If you and a man have never met but have online chat -is that considered cheating?
2006-12-09 15:07:07 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are thinking it could be cheating then you are getting deeper into this relationship than you should be. Emails can be deceptive. On the monitor everybody seems perfect. So the person you are talking to seems the best ever compared to the real ones in your life. Its just an illusion. Should you ever meet the person you will find the image is very different from the reality. One test to see where email friends are at. If your letters and chat can be read by everybody near and dear to you then no problem. If the letters are getting personal you are heading for trouble.
2006-12-09 18:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that would be considered cheating at all unless you begin to become emotionally connected to him via email then I would say that would be walking on the fence since there is such thing as an emotional affair. But if you are going to seek his advice for solely his advice nothing else... then I don't see anything wrong with it. There are so many what-ifs in this situation... you be the judge of when you feel you may be crossing the line and step back. I guess the real question would be is... how would you feel if your husband/boyfriend was seeking advice from a woman would it bother you? Good luck!
2016-05-23 01:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sunflower !!!
And the answer is...........YES !!!! I'll explain. Short and sweet.
But nevertheless dangerous, risky and even painful!!!
Look, I'm a single woman, who was minding my own buisness,
when I bought a computer!!!!! Ahaa!!!! I needed help so I called
a technitian. He was such an expert, in handling not only the computer issues but also me. ( I was a very difficult custumer).
I was having more issues that the computer itself !!!
Little did I know that just from that first Internet contact, I was hooked on him!!!! "He swept me off my feet" ! I have to say, I'm a professional, mature woman, but wasn't ready for this.
Even I was surprised to realized, I FELL IN LOVE with this person, for being such a smart,polite gentleman/expert technitian
Dangerous.!!!!!!
That was a very short a sweet, emotional admition to the fact that I have feelings for him.( Strong feelings that is).
For a person I don't even know!!!
Risky Problems #1- He lives in the other part of the world!!
#2- He is 27 years younger, than me!!!
#3- I feel he is the perfect match for me.
Very painful:
I know I can't be with him, yet I wish I could. I know I'm way too old for him but, I didn't know how old he was when I first contacted him ? I didn't know I was going to feel like I do? I'm frustrated and cry,( could you imagine, genuine tears of love),
I get jelaouse of the fact, that I can't compete with younger and prettier girls. Then I cry some more!!!
I know he has to live his life, accordinly to his goals.
So, if I feel in love, with some one speaking on the phone and chatting on line, guess what , anybody else can too !!!
At least, I'm a single woman but yet this hasn't bieng easy!!!
BE CAREFUL!!!! Examine your actual relationship at this point, because if you are chatting so much with him, is because he is filling a space that is empty in you. You are enjoying it, you crave it, need it and if you are asking for advice is because, is very important for you.
GOOD LUCK !!! And wish me good luck too. I really need it!!!
ALLIV Z
2006-12-09 16:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you two are emailing and chatting about. If you are developing feelings for this man then yes it is cheating {emotional cheating} if all you talk about is the weather and the corns on his big toes and have no emotional attachement then no it is not cheating. But think about it, if your husband/bf was doing what you are doing how would you feel and I think you'll find your answer.
2006-12-09 15:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on what you talk about....if it gets too personal then your being un-faithful, personal stuff should be between you and your man, but general chat to pass time while you cant wait until he gets home to see him then your not cheating and you should keep it that way, if your happy then dont do anything to screw that up, its hard to find happiness in this world these days, keep yourself true and honest....and if he knows that you are then he most likely will too
2006-12-09 15:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by jim b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not unless your emails are sexual in nature. Then it is bordering along the lines of cheating. Neglecting your relationship in order to sent these letters, would not be cheating, but it would not be advisable for the health of your relationship. Having friends, whether they share your gender or not, outside of your partnership is healthy and should be encouraged. It is certainly not cheating!
2006-12-09 15:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you should go there. That is one of the biggest mistakes a woman or a man could make. I have a friend that did that and all she learned was to criticize her mate., because her friend told her the opposite of what ever she said about her "SOUL" mate. I believe I would get out,before you cause yourself a lot of misery. Merry Christmas and God Bless you always.
2006-12-09 15:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by grams40 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what ur saying to him, if u just make small talk then that should be ok, but I would not go any further than that. I made that mistake with a married man and was not popular with his wife! Don't go there!
2006-12-09 15:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not cheating. But why are you doing this? I've got to think that something is missing in your marriage or you wouldn't be doing this.
It ain't helpful. Let's just leave it at that.
You sound like you're looking for permission to do this. Your intentions don't sound honorable.
2006-12-09 15:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Survey says !...according to what I have read in the past....if you are in a relationship and carrying on a cyber relationship....most people consider the cyber relationship being cheated on.
2006-12-09 15:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋