I'm 19-years-old, just moved out of the house, and found out that I am 9 weeks pregnant. I have a fairly good relationship with my parents, but I have no idea how to tell them that I'm expecting, especially when they were married and close to 30 when i was born.
2006-12-09 15:23:40 · 29 answers · asked by Just a girl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
At 19 I do not see, other than the initial shock value, why your parents would not feel excitement., it's not like you are a pre teen or similar.
So what if they waited until 30 to have children, doesn't mean everyone else has to, marriage is only a piece of paper after all....
Good Luck and may your baby be welcome into a loving family...♥
2006-12-09 15:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. There is no easy way. I was 21, newly married and 3 and a half months pregnant.... we were building a new house and I told my mom that a 2 bedroom wouldn't be big enough, because twins didn't skip my generation. I didn't know what else to do, but I do know that if you beat around the bush about it, or wait, it's going to eat at you and chances are they'll be supportive and you'll have freaked out for no reason.
2006-12-09 15:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by pjt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like any other adult, you tell them. You moved out on your own, so you took on your adult responsibilities. If you need help, then ask them for it.
Your their child, and unless they are just horrible people, they will support you. Family has a way of getting angry, cooling down and coming together. Don't get angry with them if they are less than thrilled about you being pregnant. They have hopes and dreams for you, and this is probably not the picture they saw. Be sensitive to them, and hopefully they will be sensitive with you.
Age has nothing to do with parenting... maturity does. I grew up fast when I had my son at 21 years old. Babies have that affect on most people. Good luck!
2006-12-09 15:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your position nine months ago. I called my parents up and told them I loved them and that I really needed their support, though they were not going to be happy. Then I told them the truth and that my decision was to keep the baby. They were mad at first, and then upset. But my baby is three weeks old now and my parents are head over heels. She's already spoiled. Be honest, and do it soon. Most likely your parents will resent not being told sooner if you wait. If you already have a good relationship with them, it won't end just because you are having a little one, it might falter for a minute, but hang in there. Best of Luck to you.
2006-12-09 15:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult but something they will get over and once the child is born, they will be so happy. being a grandparent is awesome from people i know of having the experience. Be in my shoes and try telling your parents you're pregnant by a 35 year old when you're 17! im now 19 but thats besides the point....good luck!!
2006-12-09 15:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be brave and tell them. At 19 you are an adult. I have seen 13 year olds on here that are pregnant, shocking. At 19 you are a grown up so I really don't think they will be all that disappointed. Good Luck to you and take care of yourself.
2006-12-09 15:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a close relationship with your parents, they will be supportive of you being pregnant. Plus, you are out of your parents' house, so they don't really have a say anyway.
I would suggest waiting at least 3 months before telling them because alot of miscarriages occur before 3 months.
It's easier if you tell your parents on the phone instead of face to face. Speak to whoever you are closer whether your mom or dad and tell them that you are going to have a baby. It's easier to say "Mom, you're going to be a grandma!" instead of "Mom, I'm pregnant"
2006-12-09 15:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to tell them. The longer you wait the harder it is going to be. I do suggest you tell them ASAP.
Wait untill they are in a good mood (usually the weekend when they are not at work). Have them sit down and let them know you have something to tell them. Let them know you need their help and support . They will be mad, sad or both. This is normal. Give them time to think about it and let it sink in.
If face to face is to hard, write a letter. that is what I did. I wrote my mom a letter than after I knew she read it I called her on the phone.
I know this is scary but once you tell them you will feel 10000 times better.
Write me anytime you have questions or concerns. I was 16 and pregnant so I know how it feels and how scary and confusing it can be.
2006-12-09 15:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to just be honest about it. Give them enough respect and tell them in person with just the 3 of you.. I am sure they will have a lot of questions and may even show some anxiety, just keep in mind that any anxiety they show is probably because they feel you are young and that you might not get to live your life as freely as they got to.. But I think they will be understanding. You are going to need them to be a part of the baby's life, so be patient with them and be patient with yourself. Be positive and caring to them as you would want them to be with you.
2006-12-09 15:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 and had also just moved out the house, with a good relationship with my parents too. I just called them up and told them on the phone. There was no way in hell i was gonna have them sit down and explain myself. Its your choice. They are gonna know sooner or later.
2006-12-09 15:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋