When we first started dating I didn't know they were best friends I just thought she was a friend. I was jealous and talked to him about it and he just told me I would have to deal with it. So I told him that I wanted to talk to her since she would call and never say hi to me when they were talking. We did talk and she explained some things. Now we have been engaged for a while and I find out that they are closer than I realized and he seems to want her in his life even though we are getting married soon. I am not sure I trust their friendship. I am not comfortable with them hanging out either.
2006-12-09 14:52:31 · 7 answers · asked by shuntae28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think what you feel is normal. It is hard for most people to trust a friendship between male and female, but it's not always go that way.
Has he done anything with his friend to break your trust? Say, if he hasn't, then you need to make peace with it. You don't want to put your fiace on the spot because he will never be able to choose comfortably. Two of my best guy friends also have GF and we have the same exact problem you are having, but I try to commmunicate with their GF more--hang out and stuff, so that I can be their friends too, and yes, once they get to know me, they are fine with it.
It is also your BF's job to connect his friend and you together. So talk to your BF about it without emotional stuff and try to be open-minded. I love all my guy friends and that now I also love their fiances.....
oh..one more thing: you guys are getting married soon, so better figure this out before tying the knot...seriously..trust issue is huge.
2006-12-09 14:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm female and most of my friends are from the opposite sex. I guess its a natural feeling for their girlfriends or fiancees to be jealous but in time when they get to know the best friend of their partner then there would be no resentment. I understand that you don't want to share him with anyone . As his friend the best friend should know her limits especially now that the guy is involved. A true friend would not want to be the cause of her friend's troubles or worry. It would be wise for you to inform your fiancee about your feelings so he could talk to his friend.
2006-12-09 15:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by allanbabes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that now you are getting married, he should not be hanging out alone with her. If she is such a good friend then he shouldn't mind seeing her together with you. Tell him how you feel, and that you feel uncomfortable with the situation. Explain that you don't expect him to cut her out of his life, but he can compromise by you going with if they do see each other. Suggest that she maybe bring a boyfriend along and you can go out as a foursome.......
2006-12-09 15:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by salstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should not be another women in his life that is closer to him than you. PERIOD!
2006-12-09 15:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how would he handle it if you had a similar guy friend?
2006-12-09 15:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say u should talk to him but he shouldnt do that to u
2006-12-09 15:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Bullzye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so...
2006-12-09 14:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Topher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋