome your problem.
Cheers.

Answer 6

1) Some things to consider with pain during intercourse:
You could have an infection (bladder, vaginal, cervical, etc)
Your boyfriend might be thrusting too deeply and hitting your cervix (8 inches is big)
You could have mixed feelings about sex, which can lead to tightening of the muscles in the pelvis (vaginismus)
You might need a little more lubrication (try KY)
Your boyfriend might simply be taking too long (KY might help here, too)
Condoms can irritate the vagina (try a different brand, or a lubricant, or switch to "lambskin")

2) If you or your partner fondles your clitoris during intercourse, you might orgasm (that's what it is there for). Stimulating your nipples might help, too.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Is it painful, like you can't even stand it? Or just tender?
Either way, I think you should talk to your gynecologist. It could be anything from lack of lubrication to an allergic reaction, a mild infection, or a sexually transmitted virus. You could just have especially sensitive tissue.

Answer 9

you don't have a orgasm with every man your body may not enjoy the feeling that your getting from him so you wont have a orgasm. but it sounds like hes to big for you. and that can mess u up?

Answer 10

i would say it might be wise to go see your gyno. or doctor and make sure everything down there is fitting correctly and that you can be able to handle it.