I have gone to school with these guys since elementary school and I have never had a boyfriend. All my other friends seem to have boyfriend and boyfriend but I never had. I don't think I am ugly and I have a sunny disposition. I just wish guys would notice me like they notice those popular girls who are double zeros and look perfect. i need advice...or just some comforting words.
2006-12-09 14:44:14 · 27 answers · asked by delvkm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i dont want a boyfriend just cuz my friends have one. i want a companion...a best GUY friend who is there and likes me for me.
2006-12-09 15:05:08 · update #1
Just give it time. You don't say how old you are but there's no reason to be in a hurry. Be happy and confident and things will happen in their own time.
They always do.
2006-12-09 14:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there honey,
I know how you feel, I was there 10 years ago. I'm 24 now. The best advice that I can offer you is to not really look at the popular girls becuase most times those popular girls are doing stuff that will keep young guys around. I know how it feels to want a guy and there is one out there for you. What I would do is first 1. Find out who you are and what you like and what you have to offer a guy. 2. Fix yourself up. If you don't have alot of money it's ok, guys like girls who fix themselves up and look nice. Try something new with your hair, keep your nails done, look NEAT and classy. If you present yourself in a nice and classy manner you will meet and guy who will treat you like a lady. If you present yourself with short and really tight cloths, you will meet a guy wh will treat you negatively or who will want something short term. I graduated in 2000 and most of the popular girls got pregnant right after high school. Some didn't finish college. Don't look at the popular girls, work on your presentation and work on finding out what you have to offer.
2006-12-09 22:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Reghan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it so much right now. By the way you wrote your question, it sounds like you are too young to concern yourself with serious relationships. Wait until you are in college to even think about serious relationships. The right guy will come around when the time is right...be patient.
If you feel like this will not work for you, "take the bull by the horns." You should take the initiative to ask the guy out. Be blunt...guys don't necessarily pick up hints very well. It is okay for the girl to make the first move...in fact some guys like it when girls do this. Good luck.
2006-12-09 22:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im a size 8 and a pretty awkward person. All my life people told me i was sooo much prettier than everyone else around me. But it took me until the very end of my sophomore year to get a boyfriend. Guys may just be scared of you, thats how it is with me, they go after the sluts and forget about the nice girls. Just hang in there, and dont settle. Maybe all this time will just lead you to the guy thats perfect for you.
2006-12-09 22:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by pretty_little_disaster 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, hun, Dont be so hard on yourself! Just because you dont have a bf doesn't mean u a nerd or a loser, you just havn't met the right guy. He'll come, u just wait. Also, hang out with ur friends b/c once u get a bf u will have less time for anyone else.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-09 22:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by ~HockeyChik~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have this total fear of rejection at that age, so they go for the ones who seem like they'd be a sure thing. The "popular" girls as such may be popular because they come off as "easy."
Don't go changing yourself in that respect to be easy, but do think about how approachable you are. If there is a particular boy you'd like to date, then think about how you could signal your interest in a lady-like fashion without coming across as easy.
If he then asks you out, you'll know the attraction was mutual.
Good luck.
2006-12-09 23:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first thing be patient, most people that have bf and gf normally have bf or gf with people they have not known since elementary, all my bfs (about 4) have never seen me before, liked me same thing in high school.
Here is a tip, try meeting new people, join clubs and attend sports and stuff like that, most likely you get a boyfriend that have the same interest as you, so they will like you. That his how I met two of my bf from band....
Good Luck
2006-12-09 22:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like you back in high school and never really had a girlfriend, until I realized that I was the one doing things wrong. I thought that girls didn't like me because they didn't ask me out or anything. I was wrong, I just wasn't outgoing and confident enough. Today, I go to girls and they tell me they liked me all along. You just gotta be confident and go talk to the guys and who knows someone maybe likes you...
2006-12-09 22:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about flirting and confidence.
There is nothing wrong with getting a boyfriend, but have you never thought about it from the lads point of view. hey probably do fancy you, but they are too afraid of rejection.
I know for me, I always wonder if she fancies me and have lost out, because I didn't act on it.
Get one of your friends to set you up with someone, e.g, her boyfriends best mate. Or if there is someone you fancy, leave him a note somewhere, asking him to meet you in a certain location, but don't let him know who sent it.
Curiousity will get the better of him and he will go and meet yo.
2006-12-09 23:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry i feel your pain. i havent had a boyfriend in so long. i feel lonely and i know im not perfect but ive had a lot of advice from friends and family... they all said that when you try really hard to get a boyfriend then your not going to get one but when you just relax and have a good time youll get what you want because ive been doing that and its been working.
2006-12-09 22:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by destiny_da_woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋