it kinda weird asking random strangers their opionion on this. but people have called me gay before. its mainly because I flirt with guys. however. I don't realy want a sexual relation ship with them... only girls. so wats ur opionion on my orientation?
2006-12-09 14:12:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi,
I personally do not think "wanting a sexual relationship with either gender" defines a person's oritentation. I also do not think "flirting with the same gender" means a person is homosexual.
Are you attracted to both men and women, just men, or just women? By "attracted to", I do not mean just sexually attracted to him/her/them (although intimacy does play a role in a relationship). I meant are you mentally and emotionally attracted to him/her/them...attractions and feelings that are more than just wanting/willing to sleep with him/her/them.
Even though there is a general definition in the dictionary for each orientation, I think only you can come up with "your" definition of homosexuality, heterosexuality, and bisexuality, since everyone's perspectives are different. I do not want to judge or label you base on three sentences of description.
Another thing, if it bothers you when people call you "gay", I think you should assertive voice your opinion to let them know.
Good luck
2006-12-09 14:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Cinna B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is typically motivated by wanting attention from another...so you want attention from "the boys". What you do about it sexually is your business. If you're wondering if you're gay...only you can answer that. You might want to examine some situations and your feelings. For instance: How would you feel if you received a postive response from guys...if they flirted back? Do you feel a physical relationship with a guy could or would be of interest to you? Either way...you may have to face your feelings, especially if you keep flirting with guys. I would be helpful for you...if you already have a game plan on how you intend to respond. (A word to the wise: Imagine how you would feel if a girl flirts with you...but has no intentions of dating or going out with you. Not a good thing.)
2006-12-09 14:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Serena M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fairly simple, if you are not the least bit interested in shoving your ___ into his ___ or vice versa, then you're not gay. Flirting with members of the same gender is bizarre, for someone who is not gay, and deserves comment. Question is, are you flirting, that is to say being secretive (less than openly public), seductive, intentionally over-friendly in a manner that suggests to the recipient a desire for a more intimate knowledge, or are you just seeking a meaningful friendship, one that goes beyond "how's the weather", and perhaps getting a little bit close to some gray areas in the process?
2006-12-09 14:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by I think, therefore I broke it? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay or bi doesn't necessarily have to mean you want a sexual relationship with them. I think you probably just want attention and so you flirt with anything that moves (like me, totally nothing to be ashamed of). So whenever people ask me if I'm a dyke or bi (they never ask if I'm straight), I just tell them I don't define myself as anything. It confuses people, which is fun. ^_^
2006-12-09 18:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Dark_Night 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would be considered bi-curious. You like women but if given the opportunity, I think you would partake in having a relationship with a male. You flirt with guys because you are attracted to them in sort of way. Nothing to be ashamed of. Just be you.
2006-12-09 14:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it if u flirt with guys ur bi but thats not bad at all u are who u are
2006-12-09 14:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by jerrell'sz_bOO. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-12-09 15:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you flirt with guys, you're bicurious. If you kiss one, you're bi.
2006-12-09 14:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by 1love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋