My partner and myself have sex only few times a year, which I find it very miserable and unfulfilling...
Worse, I am the guy who likes to have oral and prefers to try different positions. Everytime we started, she would complain very troublesome, and yacky for oral. To add on, she always find no time and says it is cumbersome to take shower after every activity...
In fact, I had more masturbations almost everyday to fulfill my needs when she is asleep. Both of us is in early thirties, and she still looks charming....
2006-12-09 15:37:15 · 20 answers · asked by viosrider 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time to start dating her again. Romancing her well...early in the day before you even get to the bedroom. Try cards, flowers and even a nice body massage...you can even sit and watch a movie together and begin your foreplay there.
And don't forget to tell her how much you desire her and that you think she is attractive. Women like to hear that and to know that their man finds them attractive.
Understandably, masturbation is NOT the preferred means of relief but instead of doing it while she is asleep, try beginning the act while she is awake and asking her to join in...she may find it sexy.
As for oral sex, she may not like it...or is she one of those who likes to be done but doesn't like to do?? Oral sex is a touchy subject and has to be handled delicately otherwise, you run the risk of making a woman VERY ANGRY!!! Careful....she may even come around slowly....maybe she will go for certain parts of it but not "finishing"....get my drift?
Now different positions, you BETTER BE VERY CAREFUL and had better come with a book! The reason being....if you come at your partner with strange idea about sexual positions that she hasn't done before with you and you have been together for a while, you will be accused of cheating! Those ideas have to come from somewhere!!! But if you have always been that way, you can tell her up front...."you know I have always wanted to try different positions....can we try one tonight? You may like it and if you don't, we'll stop." Many women will usually go along with that, as long as the man honors his word to stop if she doesn't like it.
But remember, keep telling her how beautiful she is and that you desire her. That is very important and I give you HUGE PROPS for that!!!
Good luck!!!
2006-12-09 15:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would try being a romantic.
Get some rose petals and throw them around the room, buy her flowers, or even sit and watch a love movie with her and cuddle. That would probably set the mood pretty well. If she's more of a kinky chick buy her some fun laungurie. Make her feel beautiful.
I hear once you get married the fun stops. I believe it shouldn't. Once the fun stops you grow away from eachother, and I'm sure you don't want that.
Have you tried talking to her about this? Maybe you should. Sometimes chicks want things but are afraid to bring it up.
Best of Luck to You...
I really hope I helped.
--bowski--
2006-12-09 15:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bowski 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because 'partner' carries a more serious tone to it than 'boyfriend/girlfriend'. If I'm still in the dating phase, getting to know someone. Then I would use the boyfriend/girlfriend title. If I'm in the 'love of my life, willing to do anything for, moved in together, paying off car payments, arguing about who is doing the dishes tonight' phase, then it would be partner. It would be husband/wife if marriage was legal but since its not yet its just partner for now.
2016-05-23 01:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hei !tell u what..Just bring a girl n let her saw it.lf she feel angry n make noise than u tell her what actually u need n she can't fulfiil u.Or maybe u can masterbite infront of her let her see how poor u are.lf she still like that than ask for divorce.
2006-12-11 11:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is common that there are divorces because of insufficient of sex. Thus ! maybe you can bring this up to her and threaten her of looking for a lover. Discuss this problem with her and see whether she can accommodate you.
2006-12-09 16:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there youve them, the ans are infront of you and she's telling you. time for you to act on it. dont always think of your needs and preferences. when it comes to intimate moments, both partners' feelinga are important too.
too troublesome . . . make it simple . . . too yucky . . . make it tasteful . . .lol.
you asked why and wonder, she ans your questions and time for you to solve them with . . . her.
2006-12-09 20:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by peggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something else going on here. If she doesn't want to have sex with you, there is an underlying problem that you need to fix. Talk with her, not us, to resolve this.
2006-12-09 15:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think id do some reading on sexual enlightment.
maybe you turn her off. ASK her.
If she's not perseptive, tell the relationship has to have more sex or be no more
2006-12-09 15:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must purchase some "Spanish Fly"
2006-12-09 15:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have tell her your problem and both of you have to solve together coz everybody is different
2006-12-09 16:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋