my parents have been married for 20 years. I'm 19 and I have 4 older sisters and a 3 year old brother. I just found out my mom was cheating on my dad. should i tell him or isnt it my place to do so. my sister dont know yet, should i tell them.I dont want to break them apart, i love them both but I don't want to see my dad hurt. what should i do?
and my parents are computer illiterate so they'd never read this.
2006-12-09 14:55:52 · 19 answers · asked by Nicole M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put yourself in his shoes. Would you want to hear it from your son...a stranger...or the mother of your children?
2006-12-09 14:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by mthgr8one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should take your mom on the side and ask her what is going on and why she is cheating on your dad. Tell her that it is hurting you because you love your dad and you know what it will to do him if he was to find out. no don't say anything to your dad, maybe you can talk some sense into your mom, make her fell guilty and she will stop her fooling around. Tell her to think about the other children and does she thing some other man is really going to take care of someones Else's kids. Tell her that you will be there any time she needs someone to talk to and that you love her and don't want to see her make a big mistake on breaking up the family.
2006-12-09 23:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, i cannot say since i do not personally know you or your parents, but i would definately recommend doing what your heart is telling you to do. Do what you can live with! Make up your mind and then do it and don't look back! Your dad might be better off if he knows what his wife is really doing and i mean he might get some std from your mom. And since your mom is cheating, then they do not need to me married, in my opinion, but that is up to them. Your mother has no right to be mad about your dad finding out, no matter how he finds out, because she is clearly in the wrong here!
2006-12-09 23:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people are together you should not interfere. Something such as "cheating" is not for you to discuss with anyone.
I know a man who went with a married woman for 12 years and he knew she was married. The married woman NEVER TOLD HER HUSBAND about it and the "other man" lost in the end because the married woman moved to the USA from Canada. Her husband NEVER FOUND OUT AND THEY STAYED TOGETHER. If a woman can have a married life and a single life all in one I would say" she feels no guilt and wants it that way for some reason. In time something gives and you should not be the person to reveal such as secret.
2006-12-09 23:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it...and do NOT tell your siblings. If you feel you must do anything, take your mother aside and tell her confidentially that you know she is having an affair and you're concerned for her well-being as well as your dad and siblings. See what her response is. If you have found this information, then chances are that others will too
2006-12-09 23:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I am so sorry you are in this situation. I would NOT tell your siblings...no no no. I would, however, talk to your mom. You never know what is going on and it may be that there is information in your parents' marriage that you don't know. Please talk to your mom. First, before you tell her what you know, take her hand and make sure she knows how much you love her and care for her happiness as well as your papa. Hang in there and proceed with caution. She may blow up, or she may break down in tears. Either way, prepare yourself for what you may or may not hear. Good luck honey.
2006-12-09 23:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
However you found out tell your Mother but under no circumstances should you tell anyone else, if it breaks your family up you will always feel responsible and with good reason. Your Mom does deserve to hear it first.
2006-12-09 23:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your older sisters about this and get their opinions on how to handle it. This is a difficult question to answer. I understand that you don't want to see your dad hurt. I would feel the same way. Perhaps you should talk to your mother and tell her how you feel about this. Are you absolutely certain she is cheating on him?
2006-12-09 23:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SON IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE TO TELL HIM. BECAUSE YOU WILL CAUSE MORE HARM THAN HELP.IF YOU TELL YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOUR DAD WILL DO. AND YOU DON'T NEED THAT BLOOD ON YOUR HAND... JUST THINK ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU DO IN THE DARK WILL ALWAYS COME TO THE LIGHT. IN TIME IT WILL COME TO SURFACE. THAT WAY YOU WONT BE IN THE MIDDLE... JUST CONTINUE TO LOVE THEM BOTH AS NOTHING IS WRONG. MAYBE IT'S A PHASE SHE'S GOING THREW....YOU DON'T KNOW WHATS GOING ON BEHIND CLOSE DOOR...
2006-12-09 23:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible dilemma. You should definitely have a long talk with your mother about the consequences of her actions. Do not get further involved, but you should let her know how you feel about it.
2006-12-09 23:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom to make a decision. She either stops seening this other pig.. Or your mom tells your dad. If your mom does neither then tell your dad!!! It would not be fare to your dad if you mom gets a sexual desease and then gives it to you dad. that would not be kwel
2006-12-10 00:03:10 · answer #11 · answered by tamrick188 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋