just caught my hubby cheat..any idea what i can do?

Question

any guy want to chatemail me: [e-mail]

Answer 1

a cheater will cheat again.

Answer 2

Depends totally on you. I knew a gal who was having an assignation with a guy, didn't know he was married, & he called her that his "wife" had just found out, he was on his way home because she was throwing all his clothes in the front yard. He wanted his lover to call his wife & "cover" for him, which she didn't. But after the phone rang for five hours, she finally picked up & was confronted by the wife. The "other woman" said it was between THEM & for the wife to believe or not to believe. Then, she said that she asked: "What would you do if he HAD?" This is precious! The wife said: "Well, I'd either divorce him, kill him, or get a divorce." (I'm not quoting exactly.) The thing is, she had been "cheating" with him on his THIRD wife. Of course this isn't your case, but I have to say that in my experience, a married man who has an affair ONCE, will do so again. You haven't given any details, I know nothing about either of you, so I won't suggest counseling, a good talk, divorce or forgiveness. This has to be your choice, & very, very carefully evaluated. Too many unknowns for me to presume to give you an "idea" what to do--except to, based on all factors, (children, age, length of marriage, finances, your degree of tolerance & whether you can ever trust him again), give this a good, deep think before you do ANYTHING.

Answer 3

Is he still alive???? If so take everything that he owns and put it in the garage. When he pleads to come home again, make him sleep in the garage. But your best bet would be to a good lawyer. Also go to the bank the first thing Monday morning(do a Little withdraw) and open your own checking account. Also call the credit card company, tell them someone stole your wallet with the all your credit cards in it. That you will need new number(new cards). That will teach him not to play,if he can't pay!

Answer 4

It depends on what kind of person YOU are. First of all, you need to be more specific. Does he know you know? What did you 'catch' him do? How long have you two been married? For me, cheating is a BIG offense, and I would divorce, but this is your choice. You can divorce, you can talk with him and then decide what to do, or you can go to a counselor (alone or the both of you). If you're religious, divorce might not seem like a good option, but... This really depends on what he did. Sex? I would divorce. Anything smaller, I would just go to a marriage counselor.

Answer 5

Well, first of all...I don't condone infidelity at all. And more so, if he's a womanizer kick his butt to the curb! However, as flat as a pancake is, it always had two sides. So, you need to ask yourself if there are underlying issue at home that may have pushed him away?! Are there other things wrong in your marriage that you guys have not worked on?? Please don't think I'm sticking up for "him" .....but this is never an easy answer! Its easy to say "Leave him/her" but until your in that situation with children and family involved and years of of invested time in your marriage....only you can answer your OWN question. Good luck and so sorry to hear. Bad time of the year! PRAYERS!

Answer 6

Confront it head first and keep cool, don't let anger cloud your judgment. Talk things through and make sure your decision is not one to regret later in life. The worst thing you can do is get ruthless and act out with hate. You are hurting, yes- but after the hurt comes reality, don't do anything foolish that can endanger your life or freedom. I am speaking generally of course. Life does go on, and things may seem grim. Just remember, For every action there is an opposite & equal reaction. Good luck to you and takecare.

Answer 7

Time to decide whether or not you wish to cut your losses. Depending on how many years you two have been married. You will have to live with this infidelity for the rest of your life and probably have reoccuring dreams about it. Are you ready to deal with that? If you forgive him that's fine, but it's harder to forget what happened. Not only that but trust will also be an issue here. Could you ever trust him again, not knowing where he is at all times? Much easier to cut your losses now and start over. I did and I'm much happier with someone new.

Answer 8

My answer depends on how long you've been married, and what's all at stake. Personally, I don't take it lightly, and would leave. I believe if you've gone out of your relationship, for whatever the reason, it's simply because your spouse is not providing you with something, and you aren't communicating this to them anyways. If you have a long time invested in this marriage, you may want to see if you can make it work. Either way, a marriage counselor is in order.

Answer 9

Yeah, divorce him. Betrayal is THE deal-breaker in a marriage, kids or no kids. And even with help, it will be more than two years to heal your marriage, and that's even if you both want to rebuild the trust, and that is with no guarantee..... Betrayal --- when mine did that, I about vomited in his fact, left, never to return. The very idea that he shared his body and soul with another woman just made my stomach turn...... I was repulsed to even think I'd let him touch me again. My admiration, respect, passion and trust for him blew up right in front of me. If you can forgive that one, hey, good for you, sweetie. But "Once a cheater......" and you can not unscramble an egg. You can make something else with that egg, but you can't unscramble it.......

Answer 10

If he has sex toys, find poisen oak or ivy and making sure to protect your hands, get the oil of the plant on them really well. put them back just like they were. Next time him and his ho go at it, they'll both get a rash down below, think it's an STD, think the other cheated on THEM, and probably have a huge fight and break up.
Enjoy!

Answer 11

Check his computer page history to see if he may be on a dating site.
Here's a story that explains why you should do that:
When i was little when i went through the web page history and
i found that my dad was on a dating site and was trying to cheat
on mom and he got caught.