My husband and I live in different states do you think our marriage will work?

Question

I moved to NC from Kansas due to work, my husband stayed in Kansas until he could find a job here, but its been three months and he is still there, just wandering if it will work out.

Answer 1

How is he going to find a job in NC if he is still in Kansas? I hope he is actively posting his resume to monster.com or getting leads on jobs in NC. He may be hesitant on giving up a good job in Kansas to see how your job in NC is going to work out. Good jobs are too hard to find nowadays and if he makes more money than you, he should keep it and you should go home and find another job in Kansas.

You and he are the only ones that know if your particular situation will work out. We have no idea of the mechanics of your marriage. You should be talking to your husband and trying to keep things together instead of asking strangers on the internet if your marriage will work,

Answer 2

Your husband and you have been apart for 3 months? and you don't know if your marriage will work? At this stage I'd say no. My husband was away from me for 2 weeks and when we finally did get to see each other, he did me on the motel bathroom floor! (we couldn't do it in the bed because my daughter was in there) he was so happy to see me, but anyway. I think I'd be scamming the papers and find him a job, even if it was not at "his" level, then if he won't take it, he's got something going on at home that he doesn't want you to know about. Drop back home for a visit, without telling him. See what you find. Hopefully you havn't been sending him so much money that he can party hardy while you are busting your butt working. Anyway, drop back where he is and see what you find. That will tell you if you got a real marriage or not.

Answer 3

I do not know what the Job market is like in NC, but you need to make sure that there is no lack of effort on his part. Unless he is an internet junkie like myself, you may need to be the one who does most of the searching for him. Either that or you may have to go back to Kansas to find a new Job yourself. Don't go too long being separated while married. It will just open the doors for bad things to happen.

Answer 4

if you love each other then yes it will work out. Nothing comes in between two people who are in love. Me and my husband had to go through a similar thing. He worked in Kansas while i was preg in and staying in texas sometimes i didnt see him for 3 or 4 months at a time. Things finally worked out. It made us alot stronger and our relationship was alot better. It all depends on you guys. If you want it to work it will. He will eventually find a job and if he dosent then one of you need to make a sacrifice in order to be together. Dont let money and work come in between you guys. but you were married for better or for worse this may seem like this is the worst time but it will get better i promise. It will all work out if you will just let it. good luck

Answer 5

I’m sure it will once he finds a job. When my brother got a job his family was all living in Texas, well he had to start right away but wanted to let the kids finish the school year at their schools. So they didn’t move till about 4 months later, though they visited on weekends and stuff

Is your finical situation difficult that he couldn’t quit his job move to where you are at and continue his job hunt?. I know finding a job is sometimes pretty hard I had a friend who was let go and she didn’t find another job for almost a year.

Answer 6

What field of work is he in that he can't find a job in NC? I think if he loved you he wold have moved by now. Even working fast food would be better than living without your wife. And I live in Missouri so I know that fast food is always available in KS. If he is physically capable then casinos pay even better. Either way, I'd rather be unemployed than away from my wife for two months.

Answer 7

I don't see why it wouldn't work out. My husband is in the Army and is in Iraq right now....he's been there 2 months, has another 10 months to go and I'm here waiting for him. He's my life and we haven't had any problems. Communication, love and trust will get you through it!

Hope this helps!

Answer 8

Sweetie, if you don't believe in God then don't get mad, but I have to say "God Bless YOU!" and good luck.
I believe that I wouldn't be happy in the situation you're in because romantic love fades and isn't made stronger by distance, unless you KNOW he respects your marriage vows. I would worry that being apart from you will make him reconsider the bachelor life- no matter what pretty, romantic words he may say to soothe your worry.
"Marry for sympathy and friendship" is all I can say. I hope you are safe and happy at the job you had to move for! Good luck!

Answer 9

in the beginning the two certainly one of you're truly youthful. it form of appears like he's attempting to place you in a concern of marrying you in hopes of tying you down, and you no longer having the flexibility thus far every physique else whilst he's away in school. additionally, he could be annoyed in case you're sticking to the no intercourse rule. i might say decide for it, yet there does not look any concrete plans in place. i ought to determine in case you will have been the two saving money mutually and interior a year or so which you and your daughter might pass there. How many times do you get to determine one yet another? i think of you will possibly desire to talk with him approximately this, because of fact that's evident which you have some reservations approximately this, and you have extra to think of roughly than in basic terms your self. in case you talk with him and he gets truly disillusioned, and extremely very nearly to the factor of in all probability breaking it off, possibly it relatively is terrific which you permit him bypass. If that happens, you need to apply this time to concentration on you and your daughter and set up your self.

Answer 10

The longer that you are apart the worse it is. If he doesn't come soon, he will get use to being apart from you and that is not what you want. Have him move there and just work it out. Trust me, it happened to me and I thought we were tighter than a jar or peanut butter. But, I was wrong. Don't wait, have him move ther as soon as possible or get use to life with out each other.