Is infertility sometimes nature's will?

Question

My fiance's sister-in law is going to start fertility treatment since she hasn't been able to conceive for 3 years now. The sister-in law was warned NOT to go through with by her Mom. The well meaning mother told her that it was nature's (or God's) way that not everyone should have children. She stated that often if fertility is induced medically that the child won't be normal and will be a burden for life. Myself I think this was a bit cruel( and maybe old fashioned) , but the Mom is very wise and is seldom wrong. Is there any truth to this? Is infertility natures (or God's) way of preventing unhealthy offspring?????Thanks

@Alrahcam: You must be psychic because her Mom said that she was being "paid back" for her use of the pill during school and her career.

Answer 1

Her mother is right to some extent. Everything & anything happening in the universe has a reason and justification. In the present senario, man is not allowing the nature to take its own course. There comes the whole problem. For example, a couple may want to plan their family and hence adopt some sort of preventive methords for some time. As a consequence to this they may not get children when they actually want. In such a case, since the cause is due to human intervension - its not right to expect the nature to correct it.

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Answer 3

If I could get my hands on that mother, I would shake her to pieces for saying such things. People who say things like this make me absolutely livid. It's very cruel and unfair to pile more guilt, more pain, onto someone who is already suffering. How could it possibly be God's will that women who WANT children can't have them while crack addicts and teenagers can?

Infertility is not God's way of punishing us, nor is it anything we did that causes infertility. Infertility affects one out of every 8 couples of child-producing age. That's right...1 of every 8. There is a good chance that everyone will know someone who is infertile at some point in their life.

IF can be caused by something as simple as having a hormone level a little bit off - just the tiniest bit can cause huge problems, like cysts, or not ovulating at all. It can also be something as huge as scarred tubes, or being born with a septated uterus. That's right...a birth defect.

The child will be perfectly normal - at least, as normal as any other child she would have conceived on her own. ARTs (assisted reproductive technologies) are not linked to any known birth defects, other than what the parents already carry the propensity for. The child will also not be a burden for life - or it wouldn't be a billion dollar industry.

If it were God's way of preventing unhealthy offspring, there would be no handicapped children. All of those parents would be infertile or sterile from birth.

Mom may be wise and seldom wrong - but in this case, she's dead wrong. She's not thinking, or researching, she's just reacting...and poorly, at that. Infertility is not a punishment, or birth control - it's just something that happens to a LOT of people. I just spend 2 months writing up a fully researched essay on infertility and I would be more than happy to pass it along.

Answer 4

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infertility can run in the family and one of the first things the doctor asks you when you go to a fertility clinic is your family history regarding cases of infertility or other reproductive issues.
If infertility is caused by genetic disorder then it's not unusual that one of the kids (your mom) doesn't have it and another does (your aunt).
two months of trying is still to early to be concerned about the fact that you might be infertile and it's also quite early to go to a fertility specialist. Go to a regular Obgyb to get a closer insight and see what ways there are are to improve your fertility rate.
Also remove alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes from your life because they might influence your chances too. Stress is also a risk factor when it comes to infertility.

Answer 5

There are reasons for everything though this woman’s mother was rather cruel even if she was expressing her personnel believes. I do think sometimes God doesn’t give people children the natural way in hopes they will go out and adopted a child(ren) that needs them which does happen. Agian sometimes it just not the right time

Most children made via fertility drugs are just a normal and health as those made the “natural” way. However if your getting IVF done sometimes you can have multiply babies and sometimes they may develop health problems but usual they will eventually grow out of them. I know a couple who had quads sometime back and one of them had to use crutches for a time.

Answer 6

Infertility can be caused by a huge number of factors: hormone imbalance, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Endometriosis, Anovulatory Cycles, physical blockage, inadequate hormone production, short luteal phase, lack of lutenizing hormone, high levels or prolactin, and many others. How to get pregnant https://tr.im/ky51y

Poor nutrition often plays a major role, as does exposure to toxins. Age plays less of a role before menopause than was originally thought. While there are many wonderful naturally minded fertility specialists out there, in many cases it is not possible for them to test for and address any of these possible underlying issues.

Answer 7

I don't know anything about God's will (it would be very presumptive of me to think that I do), and the causes of infertility are sometimes a mystery. I find it sad, however, that your soon-to-be sister in law is planning on spending thousands of dollars on an elective procedure (meaning, rarely covered by insurance) when that money could be spent adopting an existing child who needs a home and love just as much. In my opinion (and this is JUST my opinion), infertility procedures speak more towards the selfishness of the parents wanting a child of their own genetic blending rather than simply a child to love and raise.

Answer 8

Goodness no! i comprehend a lot of human beings that ought to or must be childless if that were the case, believe me! "The rain falls on the only and the unjust alike". Pray to God to grant you the peace on your heart and information to face this. For all you comprehend, you should concieve once you stop attempting so troublesome. also, evaluate adoption. there are this kind of vast quantity of youngsters accessible in favor of loving mom and father, somewhat those who're now not toddlers. i comprehend toddlers are remarkable, yet as a determine you eventually end up feeling like you could not wait till they're slightly older anyhow and ought to sleep with the help of the nighttime, are potty educated, ect... Love is truly the in elementary words element that concerns, not whose D.N.A. contributed to the creation of the youngster, or whose womb they spent their fetushood in.

Answer 9

Um, that's messed up of her mom to basically say God made her barren b/c she'd suck as a mom. If that were true, my crazy SIL wouldn't be pregnant w/ her 6th.

Sometimes that may be the case, but it's really not within anyone's power to discern WHEN that is true! Couldn't it be that God gave us the technology in modern medicine to make it POSSIBLE for seemingly barren women to conceive?

My twins were Clomid twins, and they are both perfectly healthy and I love them to pieces!! Of course there are times when a child will seem like a burden, but then you watch them do something new or cute and you totally forget about those feelings!

Wish your future SIL the best and try to reassure her that God still loves her :)

Answer 10

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