IF both spouses work, and men have to help around house, shouldn't women have to help work on car, mower, etc.

Question

for all you who pre-judge me, your'e wrong, i work so my wife can stay at home with no children and take it easy besides the household chores, while i do the mechanical work and fixing things around house.... FYI.

Answer 1

you know it

Answer 2

Well, I for one have some experience with fixing cars, woodworking and fixing bicycles, my bf is still learning the ropes when it comes to the bike mechanics, pure physics, and I usually have to fine tune it for him, and set the brakes up, or he goes without and once in a while I have to yell at him for cutting hard plastic with my new bandsaw, his excuse being "what, I never used one before, how am I supposed to know?" Floored me, let me tell ya. But as for the cars, that really does take the strength of a man, and I don't fancy hitting my knuckles off a steel block every time the damn wrench slips, not to mention how attractive black grease looks under a lady's fingernails....although I love a guy with dirty hands, by this I mean they still look dirty even after several washes. I have 3 kids and the only thing I expect my man to do around the house is take the garbage out on thursday. As much as we all like equality, let's face it, I'm an exception.Women do a better job in the house, and a guy does a better job at the ones that take strength and require a certain amount of hardiness to endure elements that are usually wet and cold long enough to get the job done. Thank god enough of us still understand where we do the most good, or all the women would be walking, all the men would be eating out of cans over the sink, and everyone's lawn would be 3 feet high!!!!!

Answer 3

Okay in your hypothetical situation you are making the assumption that the woman in this scenario has the knowledge to repair a car, mow a lawn and do things that are generally considered "men's work"...I grew up in a family where my father never taught me how to mow a lawn and I never got the chance to even drive. I suffer from seizures now so I can't even drive a car much less work on one.

So if I were the woman in this scenario would you want me to attempt to work on your car or mow the lawn?? I think you might be scared at the outcome of either of those situations.

In my situation, I have five kids that I stay home with. I am completely housebound because I have a seizure disorder and my meds make me pretty sick. I get migraines alot too. My husband works full time to support us all but he still has to come home and help me out whenever he can because of my health problems. Do you see that as a problem?

The way I look at it, both partners in any marriage should do whatever they can to help each other out and make things easier for one another. If the spouse can help the other with household chores that is great...on the other hand if the wife as you suggested can help with yard work, that is great too. Before I got sick I was helping my husband out by shoveling his car out so he could get to work. I would also rake leaves to clean up the lawn.

Marriage is about compromises and doing what you can to make things work...

Answer 4

I am a stay at home mom of 3, I do most of the house work with some help from my husband and my children,I do not work on my van (my husband is an auto technician ),I only mowed the grass maybe 3 times since we are married, we both take out the trash, and no even if we both worked I would still do most of the house work because I am very picky,but with help from everybody things get done faster.If my husband stayed home he would do housework,but I still would do most of it.

Answer 5

if she has the know how, i, as a woman,say yes. marriage is a partnership. if she'd only make a worse problem then no it's not a god idea. i work and take care of my house several pets my lawn and whatever else that needs doing. my husband pitches in occassionally but it's usually just me and that's okay with me at least it's done right the first time

Answer 6

i dont work, and i help mow the lawn in the summers, i am the one that has to remind hubby to change the oil, or whatever i think is wrong with the vehicle. Hubby does load the dishes sometimes, i do the laundry, cook, clean, vacumn, take my daughter to school, and pick her up. if both spouses work it should be equal or split, one day you do it, the next day the other.

Answer 7

I think every marriage needs to be able to negotiate and compromise on responsibilities. That's a far more important skill than cooking, mechanics, etc.

Whatever works best and makes both partners happy is how it should be done.

Answer 8

I know what you mean in your explanation...but...if women want to help their husbands or boyfriends with the mechanical things, they can...just don't make them...ok?
By the way, that's very nice of you letting your wife stay home a relax...you must be a pretty nice guy...

Signed,
Riley's Girl

Answer 9

As far as working on the car goes, I assume you mean repairing it? If she has no knowledge of automotive repair, her getting under the hood could be more costly than if you did it yourself, or took it in for service. As far as mowing the lawn goes, when I was married, I loved mowing the lawn and gardening. Maybe she could wash the car or take it and vacuum it out.

Answer 10

Not necessarily. If the doing those things is something thst the husband wants then the wife should submit, but from the sound of you, I think it would take alot of prayer to submit to you if you are making that type of comparison about house work. My husband helps me in the house. We both cook and I do Not work on cars. That is not my thing. If house cleaning is not your thing, hire someone to help your wife.

Answer 11

Your question sounds antagonistic. You help around the house because you care -- not because you feel you have to. I am the only source of income in my home and I still help out around the house. It's important to do it so that you don't end up making people feel like it's beneath you.

Your home life will be happier if you get rid of "should". If you help because you care and you want to help, then your woman will get the message and she will likely respond in kind and help you out with things. But if she doesn't, who cares? You help out around the house and I'll bet it will improve your sex life. If it's already good then it'll be more likely to stay good or maybe it will get better.

You'll be a happier man for helping out. Just focus on that part and don't worry about what she "should" be doing.

Good luck to you.