k so me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 1/2 years...but the only thing is...no ones really known about it because in our church your not supposed to date, our just supposed to get married through faith, and also you have to be a member(baptised) in order for the church to fully allow it. Well ya...neither of us are baptised and my mom recently found out about us from snooping in my cell phone. And know shes saying that I have to tell my dad, and my dad is going to say "since your together you have to get married right away" but neither of us are done with school and we were going to atleast wait till then to tell our parents but now were kind of stuck, and getting married isnt such the big issue, because we would have had to tell our parents at some point...the biggest issue is, will we even be able to pay our bills? together we have an income of $3000, our expenses would be $400 car payments each, house, groceries, insurance, health coverage etc.---is it possible to do?
2006-12-09 15:17:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not a jehovah's witness first of all...nor am i amish, i want to get married, i think were ready, we've been talking about it for a year, my parents would even give us a place to stay if we needed it, they arent going to hold a grudge, but my boyfriend thinks differently, he doesnt think we can do it...but i think hes just more afraid of telling his parents...and when we talk about it he says "im not thinking rationally" although ive figured out how much we would spend on cars, food, etc each much and we still have a good 500 extra each month. i know its going to be tough at first, we can make it work...weve made everything work out before.
2006-12-09 15:29:23 · update #1
The bible does demand pre-marital chastity, and honoring one's parents.
This article may help:
http://watchtower.org/e/19990215/article_01.htm
2006-12-11 02:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get married, don't do it! You could do it though, but it would be very difficult. Just tell your parents while you respect their religious beliefs about marriage, you do not find them very practical for your life. Tell them that money is a reality. Also, I think that your mother snooping is wrong and disrespectful. Aren't you upset? You're an adult. You have the right to be treated like one.
2006-12-09 23:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU CAN ...DI YOU KNOW THAT MAN CALL THE JUSTICE OF THE PEACE....
IT'S THE CHEAP WAY...
$27 IN MOST STATES
BUT IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM THAT WOULD BE THE BEST WAY.
BUT IF YOU WANT TO DO IT FOR A SHOW.. JUST MAYBE IT WILL COST YOU GUYS,
YOU DON'T HAVE TO MARRY RIGHT AWAY IF YOU'RE NOT READY TOO. WHEN IT COME TO THIS ISSUE THIS ISN'T ANY OF YOUR PARENTS BUSINESS.THEY DON'T HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOU DO... YOU GUYS HAVE TO MAKE UP YOUR MIND TOGETHER...BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO WHEN YOU GET MARRIED
2006-12-09 23:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you all are strong enough to weather through the bad times together because money doesnt matter love will always find a way money you can always find its love thats hard especially through the struggles through life.it was hard for us to but weve weathered through it all and were still holding strong but it wasnt easy follow your heart
2006-12-09 23:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by smokymcpot420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont sound like your really ready to get married....I wouldnt_
2006-12-09 23:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could make it. Just watch what you spend your money on.
2006-12-09 23:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU JUST ANSWERED YOURE OWN QUESTION NO YOU ARE NOT READY AND YOU MUST BE A JAHOVAH WITINESS
2006-12-09 23:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Judy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋